Meet our 34-year-old heroine, married for 10 years with a 9-year-old daughter. When COVID hit, she lost her job and became a full-time homemaker. Hubby loved it, but she got bored and went back to work. The hubby wasn’t too thrilled about losing his housewife, so they struck a deal: she’d take care of the home and childrearing, while he’d handle all the expenses. But when she bought herself a car upgrade with her own money, hubby suddenly wanted to go back to the old ways. She refused, and now he’s accusing her of clinging to rigid gender roles.
The COVID Effect
From Career Woman to Homemaker ➡️
Back to Work, But Hubby’s Not Happy
Arguments and Temporary Separation
The Deal: Housewife vs. Breadwinner
Sticking to the Deal
Still Earning, But Not Sharing
Car Upgrade Triggers Hubby
Wife Refuses to Budge ♀️
Heated Exchange and Cooling Off ️❄️
Who’s Really Stuck in the Past? ️
Our heroine thought she found a solution to their marital woes by striking a deal with her husband: she’d be the housewife, and he’d be the breadwinner. But when she bought herself a car upgrade with her own money, hubby suddenly wanted to go back to the old ways. She refused, and now he’s accusing her of clinging to rigid gender roles. But who’s really stuck in the past? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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