Imagine having a mother who’s not just a pack rat, but a full-blown hoarder. Now, imagine her asking to move into your neat, clutter-free home. That’s the predicament one woman found herself in when her 63-year-old mother, who’s known for her unreliable nature and hoarding habits, asked to move in. The daughter, feeling the weight of her mother’s habits, was left to make a tough decision. Let’s dive into this tale of family, clutter, and boundaries.
Meet the Hoarder Mom
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The Clutter Comes Visiting
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The Aftermath of Christmas
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A House or a Junkyard? ️
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An Unfortunate Discovery
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The Proposal and the Rejection
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The Unresolved Situation
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A Daughter’s Dilemma
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A House Unlivable by Choice ️
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A Daughter’s Stand Against the Clutter Invasion
In this emotionally charged saga, our heroine is left grappling with the question: Is she wrong for refusing her hoarder mother’s request to move in? The mother, despite having the financial means and resources to clean her cluttered house, chooses to live in her self-made mess. The daughter, fearing the invasion of clutter and the emotional turmoil it brings, firmly declines her mother’s request. But the question remains: Is she in the wrong? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this. ️♀️
NTA: Mom’s hoarding affects your mental health, she needs help
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NTA, mom needs a new therapist. Moving in = disaster
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Daughter takes a stand against mom’s hoarding, seeks professional help
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Daughter struggles with mom’s hoarding habit
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Daughter frustrated with mom’s hoarding, suggests finding new therapist
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NTA. A cautionary tale of letting a hoarder move in
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NTA. Don’t let her move in or she will turn your house into a landfill
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NTA. Offer support by finding short-term housing for your mom.
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Daughter’s struggle with hoarding dad: NTA, but dad’s unstoppable
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NTA. Your mom’s hoarding isn’t your fault. Don’t sacrifice yourself.
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Stand your ground and protect your home from hoarding chaos!
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NTA: Daughter suggests inpatient facility while professionals clean hoarder’s house
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Daughter’s frustration with mom’s hoarding habit. NTA for trying.
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Daughter refuses to enable mom’s hoarding habit.
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Daughter’s frustration: Mom’s hoarding habit becomes her problem
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NTA! Maintain boundaries with your hoarding mom, let her decide.
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Seek professional help for mom’s hoarding habit to avoid misery
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Daughter’s dilemma: Mom’s hoarding habit. Not the a**hole.
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Taking a stand against mom’s hoarding: NTA and reporting her
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NTA. Protect yourself from your mentally ill hoarding mother.
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NTA. Hoarding is tough. Consider a new therapist and alternative tactics.
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Protective services can help without burdening your own household.
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“NTA. Mom’s hoarding, not your responsibility. You owe her nothing.”
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Daughter’s frustration with mom’s hoarding habit despite therapy
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Doing the right thing in a sucky situation
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NTA. Hoarding is a mental illness
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“*Pooping in bags??* Jesus. This is serious.”
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Choosing sanity over enabling: a valid and difficult decision.
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Don’t let a hoarder move in, no matter who they are!
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Stand your ground and protect your peace.
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You made the right decision!
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Protect your mental health and space. NTA for setting boundaries.
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NTA: Setting boundaries with a hoarding parent can be challenging
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NTA. Your mental health is important too.
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Daughter not the a**hole for dealing with mom’s hoarding habit
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Does Mom need a psychiatrist for her hoarding habit?
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Setting boundaries: NTA, it’s okay to prioritize your well-being
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Setting boundaries with loved ones is important.
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NTA. Setting boundaries with a hoarding parent. Good luck moving forward
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Do not let her move in with you! Set boundaries. NTA!
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NTA. Mom’s hoarding could turn your home into a disaster
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Empathy for the daughter’s dilemma in dealing with her hoarding mom
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Hilarious misinterpretation of surgery leads to temporary brain malfunction
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Supportive comment encourages setting boundaries with hoarding mother.
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Empathy for mom, support for OP’s decision.
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NTA. Hoarding can be considered self-neglect and reported to APS
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NTA: You have the resources to help, but prioritize your well-being
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NTA, but seek professional help and consider involving protective services
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Setting boundaries with a hoarding parent: tough but necessary
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Setting boundaries at home: NTA, your rules!
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NTA: Cleaning up could buy her time to recover
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NTA. Nope, nope, and nope.
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Supporting a hoarding parent’s mental health without endangering yourself.
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NTA: Don’t let human strays bring their filth into your home!
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Support her emotionally, but don’t let her move in.
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NTA. Don’t let her move in. Hoarding is a tough addiction
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Take action! Contact APS and code enforcement to address hoarding.
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NTA for not letting her stay. Protect yourself and set boundaries!
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“Helping my hoarding gran is like dealing with an addict.”
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Don’t burn yourself to keep someone else warm.
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Daughter can’t fix mom’s hoarding problem, NTA.
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Common sense says don’t let mom’s hoarding invade your space!
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NTA: Woman’s hoarding habit needs a new therapist
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Understanding the struggles of living with a hoarder
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NTA. Tough love can help her get the necessary help.
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Cleaning therapy for guilt-ridden daughter’s hoarding mom?
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Set boundaries with mom to protect your home
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Therapy not working? Time for a new therapist!
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Therapy, drugs, and adult services: navigating a hoarding dilemma
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Don’t let her hoard YOU. Stay strong
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Setting boundaries with a hoarding mom. NTA for self-care!
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10 years in therapy and no change? NTA for setting boundaries.
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Judging a book by its cover: A confident assumption
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Understanding the irrationality of hoarding and its potential consequences
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Hoarding mom, cats, and cleaning – a challenging family situation
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Last Updated on July 31, 2023 by Diply Social Team