Imagine you’re in a committed relationship, and you’ve made it clear from the beginning that you’re not interested in having kids. Your partner, although initially desiring children, decides he can live without them for you. Then, during a family visit, a decade-old photo reveals you, heavily pregnant. The plot thickens when you disclose that you were a surrogate for your sister. How would your partner react? Let’s dive into this emotional rollercoaster of a story.
The ‘No-Kids’ Agreement
A Compromise Reached
The Unveiling of a Secret Past
The Surrogate Revelation ️♀️
The ‘Handy Oven’ Metaphor
The Aftermath of the Revelation
The Accusation and the Defense
The Apology and Reminder
The Lingering Disagreement
The Surrogacy Rules Explained
The Exception to the Rule
The Fear of Losing Rights ⚖️
A Relationship Tested by a Surrogate Past: Where Do They Stand Now? ♀️
In a relationship where the woman had been clear about not wanting kids, a shocking revelation of her surrogate past sends shockwaves. The boyfriend feels betrayed, thinking she had been willing to carry a child for her sister but not for him. Despite her explanation that being a surrogate was different from raising a child, and that this was a part of her past before they met, the boyfriend remains upset. As the dust settles, the question remains – was she wrong for not sharing this part of her past? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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NTA, but he wants kids and is in denial. ♀️
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“NTA, but he’s lying to himself. Relationship is doomed. “
YTA for hiding being a surrogate from your partner for years
NTA – Your partner’s confusion about your surrogate past.
Secret surrogate past causes relationship turmoil. YTA for hiding.
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NTA vs ESH: A rocky relationship with hidden surrogacy secret
ESH. He’s overreacting, but you should’ve been upfront about surrogacy. ♀️
YTA for keeping a major secret from your partner for years
NTA – Clear communication is key in relationships.
NTA: Your body, your choice. His reaction is manipulative bs
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NTA, but surprise pregnancy revelation tests relationship trust.
Secret surrogate past causes confusion and relationship strain. YTA.
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“YTA. Not disclosing your surrogate past breeds mistrust in relationships.”
ESH: Relationship on the rocks due to undisclosed surrogate past
Interesting perspective on the partner’s desire for kids.
End the relationship. He resents your decision. It won’t improve.
NTA – Clear communication is key in relationships.
Stick to your guns! You’re NTA for not wanting kids!
NTA. Your past, your choice.
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Surrogate stands up for herself, shuts down entitled partner.
A gentle YTA: Communication issues and the desire for transparency.
Engaging comment and potential relationship red flags, with a touch of cynicism
NTA. Your body, your choice. Don’t let him guilt-trip you.
