Imagine being in a relationship for 30 years, raising four children together, and enduring countless emotional challenges, all while waiting for that one special moment – a marriage proposal. For one woman, that moment finally came, but instead of feeling overjoyed, she couldn’t help but roll her eyes. Why? Because after 25 years of begging for a commitment, her boyfriend finally popped the question when he retired and downsized his life. Let’s dive into her story and see if her reaction was justified.
The Long-Awaited Proposal
Apathy Overwhelms Excitement
Years of Dismissal and Gaslighting
False Illusion of Progress
Four Kids and Countless Challenges
Enduring PTA Moms’ Jabs
Preteen Years of Hell
Power Imbalance and Insecurity
Love and Pride vs. Reality
Career Downturn and Reflection
Stepping Back and Reevaluating
The Shocking Proposal
Downsizing and Eye-Rolling
A Clash of Perspectives
Gold Digger Accusations and Anger
A Rollercoaster of Emotions and Decisions
After 30 years together and 25 years of begging for a commitment, this woman finally received the proposal she had been waiting for. But instead of feeling overjoyed, she rolled her eyes, feeling apathetic and questioning the timing. With their four children grown and her boyfriend’s career taking a downturn, she wonders if he’s only proposing now because he’s downsizing his life. The situation escalates, leading to accusations of gold-digging and a heated argument. As emotions run high, let’s see what the internet has to say about this complicated situation.
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Commenter questions why the person stayed with their partner for so long
Eye-rolling justified, but both are at fault for 25 years.
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Red flag alert! Dig deeper before saying yes.
Unmarried stay-at-home mom advised to consult divorce lawyer for financial security.
After 25 years and 4 kids, he called her a gold digger? ESH
Commenter suggests legal action and questions the proposal’s motive.
Lesson learned: Don’t propose without discussing marriage beforehand. ESH
20 years of waiting for a proposal and now this?
Screwed up relationship, long-awaited proposal, and contempt on both sides
User thinks proposer is selfish for wanting to marry now.
After 25 years, a long-awaited proposal deserved more than an eye-roll
25 years of rejection and disappointment, but marriage is necessary
User calls out woman for being hypocritical and unsupportive.
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User advises to marry for financial security, but find love elsewhere.
Practical advice or loveless marriage?
Advice for a stay-at-home parent in a long-term relationship.
User calls out OP for lack of self-respect in relationship.
Proposal too little too late? NTA and lawyer up
Valid point. Why didn’t she work at all?
User defends man in proposal story, acknowledges personal responsibility
Commenter suggests woman allowed mistreatment, AH for kids’ taunting.
User blames woman for sad proposal after 30 years together. ♀️
Woman deemed NTA for unenthusiastic reaction to proposal.
Suggests prenup and no ceremony, calls out unpaid domestic labor
Unpaid labor as a SAHM and not on the deed?
Legal advice for long-term partners. Know your rights!
Harsh comment questions woman’s self-love after 25-year relationship proposal
Controversial comment suggesting legal action for common law marriage.
Woman not the a-hole for reacting to long-awaited proposal
User calls out OP for blaming others for their misery.
Rewarding loyalty with marriage is insulting. NTA.
A bitter comment about divorce and taking half his assets.
Harsh truth or bitter opinion? No replies to back either.
User advises woman to marry and divorce manipulative partner for payday.
NTA. Commenter advises against marrying for lack of love and security.
Does she even love him? Don’t settle for less.
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25 years of BS, but NTA for wanting a prenup
User blames commenter for staying in unhappy marriage for 25 years.
User advises seeking legal advice for leaving long-term partner.
Commenter suggests finding self-worth before finding someone else.
Commenter accuses woman of being a gold digger
A cautionary tale about the risks of marriage and finances.
Internet user shuts down those who belittle marriage with sarcasm
Consult a lawyer before accepting proposal. Watch out for debt.
User blames woman for staying in a relationship without marriage
Eye-rolling understandable, but harsh reaction not justified. Marriage still important.
Heartbreaking story of a relationship that lost its love
25-year wait for proposal, but now she’s bitter?
Woman neglected herself for years, promotion with no raise. ESH.
Is proposing just an obligation?
After 30 years, what does she want if not proposal?
Commenter believes both parties are at fault for bad situation.
Plan your exit strategy , NTA, don’t marry him.
NTA advises unmarried mother on legal support and financial planning.
Marriage is more than a piece of paper, but timing matters
User doubts preteens’ claim, advises OP to know her worth.
NTA. Harsh but honest advice on moving on from a bad relationship.
User empathizes with woman’s reaction but questions her motives.
User warns against starting over in 50s after long-term relationship.
Red flag alert: commenter advises to leave fiance for financial reasons.
Comment suggests marrying for assets, insults partner’s character. YTA.
Did he propose only to protect his retirement income?
Partner waited too long to propose, reaction justified.
25 years of waiting for that?
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User criticizes long-term relationship without marriage, sparks debate.
User suggests seeking therapy after 25-year relationship with disrespect.
YTA for enabling a cringey proposal after 25 years.
Harsh financial reality check for someone considering leaving their partner.
Woman advised to seek legal help before accepting pre-nup
User points out hypocrisy in proposal situation.
NTA. Commenter sympathizes with woman’s reaction to long-awaited proposal.
Insightful comment about the proposal and relationship dynamics.
Dream proposal never came, resentment built up, counseling needed.
User questions motives behind proposal, advises financial check.
Red flag alert: commenter advises leaving the relationship for happiness.
Harsh but truthful comment about toxic relationship.
Defending against toxic divorce advice in Reddit comments
30 years is way too long to wait for a proposal
