Woman Refuses to Be Part of Friend’s ‘Village’ ️

A woman in her early thirties finds herself in a group of friends who have known each other for varying amounts of time. They usually meet up for drinks or dinner every month. However, one friend, Kelly, who recently had a baby, seems to be struggling with her new responsibilities. As a result, the woman and a few others have started to pull back from their friendship with Kelly. But when Kelly asks for help one too many times, the woman finally speaks up, leading to a dramatic confrontation.

The Group of Friends

Kelly’s Struggles

Pulling Back from Kelly ‍♀️

Unpaid Labor?

The Mopping Request

Needing Her ‘Village’ ️

The Confrontation

Harsh Words?

The ‘Village’ Dilemma: A Summary ️

A woman finds herself increasingly frustrated with her friend Kelly, who seems to treat their group of friends as unpaid labor to help with her baby and household chores. When Kelly asks her to mop the kitchen, she finally snaps and tells Kelly she doesn’t want to be part of her ‘village.’ This leads to a confrontation and leaves the woman questioning if she was too harsh. What do you think? Share your thoughts and reactions below.

Being part of a ‘village’ doesn’t mean being an unpaid employee

Small circle is okay. You’re NTA for not wanting to help.

NTA. Commenter questions friend’s contribution to ‘the village’

Commenter warns about lack of internet privacy, others joke about it.

Sarcastic request to be added to friend’s ‘village’ list.

Boundaries are important. NTA for setting them

Friendship is not about treating each other as unpaid labor

NTA, the ‘village’ is not a free cleaning service

Fellow mothers agree: Mop the floor show is looney

Visitors shouldn’t be asked to mop floors, NTA for refusing.

You’re not obligated to join anyone’s ‘village’. NTA

Friend expects too much, NTA for setting boundaries

Politely declining to be part of a friend’s ‘village’ ‍♀️

Borrower won’t return the loan but has poor timing

Misunderstanding of ‘village’ concept leads to awkward request

No chores in a friend’s house. NTA sets boundaries.

Not your kid, not your responsibility

Misunderstanding the concept of ‘village’ and mutual aid

NTA stands firm on friend’s parenting choices

No kids, no chores. Friend was wrong to assume. NTA

A sarcastic reply to someone’s lack of permission

Boundaries are important. NTA for not being her village

Step parent shares opinion on parenting responsibilities.

Cleaning someone’s house is not a friend’s job

Commenter questions effectiveness of permission request.

Friend expects too much, NTA for refusing to mop kitchen

First-time mom struggling with no help, NTA for refusing ‘village’.

Fair to expect occasional help, not constant unpaid labor.

Commenter questions the woman’s contribution to the ‘village’

Respect boundaries: Don’t assume others want to be involved

Setting boundaries is important.

Kelly’s ‘village’ seems more like a collection of suckers

Don’t be a free labor for friends with kids

Friend tries to conscript woman into ‘village’ without reciprocating help

Rebel instincts triggered by usage restrictions?

Fair share or uninvited? NTA stands up for herself

Choosing not to be part of a friend’s ‘village’

Honesty is the best policy for maintaining relationships

Commenter advises cutting off friend, uses profanity.

Kelly’s ‘village’ plan gets shut down by commenter

Don’t let anyone guilt you into free labor.

Modern parents exploiting ‘the village’ for free labor? NTA stands up

No housework for someone else’s kids? NTA wins.

Don’t let anyone guilt you into being their ‘village’ ‍♀️

Cutting off entitled friends is okay, NTA

Setting boundaries like a boss! NTA

Setting boundaries in friendships is important

Setting boundaries with unreasonable friend who expects free labor

Selfless service is key. Asking for help is obnoxious.

Friend asks for too much, NTA for refusing to mop

Setting boundaries with friends is important

Helping with babies, but not with mopping floors. NTA

Defending OP’s decision to refuse friend’s unreasonable request ‍♀️

Creating a village is a two-way street

You’re not the a**hole for refusing to be a nanny

User expresses shock at not knowing about ‘village’ concept.

Friendship is a two-way street ️. NTA for setting boundaries.

When friendship expectations don’t align ‍♀️ NTA wins.

Not the a**hole for not wanting to be part of ‘village’

Friend crosses the line by asking for floor mopping help

Not the a**hole, but what’s the backstory?