Did I Cross the Line by Not Letting My Boyfriend’s Roommate Come to Thanksgiving?

Thanksgiving dinner with family is important to me, but my boyfriend asked if his roommate could come too. I said no, and now he’s upset. I understand his kindness, but I need this event to be just him, me, and my family . Am I being reasonable or A**hole?

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Meeting the family for Thanksgiving is a big deal, but what happens when your boyfriend wants to bring his roommate? In this post, a woman shares her dilemma and decision to not invite her boyfriend’s military roommate. The boyfriend is upset, but is she the a**hole? Read on to find out and see the updates on the situation .

NAH. The boyfriend’s military bond with his roommate is understandable, but it’s OP’s family event and she can set whatever boundaries she wants. It’s reasonable for her to want the first meeting between her family and her boyfriend to have a certain amount of gravitas, and having a stranger along might ruin that vibe. NTA.

NTA. It’s reasonable to not want a near-stranger at a family holiday, especially when meeting the family for the first time. ‍♀️

Saying no to a last-minute invite from a stranger. NTA.

Boyfriend’s last minute demands and manipulation raise red flags

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First impressions matter – NTA for prioritizing boyfriend’s comfort

Standing up for yourself is important. Pay attention to his reaction. (NTA)

Hosting a stranger on Thanksgiving? NTA, your family your rules

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First impressions matter, and no notice means no invite. NTA

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Thanksgiving is for family, not strangers ‍ ‍ ‍

Commenter defends OP’s decision not to invite roommate with empathy.

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Setting boundaries is important, NTA for not inviting roommate ‍♀️

Introducing your boyfriend to family is intimate. NTA.

OP is NTA for not inviting boyfriend’s roommate to Thanksgiving ‍♀️

Can’t just invite someone to an event that’s not yours ‍♀️

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Boyfriend’s insecure roommate wants to crash Thanksgiving? NTA.

First-time meeting the family, focus on the boyfriend not roommate

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Military culture emphasizes inviting others to celebrations. NAH for discomfort.

Excluding boyfriend’s roommate from Thanksgiving dinner – NTA.

Putting the relationship first. NTA

Choosing who to invite for Thanksgiving is allowed, NTA

Balancing family and significant other can be tough ‍♀️

You’re NTA for not inviting your boyfriend’s roommate for Thanksgiving

Curious about why the boyfriend hasn’t met family before

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Setting boundaries and sticking to them is important!

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Meeting the family is a big deal. NTA for setting boundaries.

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Not the a-hole for excluding boyfriend’s roommate from Thanksgiving