When Christmas Chaos Collides with New Year’s Tradition: A Couple’s Dilemma ⏰

Picture this: You’ve been nurturing a cherished New Year’s tradition with your friends for over a decade. It’s the one time in the year when you all manage to escape the daily grind and reconnect. But then, a last-minute change in your family’s Christmas plans threatens to upend your long-standing tradition. What do you do? Stick to your plans, or bend to the will of the family? This is the predicament our hero, let’s call him ‘Mr. Tradition’, finds himself in. Let’s delve into his story.

A Decade-Long Tradition

The Importance of Friendship

This Year’s Plan

The Unexpected Snag

The Family’s Decision

A Sudden Change in Plans

The Wife’s Assumption ‍♀️

The Clash of Priorities

A Stand for Tradition

The Solo Suggestion

The Logistical Nightmare

Sticking to His Guns

A New Year’s Eve Standoff: Tradition vs Family vs ‍ ‍ ‍

In a classic case of ‘the best-laid plans often go awry’, Mr. Tradition’s cherished New Year’s Eve gathering with friends is threatened by a last-minute rescheduling of his wife’s family Christmas celebration. With his wife insisting that family should take precedence, and him standing firm on the importance of maintaining friendships, they find themselves at a crossroads. Should Mr. Tradition bend to family pressure or stick to his guns and celebrate with his friends? And what about his wife? Should she go solo to her family’s gathering, leaving him to reconnect with his friends? The plot thickens, and the clock is ticking…⏰ Let’s see what the internet thinks of this festive fiasco.

NTA: Wife’s family assumed everyone would be available for NYE

NTA – Friends are family too! Stand up for your traditions

“NTA. Illness happens and weather happens but when you have to reschedule, you take it for granted that some people have existing plans and won’t be able to make it.”

NTA defends long-standing tradition clash with suggestion for New Year’s Day

NTA – A rescheduled event causes chaos and family conflict

Tricky situation, but prioritizing friends over in-laws seems reasonable.

NAH, go your separate ways and avoid unnecessary holiday drama!

NTA. Split up for NYE and let the kids go with wife’s fam.

NTA. Keep your plans, your wife’s being unreasonable.

Keep your plans, but make time for her family later

Changing plans without discussion leads to rude cancellations. NTA.

Etiquette breach! NTA stands up against rude party cancellations.

Rescheduling on NYE without notice? Not cool. NTA for sure!

NTA – Enjoy the party and let the in-laws babysit!

NTA: A tough compromise, but hopefully her family learns.

NAH. Balancing priorities and perspectives in a festive dilemma

NTA. A tough dilemma with no winners. Resentment looms. Good luck!

Miscommunication and rescheduling creates tension. Better communication is key.

NTA: Fair to prioritize plans, but communicate and find compromise

Chosen family is still family. NTA. And if my family had to reschedule and picked a day without asking for input I wouldn’t presume to change set plans without talking to my husband about it. Especially if you’ve recently seen her family & haven’t seen the friends you have plans with since last year.

Wife’s clever plan backfires, leaving husband to handle kids.

NTA, separate plans can be healthy for couples. Divide and conquer!

Friendship imbalance and family time: Who’s really in control?

NTA- Wife’s family changed plans without considering others. Suggest compromise.

Rescheduling on busy nights? NTA, people won’t show up!

NTA: Plans change, people get sick, and if you were near that winter storm everyone keeps talking about I can see why the celebrations were postponed. ️ But at this time of year, people have many things going on, and to assume that everyone would be available, or willing to change their plans, for NYs eve is quite entitled on the part of your MIL/aunt. Sure, reschedule, but don’t be surprised if people can’t make it. Plus, it sounds like you’re not even objecting to your wife attending her family event without you. This is a simple case of having two conflicting events, and two adults having a difference in priorities. Obviously your NYs tradition with your friends doesn’t mean as much to your wife as her family events, and that’s fine. She can attend her event whilst you attend yours. And if she wants, she can cancel the babysitting and take the kids with her.

A heartwarming NTA comment spreads holiday cheer

Rescheduling on a holiday? Not cool! NTA for sure

“NTA It is rude to change plans at the last minute expecting others to change theirs. If it is changed for actual reasons then you cannot in any way expect others to automatically be able or want to accommodate you when you pick a date that is most convenient for you. It is also rude in most instances to dump your plans when you get a ‘better’ offer. Lastly, picking New Years Eve as a damn family get together day is just an a**hole move all around. They should know it is a day others will have things planned and they just didn’t care. Last thing I want to do is hang with family and to expect me to drop something fun for that? NO.”

Is it her friends or just your annual gathering?

NTA– Tough position, keep plans with friends, wife with family.

Being flexible is getting them crucified? ‍♀️

Family conflicts during holidays: prioritize your own plans and feelings

NTA. Separate celebrations can be a win-win for everyone!

Friends are family too! NTA for prioritizing quality time