Let me ask you something: Do you and your spouse or life partner split living expenses evenly? If you do, then I would assume that both of you make the same amount of money , no? Well, this brings me to this story I’m about to share with you.
It’s quite interesting, I promise. And it begs the question of what is fair in a relationship where two people co-habitate. So let’s dive more into it. Shall we?
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A woman recently posted on Reddit asking whether her boyfriend is reasonable in asking her to pay half the rent and all their living expenses. But here’s the catch — he makes substantially more money than her. We’re talking a huge amount here.
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Okay, so according to this lady, her boyfriend currently makes $300K per year. And he just received a job offer in a city across the country that would pay him over $500K per year. So he asked her to move away with him, which she doesn’t mind even though it’s not her ideal location to live.
However, she plans to attend grad school while her family pays her expenses.
Now, here’s where this story gets more complicated. Splitting the rent and other living costs with her boyfriend will amount to about $2500 per month that her family would be on the hook for.
So, she’s wondering if it’s really fair for her boyfriend to ask that much of her family.
Especially since he’s the one who wants to move in the first place, and he also makes significantly more money than her. Wouldn’t that put an additional burden on her family to take care of her?
After she posted about her dilemma, people had a lot to say.
One comment on the post pointed out this fact: “This is how it works when couples want to split living expenses evenly. YOU LIVE ON WHAT THE LOWEST PAID PERSON CAN AFFORD!!!”
Hmm, that does make sense. Am I right?
Furthermore, there’s this to consider:
“It doesn’t matter if he makes $500K a year and can afford a $5K a month apartment. You make the least, so you guys can only live at what you can comfortably pay.”
This is definitely a fair scenario if the couple wants to split everything 50/50.
Other people have chimed in with this advice.
“Since the offer to live together didn’t come with an offer to be generous towards you, there is no reason for you to accept it. Go wherever grad school is and you won’t regret it but don’t move in with this guy. There is no future in a relationship like this.”
What do you think of that?
Honestly, this guy can afford to take care of both of them.
So why would he make this woman jump through hoops just to be with him? Plus, he’s taking her away from her family and everyone she knows. To me, that’s another red flag. She will be there all alone and dependent on him. And in my opinion, that’s a huge no-no.
What do you think of this story?
Do you agree that this relationship is kind of one-sided? Honestly, if this guy really loved this woman, he would be happy to pay for most of the expenses, so she could at least finish grad school. She’s making a grand gesture moving across the country for him. It’s the least he can do for her, no?
