We’ve all been there – forgetting a loved one’s birthday or special occasion. But whose responsibility is it to remember these dates? One woman found herself in the middle of a family feud when she refused to be her husband’s personal reminder for birthdays and holidays. Her mother-in-law and husband’s family were not too pleased, and the drama that unfolded is a perfect example of conflicting expectations and responsibilities in relationships.
The Forgotten Birthday
MIL’s Disappointment
“He’s a Guy, They Don’t Care”
Mother’s Day Warning ⚠️
Wife’s Job?
Husband’s Annoyance
Video Game Release Date
Shared Calendar Solution
Missed Birthday, Round Two
Husband’s Anger
The Big Question ❓
Shared Calendar: The Solution? ♀️
Family Feud Over Forgotten Birthdays: Whose Job Is It?
Caught in the crossfire of her husband’s forgetfulness, our protagonist refuses to be the designated reminder for birthdays and holidays. Despite her mother-in-law’s insistence that it’s the wife’s job, she stands her ground, leading to a full-blown family feud. The shared calendar solution falls flat when her husband fails to use it, and the drama continues to unfold. Let’s dive into the internet’s top responses to this heated situation…
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NTA. Marriage is not hiring a secretary.
The mental workload assigned to women. Joint calendar is enough. NTA.
Husband’s lack of initiative in gift-giving is criticized, NTA.
Husband’s strategic incompetence or forgetfulness? NTA suggests the former.
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Spouse refuses to be personal reminder, commenters suggest dropping the rope.
Women shouldn’t be expected to do emotional labor for husbands’ families
Women shouldn’t be expected to do emotional labour for men
NTA for refusing to remind husband of his family’s important dates.
Husband forgets MIL’s birthday, but who’s the real a**hole?
Empower the wife and shut down the mother-in-law
Wife refuses to be husband’s reminder, but is she NTA?
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Why should you be responsible for his mother’s birthday?
Wife refuses to be husband’s reminder, sparks conversation on emotional labor. NTA.
Husband selectively forgets dates, NTA calls out his BS
Spouse refuses to be a personal reminder, commenters argue.
Teamwork makes the dream work Suggestions for a joint calendar ️
Husband forgets tasks, blames wife. Is she the a**hole?
Train him right! Don’t give in to being his calendar
Sneaky solution to husband’s forgetfulness sparks laughter
NTA, but it’s emotional labor and they’re ganging up on you
Wife refuses to be husband’s reminder, sparks family drama
Don’t be a**hole, remember important dates on your own!
Sharing the comic strip on mental load can help husbands understand.
Spouse refuses to be a personal reminder, commenter sympathizes
When a wife refuses to be a personal reminder
Sharing important dates is fair game. NTA for setting boundaries
Don’t let him trick you into taking over his responsibilities!
Partner’s forgetfulness is not an excuse. NTA for setting reminders.
Gamer OP makes a point about effort and priorities. NTA.
Joint calendar works great, but he’s a grown adult . You’re his wife, not his secretary.
Empowering response to husband’s forgetfulness. Join the support group
Commenter defends OP’s actions and declares them not an a**hole
Commenter humorously calls out OP and suggests apology.
NTA calls out immature husband, suggests helping with reminders
Partner refuses to be personal reminder, stands up for boundaries.
Spouse wants partner to be a personal reminder. YTA or NTA?
Husband can’t handle adulting, wife refuses to be his mom
Compromise wins! NTA holds up their side of the deal
Breaking gender stereotypes, NTA stands up for herself
NTA stands up against emotional labor and sexism
