Picture this: you’re dating someone for over a year, and their birthday is coming up. You offer to pay for a dinner with friends to celebrate, but there’s a catch – you’re a vegetarian with a mild nut allergy. Your boyfriend decides on a restaurant that leaves you with almost nothing to eat. Would you still go? That’s the dilemma one woman faced when her boyfriend insisted on going to a Korean BBQ restaurant for his birthday dinner, despite knowing her dietary restrictions. Let’s dive into this juicy story! ️
The Birthday Plan

A Generous Offer

The Restaurant Choice

Checking the Menu

Peanut Oil Alert

An Alternative Offer

Disappointment and Silence

Apologies and Guilt

Considering the Allergy

Health Issues and Allergies

Still Paying, Regardless

No Veggies, No Compromise

Cross-Contamination Risk ⚠️

A Birthday Dilemma: Soup, Rice, and Disappointment
So, our vegetarian heroine is stuck in a pickle : should she attend her boyfriend’s birthday dinner at a Korean BBQ restaurant where she can only eat rice and soup, or should she stick to her guns and stay home? She’s offered to pay for the meal and even suggested celebrating with pancakes in the morning , but her boyfriend is still disappointed and giving her the silent treatment. With her mild nut allergy and underlying health issues, the stakes are high. What do you think? Should she go or stay home? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this situation…
Vegetarian girlfriend receives mixed judgment for skipping meat-centric birthday dinner

NTA commenter explains peanut oil use in Asian cuisine

Commitment is key in a relationship

YTA for not compromising. Celebrate with him and eat beforehand

Is the girlfriend lying about her dietary restrictions?

Don’t pay for the meal! NTA ♂️
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Vegetarian girlfriend called out for refusing to attend boyfriend’s birthday

Allergy concerns on birthday dinner. NTA for not attending

Commenter defends OP and criticizes boyfriend with and ♂️.

Vegetarian’s allergy concerns dismissed for boyfriend’s birthday dinner ❌ ️

Skipping his birthday dinner: NTA or a-hole move?

Boyfriend is selfish, NTA for refusing to attend dinner

Vegetarian girlfriend refuses unsafe birthday dinner, boyfriend unreasonable.

Vegetarian girlfriend called out for selfishness over boyfriend’s birthday dinner ️

Vegetarian girlfriend refuses to attend boyfriend’s birthday dinner

Vegetarian girlfriend called YTA for refusing Korean BBQ birthday dinner

Vegetarian girlfriend receives YTA judgement for refusing to attend birthday dinner

Boyfriend upset over girlfriend’s food allergy, NTA for prioritizing health

Commenter baffled by OP still paying for meal without attending

Compromise is key! Putting your partner first is important.

NTA. Korean BBQ has nuts and peanut oil. Boyfriend should understand.

Vegetarian with peanut allergy prioritizes others’ happiness over food restrictions

Girlfriend stands up for herself against selfish boyfriend

Where did everyone go? No comments or replies.

Vegetarian commenter shares experience of attending events without food options.

Prioritizing safety over convenience in relationships ✅

Thoughtful NTA offers breakfast instead of triggering allergy attack

NTA offers to pay but can’t eat, BF should compromise

Girlfriend is NTA for refusing to attend meat-centric dinner

NTA comment defends vegetarians and criticizes aggressive commenters.

Mod went crazy, but commenter says NTA.

Choosing a restaurant where the person paying can’t enjoy a meal is rude AF

Communication is key in relationships . Both need to clarify expectations. ESH.

NTA, soup, and awkward explanations at boyfriend’s birthday dinner

Offering to pay for everything makes NTA, but compromise needed

Stand your ground! Don’t pay for a dinner you’re skipping

NTA. Boyfriend’s birthday dinner offer was unfair. Stand your ground

Limited vegetarian options at Korean BBQ, but YTA for skipping.

Compromise is key! NTA for having food allergies.

A considerate partner chooses a restaurant that accommodates both diets

Commenter calls out OP for being TA and suggests compromises.

Commenter calls out YTA for lying about peanut allergy

Curiosity piqued: What juicy drama was in the deleted comments?

Supportive comment defends vegetarian girlfriend’s decision not to attend dinner.

OP is NTA for prioritizing their safety over BF’s birthday
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Vegetarian struggles to attend boyfriend’s birthday dinner, gets criticized.

Vegetarian girlfriend called ‘a**hole’ for skipping boyfriend’s birthday dinner

NTA defends vegetarian girlfriend’s choice to not attend boyfriend’s birthday.

Commenters outraged by mod censorship in YTA thread

Compromising is key in relationships. NTA for not attending dinner.
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Curious commenter wonders about deleted comments

Allergic to everything on the menu, NTA for not attending

NTA comment predicts relationship demise with Vanderpump Rules reference

Straightforward verdict with a touch of sass

Compromise is key: both parties share blame in this situation
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Compromise is key in relationships ❤️

Suggests relooking at things and having a sit-down chat

Boyfriend’s insensitivity to girlfriend’s dietary choices sparks justified reaction.

Vegetarian commenter empathizes with girlfriend’s dietary restrictions. NAH.

NTA. Boyfriend should accommodate vegetarian girlfriend’s eating habits

Allergy not taken seriously, paying for meal not enough

Vegan suggests asking for accommodations at Korean BBQ restaurant

NTA for paying, but what about compromising for girlfriend?

Respectful NTA comment defends vegetarian girlfriend’s decision not to attend.

Former vegetarian suggests eating beforehand and not expecting accommodation. ESH.

Commenter calls out vegetarian for being unreasonable and lying

Comment section seems quiet, did everyone leave?

Straight to the point: YTA.

User calls out OP for seeking validation and ignoring advice

Partner’s my-way-or-the-highway attitude puts vegetarian GF at risk

Choosing a restaurant over partner’s health? NTA wins.

Vegetarian commenter says YTA for not compromising on birthday dinner.

NTA. Korean BBQ not veg-friendly. He ignores your nut allergy.

Compromise on birthday dinner menu or skip it? YTA verdict.

Standing up for vegetarianism at a KBBQ spot . NTA.

Boyfriend’s birthday dinner: NTA offers to pay, GF wants veggie

Take the high road . Don’t fund a meal you’re excluded from.

Meat-eating commenter defends OP, questions ex’s reaction to allergy.

Offering to pay but making a deal out of it? YTA

NTA. Boyfriend is selfish and inconsiderate for not accommodating allergies.
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Dump the boyfriend, girl. You’re NTA

Allergic girlfriend suggests private meal for boyfriend’s birthday

Boyfriend prioritizes BBQ over girlfriend’s allergy. NTA.

When in doubt, find a vegetarian man

Empathetic reply to NTA comment on boyfriend’s birthday dinner

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