Picture this: you have gorgeous, long hair that you absolutely adore. It’s a part of your identity, and you receive compliments on it all the time. But then, a friend approaches you with a heart-wrenching request – to cut your hair because it’s triggering her trauma. What would you do? One woman found herself in this exact situation, and her decision has sparked a heated debate. Let’s dive into the story and see what happened.
Long Hair, Don’t Care ♀️

Meet Kate, the Friend with a Request

The Unusual Favor

Not a Joke

The Emotional Outburst

A Sensitive Topic

Kate’s Reaction

The Aftermath

Setting the Record Straight

Cultural Considerations

The Dilemma ♀️

Trauma and Friendship

Questioning Kate’s Intentions

The Hair Length Debate

Cutting Ties? ✂️

To Cut or Not to Cut? ♀️
So, our long-haired heroine finds herself in a tangled web of emotions and friendship. Kate’s request to cut her hair has led to a divide among their friends, with some siding with Kate and others supporting our protagonist. The cultural aspect adds another layer of complexity to the situation. It’s clear that both women are dealing with their own traumas, but is it fair for one to ask the other to change her appearance to accommodate her feelings? ♀️ Let’s see what the internet has to say about this hair-raising dilemma.
NTA: Hair trauma triggers unreasonable request, friends defend OP’s autonomy

“You don’t have to set yourself on fire to keep others warm”

♀️ Not the a**hole for refusing to change for her grief

NTA. Friend’s unreasonable request for hair cut sparks heated debate

NTA, friend’s jealousy escalates into racially insensitive comment.

“NTA. Your hair, your choice. She needs counseling.”

NTA she needs therapy to deal with her trauma ♀️

Red flag! Friend’s request is insane. NTA for refusing.

“NTA. Don’t let your ‘friend’ abuse you. Keep your beautiful hair! “

You’re not responsible for her healing. Seek professional help.
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Friend demands haircut, but wait until befriending to manipulate.
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Bodily autonomy wins! NTA. Speak up for yourself

Stand up for yourself and your personal choices!

NTA. Her trauma and triggers aren’t your responsibility ♀️

NTA. Your hair, your boundaries. ♀️

NTA and send her a Tangled DVD

Hair, grief, and boundaries – NTA, your autonomy matters!

Hair refusal sparks tension: friendship vs. trauma ✂️

Commenter strongly opposes trigger warnings and defends personal boundaries ♀️

NTA. Kate needs to grow up. The fact that she lost her mother to cancer is tragic but doesn’t make her the centre of the universe. She can’t demand other people to change their appearances because she hasn’t processed her trauma yet. Especially considering how she trashtalked you in the end, seems like she is quite the a**hole herself.

Keep your hair as it is! NTA
