If rom-coms have taught us anything, it’s that women know what they’re looking for in a man .
According to the checklists we keep in our minds, he has to have a stable job, be financially secure, and be next in line to the royal throne. Easy peasy!
And if he meets this and more, that’s just the cherry on top of an already delicious sundae. Here, women share what their ‘bonuses’ are in a partner!
Good parents
This isn’t something your partner needs to have, but it’s so amazing when they do! After all, no one wants a toxic mother-in-law! These stories will certainly remind you of that fact.
Being strong enough to easily pick you up
“I’m on the taller side for a woman and rarely get picked up but when I do… Instant turn on. Regardless of gender, if you can fireperson carry me, you’ll be forever embedded in my memory.” – u/cats_and_tea7
Good cooking skills
A man who can cook is hella attractive! It takes the stress off of you to prepare all the meals now and down the line if you two decide to have kids. Plus, good food is delicious!
A job that you can use in some way
“I’ve dated a doctor and a mechanic before and it’s really usefull if you can just go ‘Hey babe, check out this weird rash’ or ‘Hey babe, my car is making weird noises. Go do something about it.'” -u/inveraveritas
A vasectomy
If you don’t want to have kids, this is the perfect bonus for a partner to have.
A man who already got snipped means that you don’t have to worry about pregnancy scares or, in some cases, even taking birth control anymore.
Cats
“Never trust anyone who doesn’t like cats. I’d much rather die an old maid with cats than have a semi ok relationship with a man. If you’re going to love me just know my cats are a part of the package.” – u/Worldly-Novel-7123
The same taste in music
How else are you going to agree on what music to play during long car rides?! By having the same taste in music, you can attend concerts together and swap favorites. You never have to worry about covering your ears to his music ever again!
A loving but distant relationship with their family
“My partners who have been very close with their families are always weirded out by the fact that while i love my family, we don’t need to talk every day or be in constant communication. someone with a more similar relationship would be a godsend.” – u/bitterprimadonna
A driver’s license
You’ll never realize how important this is until you date someone without a license. Then, you’re stuck taking the bus or taking Ubers all over the city, which is annoying and financially adds up.
The ability to play instruments
“My brothers both play and I enjoy hearing it a random. It just wouldn’t feel like home without it (still live with my parents rn, and my little brother practices) For some reason guys that play guitar are just especially hot to me.” – u/Notquite_Caprogers
A good job with an amazing work/life balance
What’s the point of your partner making a ton of money if you never have the chance to be together? It’s ideal for your partner to leave work at the office and be present during his time with you.
Being able or willing to dance
“I discovered how great dancing with your partner is when my bff and i danced together for fun. i tried it with my ex and it was so calming. a simple waltz is so fun and you get to gaze into their eyes, even better if they mess up their footwork and you playfully tease them.” – u/kazookid67
A tall height
While some women are perfectly fine dating a man who’s shorter than them or the same height, many Redditors have expressed how they prefer tall men. You can’t really blame them! Being with a tall guy means you can always wear heels!
A six-pack of abs
“I’m not big on body building or dudes having a lot of muscles, so if a guy is interested in me, and we hit it off and he takes his shirt off and there is a 6 pack, ooo boy. Tis a nice cherry on the ice cream. My bf has one and I just like to rub his stomach.” – u/doorstoplion
A high salary
Hey, this matters to some women! Judge all you want — it’s not hard to see why.
A man with a fat salary means more opportunities and fewer financial struggles. Just be certain that money isn’t the only reason you’re dating someone.
A dog!
“My fiancé’s dog is now my dog. He sleeps with me, he protects me from my fiancé (at least he pretends to so my fiancé will play with him), he cuddles up to me.” – u/huskeya4
Sexual compatibility
When you know, you know. This matters a lot more than people realize.
If one person is vanilla and the other is into some k***y stuff, it’s going to make for some uncomfortable times in the bedroom.
Veiny, muscular forearms
“I recently went on a first date and he wore a nice button up with the sleeves pushed up and he had just come from the gym and by god ladies I was about to break my own rules about s*x on the first date.” – u/SinfullySinless
Great hair
Let’s be real: many men lose their hair as they get older. It’s not a dealbreaker!
But, some women find it nice when a man has a good head full of hair they can run their fingers through.
H/T: Reddit
Last Updated on December 28, 2021 by Sarah Kester