A support group for women who can’t have children faces a heart-wrenching dilemma when one of its long-time members announces she’s having a baby through surrogacy. The group’s moderator, who has been running the forum for seven years, is approached by several members who express their discomfort with the woman’s continued presence in the group, as her constant talk about her upcoming motherhood is causing pain for the other members. The situation escalates, dividing the group and causing emotional turmoil for everyone involved.
The Close-Knit Group
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Surrogate Pregnancy Announcement
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Members’ Discomfort
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Asking Mary to Tone It Down
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Mary Continues to Share ️
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Ultimatum Given ⚖️
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Group Divided
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Trying to Keep the Peace ️
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Update: New Moderator
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Mary’s Realization
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Future Conversations
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A Painful Dilemma: Support Group Divided
A support group for women who can’t have children is torn apart when one member announces she’s having a baby through surrogacy. As the woman continues to share her excitement, other members express their discomfort, leading to a divided group and emotional turmoil. The moderator steps down due to stress, and a new moderator takes over. Mary, the woman with the surrogate pregnancy, eventually realizes the impact of her actions and tones down her baby talk. The future of the group and the relationships within it remain uncertain.
NTA. Removing her is necessary to maintain a safe space.

NTA. Ban her from the group for being narcissistic and hurtful.

Navigating social interactions with infertility can be tricky. Finding a new group may be best for Mary’s excitement.

Approach her proactively and explain that she’s outgrown the group.
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Support group members debate whether to remove insensitive friend. ESH.

Woman shares joy after 10+ years of struggle, but friends react poorly

Creating a new group for off-topic things could be a solution

Mary’s pregnancy causing tension in support group for childless women. YTA.
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Tension arises in a support group for women without children. ESH.

Mary’s insensitivity towards infertility is causing pain for others. NTA.

Support group mod faces backlash for removing pregnant member.

Commenter calls out OP for being TA in a sensitive situation

Commenter calls out group for not being clear about boundaries

Clarifying the purpose of the group and its relevance

Setting boundaries is important. Remove her before it’s too late.

Friends should be supportive, but crab bucket mentality prevailed. ♀️

It’s okay to still be friends outside of the forum

NTA for removing insensitive member from infertility support group.

Insensitive comment telling infertile women to ‘get over themselves’

Friend called out for not being happy for pregnant friend.

Clarification on the definition of “women who can’t have children”.
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Leaving a support group after a change in circumstances: NTA

Support group has a specific purpose, NTA for enforcing it

Being considerate of others’ struggles is important in support groups.

Support group turns toxic, commenter calls out bitterness.

Is discussing infertility for 10+ years healthy?

NTA member’s boastful behavior hurtful to childless support group.

Support group for childless women excludes woman who can’t conceive. ♀️

Woman asked to leave support group for women who can’t have children, labeled YTA

Seeking private support? Learn how to connect outside the forum.

Mixed feelings on whether Mary should be excluded from support group

Woman with baby fever causing discomfort, NTA for banning.

Member’s disruptive behavior justifies removal from support group.

Removing pregnant member from infertility forum justified? NTA says yes
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Don’t be a part of a clique that hates progress.

Don’t be jealous, let her share her joy!
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Suggestion to reach middle ground for divisive forum issue. NTA.

Showing empathy for a friend struggling with infertility.

Struggling to conceive is hard enough, let’s support each other.

ESH. Alienating someone for not fitting group’s purpose, but her behavior is hurtful.

Navigating friendships after major life changes can be tough.

Support group or friends? ESH. Group’s purpose vs inclusion.

Empathetic comment acknowledges grief of women who can’t have children.

Support group excludes member for finding alternative fertility method. ESH.

Maintaining group rules is important for support group dynamics.

Surrogate mom gets kicked out of support group. YTA.

Group should establish rules for discussing children and enforce them.

Friendship over a baby announcement leads to group expulsion. ESH.

Don’t be bitter, celebrate your friend’s happiness! YTA.

Sensitive topic, but NTA. Should she have been asked to leave?
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Last Updated on April 30, 2023 by Diply Social Team