Meet our lady of the hour, a 27-year-old database administrator, and her boyfriend ‘Ben’, a 29-year-old with a love for separate finances. Their love story takes a turn when Ben, who owns a five-bedroom house, suggests she move in. But our heroine has a condition – she won’t move in unless she’s a co-owner. Is she being stubborn or simply sensible? Let’s delve into their tale of love, finances, and real estate.
The Separate Finances Agreement
Ben’s House and His Financial Woes
The Financial Disagreements Begin
The Proposal: Move In Together
Her Condition: Co-ownership or No Deal
His Counter-argument: Renting is Money Down the Drain
Her Counter-proposal: He Can Move into Her Future House
The Final Standoff: Co-ownership or Bust
The Love Story with a Real Estate Twist: Who’s Right?
In a tale that’s more about financial independence than romance, our 27-year-old heroine refuses to move into her boyfriend’s house unless she’s a co-owner. Despite Ben’s insistence that they could save money, she stands firm, sparking a heated debate about finances, homeownership, and relationship dynamics. She believes in equal contribution and decision-making, while he sees her debt as irresponsible. Will they find a middle ground or is this the end of their love story? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this real estate romance…
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“Incompatible financially. Time to reconsider the longevity.”
NTA. He has control issues and questionable financial advice.
Who’s the financial expert? Credit scores and mansplaining
NTA. Financial disagreements can lead to divorces. Important to align.
Ben’s terrible financial advice raises eyebrows
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“NTA. He needs to get his nose out of your financial business. “
NTA! Stand your ground and protect your future.
NTA – Financial red flags and double standards in the relationship
NTA. Don’t move in unless both parties are on the legal document
NTA: BF wants benefits of your income without commitment.
NTA. Moving in without co-ownership is a financial burden.
NTA: Ben’s disrespectful and financially selfish behavior raises red flags.
NTA, financially risky partner wants you to move in without compromise.
NTA. Run now! His financial red flags are dangerous.
NTA. Financially irresponsible partner with hygiene concerns.
NTA. Ben’s financial absolutism and conditions make moving in difficult
Incompatible vibes: Is compromise possible?
NTA. Protect your money and future by being a co-owner!
NTA: Protect your finances and don’t let him take advantage
NTA – Stay firm on being a co-owner, don’t be screwed
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Financial responsibility matters. Don’t sacrifice your accomplishments for anyone.
NTA: Combining finances is important, he’s being controlling.
NTA: Boyfriend wants her to cover costs while having no input.
Re-examine the relationship: NTA.
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NTA, prioritize respect & compatibility over finances.
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Financial incompatibility causing tension in relationship. ♀️
NTA: Stand your ground and protect your financial independence!
“NTA. You’re not comfortable moving in, prioritize your future “
NTA, Ben is clueless about finances and acts superior. Red flags!
NTA – Don’t let his financial mess become your burden!
“NTA. Your finances, your decision. Break up with this hypocrite.”
NTA: Is he after your money or a real partnership?
NTA: Financial incompatibility and incompatible goals. ♀️
NTA: Renting vs. Co-ownership – Is it exploitive?
NTA: Fairness in finances is key to a healthy partnership.
NTA – Don’t let mansplaining ruin your financial independence!
NTA and financially incompatible. Don’t let him control your finances.
“Sensible or Stubborn? He calculates rent but forgets about repairs? “
NTA. Red flags: financial instability, potential debt-sharing, separate finances.
Financial incompatibility and controlling behavior? NTA for standing up!
“NTA. Financial disagreements can cause relationship discord. Compromise is key.”
Upgrade the relationship for better benefits
NTA. Separate finances but wants you to save money?
NTA: Stand your ground and protect your financial independence!
Don’t be a co-owner with someone who doesn’t understand money
NTA. Smart financial decision. Re-examine relationship.
NTA. Stand your ground and prioritize your financial independence.
Financial compatibility is crucial for a successful relationship.
NTA wants fair ownership, but advisor needed for investment calculation.
“Live separately until you know where this is going.”
NTA, but is this a red flag for the relationship?
NTA. Financial incompatibility can strain a relationship.
Financial advice from payday loan user?
Financial compatibility: NTA but reconsider building a life together.
NTA suggests printing a lease form to test financial compatibility.
NTA: Sensible approach to money management, don’t let yourself be used
NTA wants co-ownership to secure future, but is it necessary?
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“NTA, don’t let his financial mistakes ruin your future!”
NTA. Relationship has run its course. Time to move on.
Separate finances can still mean joint responsibilities and support
Ben’s outdated financial advice gets roasted by commenters.
Commenter calls partner an idiot for financial decisions. NTA.
“NTA. Clown doesn’t understand finances. Not fun to live with.”
Dump the controlling jerk! NTA for wanting financial equality.
