Imagine growing up in a family with rigid gender roles, where your education is not valued simply because you’re a girl. That’s the reality for one woman who, despite her parents’ expectations, secretly applied for college, got accepted, and worked her way through an engineering degree. Now, after years of barely speaking, her parents want to reconnect. But she has one condition: they must pay her back the $100k her degree cost, just like they did for her brothers.
Rigid Gender Roles in the Family

Education Not Valued for Girls

Brothers’ College Expenses Covered

Forbidden from Applying to College

Secret College Application and Acceptance

Engineering Degree and Struggles

Marriage and Parenthood

Parents Want to Reconnect

Demanding Specific Apology

The $100k Condition

Parents’ Shocked Reaction

Brothers’ Disapproval

Standing Her Ground

The $100k Question: Is She Right or Wrong?
After years of estrangement, this woman’s parents want to reconnect, but she’s not letting them off the hook so easily. She demands they pay her back the $100k her degree cost, just like they did for her brothers. Her parents are shocked, and her brothers think she’s being immature and hurtful. But she stands her ground, believing her request is justified. What do you think? Let’s dive into some of the most interesting reactions from people who’ve heard her story.
Engineer supports woman’s decision to refuse bigoted parents’ money

Demanding $100k for tuition: Fair or unfair? NTA says fair.

Demanding $100k for tuition: NTA, unfair gender discrimination by parents

Encouraging comment applauds perseverance and independence.

Standing up to entitled family members. NTA
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Sibling support against sexist and neglectful parents.

Gender discrimination and lack of apology, valid demand for compensation.

Grandparents push religion, NTA for not accepting tuition strings.

Setting boundaries and achieving goals. You go, NTA!

Financial ties will put pressure on future relationships. ESH.
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Demanding specific apologies from parents who favored siblings. NTA.

Female engineer shares similar experience and supports the demand for tuition.

Sibling fairness in college tuition – NTA comment.

NTA commenter rejects parents’ sudden interest in their life

NTA commenter defends daughter’s right to fair treatment.

Supportive stranger praises OP for standing up to unfair treatment.
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NTA. The parents are asking forgiveness without recognizing they are wrong.

Demanding $100k for college tuition? NTA, fought through it alone.
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Demanding fair treatment from parents for education, NTA

Curious about the parents’ involvement in the commenter’s wedding

Parenting and gender norms debated in NTA comment section

Supportive comment encourages therapy and setting boundaries. Congrats on pregnancy!

Support for NTA commenter’s decision to not be a SAHM

Stand your ground! You’re not immature, NTA.

Supportive comment to pregnant woman cutting off toxic parents.

Sarcastic comment supports NTA, condemns parents’ bigotry. Encourages OP to cut ties.

Cutting off toxic parents is priceless

Demanding $100k for tuition: NTA or entitled?

NTA comment warns of potential gender expectations and emotional abuse.

NTA commenter supports OP and calls out grandparents’ behavior.

Sibling favoritism and conditional love, NTA for demanding compensation.

Suggests creating college fund for child, not just about money

Shiny steel spine! Protect that baby with love. NTA ❤

Breaking free from toxic parents.

Supportive comment: NTA. $100k is just the down payment.

Cutting toxic family ties: NTA stands up for themselves

When sorry isn’t enough: Demanding forgiveness or moving on? ❗

Parents show favoritism, apologize insincerely, and only care for grandchild. NTA.

Twin’s sister worked hard, got no help, and insulted. NTA

Family drama: commenter supports OP’s decision to prioritize own happiness

Sibling support lacking, woman demands fair tuition reimbursement from parents.

Growing up with wealthy parents who now demand financial responsibility.

NTA calls out insincere apologies, demands true amends.

Demanding $100k for a relationship is abusive. ESH in this.

Suggests education trust for future child, offers to repair relationship.

Female engineer sympathizes with OP’s struggle against sexist parents.

User believes $100k is not enough, NTA, and calls out awful parents.

Gender bias in college tuition? NTA calls out brothers’ privilege

NTA stands up to unsupportive family for college tuition.

NTA. Standing up to toxic parents demanding repayment for tuition

Heartbreaking comment about family’s priorities

Standing up for yourself and setting boundaries is NTA

Sibling rivalry at its finest. NTA wins this round.

NTA. Parents forced traditional expectations, now want guilt to mend relationships.

NTA, but can money really repair the relationship with parents?

User advises OP to stick to their guns and protect their baby

Applauding support for woman demanding tuition from unsupportive parents. #NTA

NTA. The parents lack awareness of what they did wrong.

Demanding fair treatment from family for college tuition.

NTA. No obligation to maintain a relationship with estranged parents.

Congratulations on putting yourself through college without family support!

Reconciliation or manipulation? NTA sees through parents’ apology

NTA! Siblings got everything paid for, you deserve fairness.

NTA. A personal story of family issues and love.
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Demanding $100k for tuition: immature or justified? NTA explains.
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Breaking gender roles sparks conflict in family’s financial expectations.

Daughter demands fair treatment for college tuition. NTA

Heartwarming comment showing support for OP’s achievements and parenting journey ❤️

Self-sufficiency trumps money, NTA.

Sibling’s hypocrisy and parents’ toxic views lead to NTA verdict.

Congrats on the education and family! NTA

User defends parents’ motives for paying tuition.

Cutting off toxic family members: NTA and stay strong

Redditor calls out OP for being justified but still an a**hole.

Sibling support: NTA suggests brothers help with tuition

NTA comment defends the poster’s decision with insightful reasoning.

Setting boundaries and standing up for oneself.

Cutting off toxic parents? NTA, says top comment.

Agreeing with a comment about cutting off bigoted parents.

NTA! The parents seem unapologetic and concerned about appearances

NTA commenter emphasizes importance of parent-child relationship.

Successful woman receives backlash for demanding college tuition from parents.

Last Updated on February 27, 2024 by Diply Social Team