Meet our anonymous couple, a wife (30F) and her husband (36M), who’ve been together for about 10 years. They started out with low-paying jobs, but recently, the wife’s career took off, and she’s now making six figures. She’s been more than willing to take on extra financial responsibilities, but when her husband hinted at quitting his job to pursue his art full-time, she put her foot down. She told him she’d lose respect for him if he stopped working, even though she could technically afford it. Was she right to draw the line, or is she being unsupportive? Let’s dive into the story.
The Struggle Together
A Career Takes Off
Offering More Financial Support
Husband’s Dream of Quitting
Drawing the Line
A Moment of Silence
Husband’s Artistic Ambition
Leeching or Supportive?
Seeking Advice
No Excuses for Stepping Back ⏰
Part-Time Compromise?
Feeling Like a 50s Patriarch
To Work or Not to Work: The Wife’s Dilemma ♀️
Our anonymous wife is in a tough spot. She’s making enough money to support her family, but she’s not comfortable with her husband quitting his job to pursue his art full-time. She’s drawn a line in the sand, telling him she’d lose respect for him if he stopped working. She’s even open to a part-time compromise, but she’s unsure if that’s the right move. Is she being unsupportive, or is she right to expect her husband to keep contributing financially? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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NTA: Discussion needed for husband’s retirement plan, financial responsibilities, and art.
NTA but discuss and agree on your vision of life together
ESH: Unilateral decisions, financial strain, and respect tied to employment.
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NTA. It’s not about respect, it’s about financial stability.
NTA. Supportive partner wants stable income before quitting job.
NTA. Don’t let success ruin your independence.
Expectations of a partner’s gender and financial independence.
“YTA. Let’s have a conversation about our goals and needs.”
Expecting ambition in a partner is fair, but financial pressure?
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Reality check: Is it fair to lose all respect?
NTA: Financial advisor needed to plan for retirement and college.
YTA for cruel ultimatum, undermining partnership. Have a conversation instead.
“NTA. Having one person support both of you is a two yes one no discussion. The compromise you propose of him going part time and taking on more of the household duties is reasonable. I work and my husband doesn’t but we have discussed it and revisit it every few months. He also does 90% of the household stuff which is why I like the arrangement!”
NTA. Leaving the workforce for art? Financial stability matters!
Did she overreact? Was it a joke or serious?
Engaging comment: YTA for shutting down conversation about husband’s art career.
Supporting spouse’s artistic dreams: NTA, but set clear expectations.
NTA. Working together for a nice retirement
“YTA. Support your partner’s dream! Don’t let capitalism ruin it! “
Respect lost? Wife’s ultimatum reveals lack of respect for husband.
