Woman’s Home-Buying Dilemma Sparks Controversy: Boyfriend or Mortgage First?

Meet our 29-year-old heroine, who finds herself in a pickle that’s as sour as it gets. She’s moved back to her small hometown from the big city, chasing a better job and the comforting proximity of family. But there’s a twist in the tale – her 30-year-old boyfriend, still in the city, and their rented townhome. As she navigates the treacherous waters of a terrible buyer’s market, she stumbles upon a house she falls head over heels for. But it’s out of her budget. Enter her knight in shining armor – her dad, who offers to help with the down payment. But then, the plot thickens as her boyfriend makes a surprising demand…

The Big Move and a Bigger Dilemma

The Boyfriend’s Stance ️

The House Hunt Begins

The Dream House and a Generous Offer

The Boyfriend’s Unexpected Demand

The Boyfriend’s Concerns and Our Heroine’s Dilemma ‍♀️

A Controlling Situation or a Misunderstanding?

The Marriage Question

The Generous Gift and a Grateful Daughter ‍

The Unworthy Feeling and a Personal Issue

A Home-Buying Journey Turns into a Relationship Test: Who’s Right, Who’s Wrong?

Our 29-year-old protagonist’s journey from city life back to her small-town roots takes a dramatic turn when she decides to buy a house. As she battles the harsh realities of a terrible buyer’s market, she finds a house she adores but can’t afford. Her father steps in, generously offering to help with the down payment. But the plot thickens when her boyfriend, still in the city, insists on having his name on the mortgage, despite not contributing to the down payment. He also voices concerns about moving to an area they might not like. Is he being controlling or just cautious? And why can’t he wait until they’re married to be on the mortgage? The internet has some thoughts on this…

NTA: Boyfriend should contribute before being added to mortgage.

NTA. Don’t let your controlling BF ruin your home ownership

Don’t put his name in the deed! Protect your assets!

Protect yourself! Don’t put anyone on a mortgage without marriage

NAH: Boyfriend’s concerns about home-buying and decision-making are valid

Dump the boyfriend if he won’t pay rent or contribute.

“NAH vs ESH: The Home-Buying Dilemma – Rent or Buy? “

Boyfriend wants mortgage without contributing, prioritize father and house.

Take control of your own decisions and prioritize your happiness.

NTA. Throw him away and buy a ring for yourself

Protect your assets! Don’t put his name on the mortgage!

Red flags and confusion: Is she ready for engagement?

NTA. Boyfriend wants free ride on mortgage, but not rent?

NTA: Boyfriend wants half ownership of YOUR house for free?

“NTA. Don’t put his name on anything if he’s not contributing financially.”

ESH: Communication is key! Stop steam-rolling and start discussing together.

NTA: Protect your assets, avoid financial entanglements with partners.

NAH: Boyfriend’s concerns about mortgage and future security are valid

NTA. Boyfriend shouldn’t be on mortgage. No rent, no move-in.

Dad’s loan dilemma: NTA for standing up to boyfriend, but what about dad?

Is the rent less than what he’s been paying?

Don’t put his name on the mortgage! Dump him!

NTA: Boyfriend should pay rent, not be on the mortgage.

Independent living or shared expenses? NTA takes a stand!

NTA. Marriage before mortgage, he should pay rent like everyone else.

NTA: Protect your assets and consult a lawyer before buying.

Rent or buy? A tough decision with low interest rates.

NTA: Boyfriend’s contribution to mortgage and rent sparks debate.

NTA: Boyfriend wants control. Don’t move him in without rent.

Boyfriend wants ownership but won’t contribute? NTA, kick him out!

Not the a**hole! Share your thoughts on her dilemma!

NTA. Boyfriend’s control over mortgage is worrisome. Watch for signs.

NTA. Don’t let him move in without a formal agreement.

NTA. Concerning boyfriend wants a free ride on mortgage.

Take charge of your future! Don’t settle for ultimatums.

NTA: Boyfriend wants ownership but won’t contribute? Unfair situation!

NTA: Boyfriend wants mortgage benefits without contributing. Unfair or not?

Boyfriend’s controlling behavior sparks debate over home-buying decisions.

NTA: Your house, your rules. BF needs to wise up.

NTA! Keep him off the mortgage! Let him pay his share.

NTA! Don’t let ultimatums ruin your dream house

NTA. Similar situation, boyfriend paid rent and was happy about it

Don’t put him on the deed! Set boundaries and prioritize yourself.

Wedding first, then mortgage? The importance of clear financial agreements.

Solving the dilemma: boyfriend’s rent or independence?

NTA: Boyfriend won’t contribute to house, but expects free ride.

NTA: Confusing deed and mortgage, boyfriend’s commitment issues, and red flags.

NTA – Sensible decision, he should contribute financially.

NTA. Protect yourself legally before moving in with your boyfriend.

Stand your ground! Get a roommate and save your money!

Separate mortgage and title, protect your assets with a pre-nup.

“NTA – If he won’t contribute financially, he can’t live here.”

Supportive parent prioritizes children’s home-buying over non-spouse mortgage.

Follow your dreams! Get your dream house and live separately!

Equal contributions needed for house ownership. Rent ≠ mortgage payments.

Boyfriend wants name on house without contributing money? NTA!

Massive red flag: Boyfriend wants claim to property without contributing. NTA.

Don’t cave in! Financial abuse is a red flag

Don’t let him have his cake and eat it too!

NTA: Don’t let him mooch off your house without commitment!

NTA… Dump him if he won’t pay his way!

NTA. Offer solutions: add him to deed or draw up contract.

Logical decision to prioritize personal goals before marriage.

NTA- Boyfriend not contributing financially, no say. Get a prenup.

NTA: Boyfriend should contribute to down payment for mortgage.

Engaging caption: Partner’s input matters too!

Dump the user! Find a mortgage, not a deadbeat boyfriend.

NTA. Protect yourself financially and stand your ground.

Smart move! Buying is the way to go.

NTA: Boyfriend doesn’t contribute, he doesn’t deserve equity.

NTA. Boyfriend needs to contribute financially.

Protect yourself! Get a rental agreement before moving in together.

ESH except you. Dad shouldn’t insist on your financial decisions. Boyfriend wants equity. Complicated breakup.

NTA! Boyfriend should pay dad back before being added to title.

Protect your assets: Don’t rush into joint ownership!

NTA suggests boyfriend should try his own advice with landlord

Father’s help makes home ownership possible for some. #NTA

Moving in together? Not so fast! NAH, take it slow.

Consider your own wishes and make the decision that suits you!