Woman Gets Angry When Fiancé Replaces Her Wedding Dress With One His Mom Picked Out

Ashley Hunte
Wedding Dress
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A wedding is between two people, and should be all about those two people. But some of our relatives don't seem to get the memo, and try to make someone else's big day all about themselves. Parents of the bride or groom often (but not always) try to make the wedding about them, especially if they happen to be footing the bill.

One woman's wedding was all but ruined by her future mother-in-law, who insisted she wears the dress she picked out for the wedding. When the woman refused, her fiancé swapped the dresses behind her back. The woman got mad, but decided to ask Reddit's Am I The Asshole sub if her reaction was wrong.

The woman shares her story, which is honestly kind of infuriating.

A woman tells the story about how she doesn't get along with her future MIL.
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The story continues, showing how much control MIL wants on the wedding.
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The user answers some FAQs, including how she's paying for the dress, and these issues began during the planning stage.
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The future mother-in-law seems to be incredibly entitled.

A lavish, white wedding gown in a bridal suite.
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OP talks about how her fiancé's mom has a certain "vision" for his wedding, and has been trying to control the whole event. The fiancé seems to be on his mom's side. When OP went dress shopping, she found a dress she loved. But future MIL picked one out, insisting that OP buys that one instead. When OP refused, future MIL got upset, told her son, and he got mad at OP.

A day later, OP found out that her fiancé returned the dress she bought and purchased the one his mom had picked out. She got mad, and the fiancé simply told her to give the dress a chance. OP talked to her own father about it, and he basically told her this wasn't worth ruining their relationship over.

But the comment section definitely thought that OP was right to react the way she did.

Users were weirded out by the MIL, and felt OP shouldn't have to go through with the wedding.
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Many users felt that the MIL having a "vision" for how her son's bride should look is just weird, and OP should get out of that relationship. It's pretty clear that the mom likes the idea of her son's wedding more than his happiness.

In fact, many users felt OP was being objectified by the MIL.

Some users discuss how the MIL sees OP as a prop instead of a person.
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The MIL has a vision for her son's whole life, and many users were quick to point out that it likely won't stop once the wedding is over.

Some even thought OP should replace her fiancé's tuxedo with a clown suit.

Some users joke about how OP should replace the fiancé's suit with a clown costume.
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Sure, they were (mostly) joking when they said that, but it almost feels like this is how OP should respond. After all, her husband-to-be is acting pretty clownish right now.