Mother-in-Law Wants to Host an Online Memorial for My Miscarriage, AITA for Refusing?

A woman who recently suffered a miscarriage is being called “cold and unfeeling” by her mother-in-law for refusing to hold an online memorial service for the pregnancy. Despite not feeling emotionally attached to the pregnancy, the woman’s MiL is devastated and wants to invite a large group of family members to the virtual service.

The woman’s husband is caught in the middle of the dispute and is already stressed from dealing with his grieving mother. The woman is seeking advice on whether or not she is in the wrong for refusing the memorial service .

Read on to find out more about this difficult family situation.

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Losing a child is one of the most difficult experiences a parent can face. But what happens when the mother doesn’t feel the same level of grief as the rest of the family members? In this post_text, a woman’s mother-in-law wants to host an online memorial for her miscarriage, but the woman is not upset about it at all. She refused to let it happen, and now her mother-in-law is calling her cold and unfeeling.

The woman feels that she wasn’t attached to the pregnancy, and it’s the equivalent of crying over her period every month. This has caused tension between her and her husband, who is stressed out from dealing with his mother’s grief. The woman is questioning whether she’s in the wrong for not wanting to go through with the memorial .

Readers are left wondering if the mother-in-law is being too pushy, or if the woman is being insensitive. Stay tuned for the comments and reactions to this controversial topic.

A discussion on grieving and personal preference after a pregnancy loss.

Mother-in-law’s insensitive behavior towards grieving OP sparks backlash.

Mother-in-law’s pushy behavior met with justified backlash. ‍♀️

NTA for refusing MIL’s request, OP needs to set boundaries

Mother-in-law’s insensitive proposal for miscarriage memorial, NTA’s response.

Learn about Ring Theory for grief support, not MIL’s comfort.

Respectful support for personal grieving; MIL needs to back off.

Commenter defends OP’s decision, with humorous comparison

Respect your boundaries, NTA.

Commenter sympathizes with mother-in-law but defends OP’s decision, NTA.

NTA. Miscarriage is a sensitive topic, MIL should respect that.

MIL wants a memorial for your miscarriage. NTA for refusing

Mother-in-law’s selfishness causes distress, commenter says.

Grieving should be WITH, not TO a person. NTA.

Respectful NTA comment shuts down excessive mother-in-law proposal

Mother-in-law’s insensitive proposal for miscarriage, NTA for refusing

Empathetic response shuts down insensitive mother-in-law.

Don’t let anyone hijack your grief. You’re NTA

Respectful NTA comment suggests MIL wants memorial for herself

Mother-in-law’s proposed memorial is all about her, NTA for refusing

User finds it odd that mother-in-law wants to host a memorial

MIL making it about herself, NTA for refusing

Respectful NTA comment, mother-in-law insulted OP. Keep pregnancy private.

Mother-in-law oversteps boundaries, NTA for refusing online memorial.

Mother-in-law is being selfish, NTA for refusing ‍♀️

Miscarriage is a sensitive topic, NTA for declining MIL’s offer.

Grieving parents should have full control over how to process loss ❤️

NTA. MIL needs therapy. You don’t owe her anything

Mother-in-law plans secret online memorial for OP’s miscarriage, NTA.

Respectful NTA comment shuts down inappropriate mother-in-law proposal

Compassionate comment offers support and advises setting boundaries with MIL

Don’t let anyone guilt-trip you, NTA

Setting boundaries with MIL after miscarriage, NTA

Mil oversteps boundaries, NTA stands firm

MIL’s behavior is unfathomably awful, NTA ‍♀️

MIL tries to host a memorial for miscarriage, NTA for refusing

Commenter’s reaction to a boundary-stomping mother-in-law

Respectful NTA comment showcases importance of personal mourning process.

Agree with NTA comment, but let’s keep the language clean

Setting boundaries with in-laws, ‍ ‍ ‍

Grief is personal. Sharing it publicly can be overwhelming. NTA

Agreed! MIL is way out of line

Miscarrying is tough, but it’s okay to be okay.

Miscarriage is a personal experience. You decide how to cope.

User calls out mother-in-law’s weird behavior, NTA.

Respectful NTA declines mother-in-law’s invasive offer for public memorial.

Mother-in-law’s insensitive request adds insult to injury. NTA.

You have the right to grieve on your own terms ❤️

Setting boundaries with grieving MIL, NTA but empathize

Respectful NTA comment shuts down mother-in-law’s cringey suggestion

Validation for choosing to grieve privately, NTA

MiL’s insensitive request for a miscarriage memorial: NTA

Your miscarriage, your rules. NTA for setting boundaries

Respectful boundaries are important for grieving process.

Setting boundaries with MIL for future child, NTA.

NTA. The mother-in-law’s coping mechanism is messed up

Respectful NTA comment. Mother-in-law should back off. ‍♀️

MIL’s inappropriate request deserves a gentle but firm response ‍♀️

NTA. Miscarrying is a difficult experience and personal.

Take time to grieve. Your mother-in-law should support you ❤️

MiL’s behavior is selfish and odd, NTA OP

User warns OP to keep an eye on MIL for ‘baby rabies’

Grieving mother refuses MIL’s offer for a memorial, receives unwanted advice.

Setting boundaries with mother-in-law after miscarriage, NTA.

Setting boundaries is important, NTA for refusing MIL’s proposal.

Respectful NTA commenter validates OP’s feelings and boundaries

MIL’s idea of hosting memorial is not helping, ‍♀️

Protecting private medical info, NTA for refusing MIL’s request.

MIL trying to host online memorial for miscarriage, NTA.

Grieving is personal. MIL overstepped, NTA for refusing.

Commenter expresses shock and disbelief at mother-in-law’s behavior

Setting boundaries with a grieving mother-in-law

Mother-in-law’s strange request for online memorial after miscarriage, NTA

Respect your loved ones’ way of grieving. NTA

Your loss, not hers. Set boundaries and prioritize your healing ❤️