We’ve all been there – you meet someone who seems perfect, but then you discover something that makes you question everything. That’s what happened to this 31-year-old woman, who was initially smitten with a 33-year-old man she’d been dating. After a few amazing dates, he invited her to his apartment, and what she found there made her rethink the entire relationship. ♀️
The Perfect First Dates
Mr. Show-Off ️
A Rain Check and a Brunch
The Day Together
The Invitation to His Apartment
The Shocking Discovery
Not in the Mood
Dropping Hints
One Last Chance ⌛
Restless and Complaining
Her Honest Response
Wishing Him the Best
The Final Question ❓
Update on the Dog
Is She Wrong for Refusing Intimacy?
After discovering her date’s filthy apartment, this woman decided she couldn’t go through with being intimate with him. Despite giving him a chance to clean up his act, he continued to complain about her not meeting his needs. She finally told him she wasn’t comfortable in his messy home and wished him the best. Now, she’s left wondering if she’s in the wrong for not wanting to ‘mommy’ a grown man. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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