Meet our story’s main character, a 38-year-old single man, who we’ll call ‘Uncle Generosity.’ He’s childless by choice but has a close-knit relationship with his niece and nephew, Stephanie and Alexander. Uncle Generosity owns a bookstore near a major university, where both Stephanie and Alexander have been working since they were 15. He offered them a choice: weekly payments or a college fund. Stephanie chose wisely, Alexander, not so much. Now, as college looms, the family’s financial dynamics are about to get a whole lot more complicated…
The Uncle’s Generous Offer

A Tale of Two Choices

The Spendthrift Nephew

Family’s Financial Fumble

The Unfair Proposal

Uncle’s Stance: No Bailout! ♂️

Grandparents Join the Fray

The Family Rift Threat

Uncle’s Final Stand

Uncle’s Dilemma: To Bail Out or Not?
So, here we are, at the heart of a family conflict that’s as much about money as it is about principles. Uncle Generosity, the man in the middle, is torn between his love for his nephew and his sense of fairness. He believes in the value of hard work and saving, principles Stephanie has embraced, but Alexander has disregarded. The grandparents’ plea to dip into his emergency savings to bail out Alexander has left him in a moral quandary. Should he give in to family pressure and potentially breed resentment, or stand his ground and risk causing a family rift? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this sticky situation…
Stealing Stephanie’s hard-earned college fund for entitled brother? NTA

“NTA. Stephanie earned her money. Ask your parents for contribution.”

“NTA. You paid what you owed her. Boss mentality! “
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Stealing wages for college fund? NTA. Curious about the math.

Stephanie’s college fund is hers, not the uncle’s to share.

Split retirement money for college fund! Not fair. NTA

NTA – Let Stephanie decide how to use her hard-earned money!

Generous uncle deals with family feud over college fund.

NTA, parents not contributing. Teenagers can be responsible with money.

Sibling rivalry over college fund sparks family feud!

“1000% this is not *your* money. You offered a deal to an employee that their *wages* could go into a college fund or could be paid weekly. For you to even think that *you* could take money from there and give it to the nephew is ridiculous. This is not ‘you contributing to her college fund’, this is her benefiting from her own college savings. Also, my guess is you got a nice tax break from doing this, so AH*100 for even considering it. She would 100% be in the right to accuse you of wage theft if you do. Would they suggest this if it was a different, unrelated employee or is it only okay because they are related?
I can’t say it enough, this is not your money to mess with, it is Stephanie’s.
Also, tell all the flying-monkey relatives to gtfo with all their ‘dream school’ crap. He was offered this option, chose against, didn’t save.” ✋”
NTA. Don’t give away your emergency fund!

NTA. Parents can bail Alexander out or he can take loans.

Déjà vu! Familiar college fund conundrum sparks Reddit reunion!

Nephew’s entitlement sparks debate: dream school or fulfilling life?

NTA. Tough love teaches valuable lessons. Don’t let them bully you!

No college fund after choosing pay. NTA. No additional money owed.

NTA, your parents are. Alexander made his choice of payment and it’s not your fault he was irresponsible with it. This could be a good wake up call for him.

Stealing from niece’s college fund? SIL ITA!

Parents have no right to control college fund. NTA!

Sibling’s ‘NTA’ comment sparks concern over grandparents’ sexist views

NTA – Alexander’s financial options and concerns about deferring college.

Stephanie deserves the college fund! Alexander needs financial aid.

NTA. Protect Stephanie’s hard-earned money and let Alexander figure it out.

NTA. Alexander’s choice, his responsibility. Parents can’t dictate your finances.

NTA. Don’t touch Stephanie’s money! It’s his loss if he can’t afford college.

Parents’ ridiculous request sparks justified backlash.

NTA. Investing vs. poor choices: Family feud over college fund!

Stealing? NTA! College fund sparks a family feud!

NTA. Parents enabling irresponsible spending. Alex should learn financial responsibility.

Fairness questioned: NTA won’t cave to pressure, niece’s future impacted

Fair pay for equal work, but Stephanie earned more hours.

NTA, family wants you to steal niece’s wages. Emphasize she *earned* it!

Rewarding thrift and teaching financial responsibility.

Mom’s interference in college fund sparks family feud!

Parents demanding sister’s college fund for brother? Not the a**hole!

Stand your ground! Don’t let irresponsible nephew ruin your future!

NTA: Don’t bail out Alexander, it’s unethical and possibly illegal!

NTA. Fair opportunity, but weigh the risks. Family discussion needed.

NTA. Tough love teaches responsibility. No free rides!

A familiar tale with a modern twist!

NTA: You did a great thing! Let him learn the hard way.

NTA: Taking from Stephanie’s hard-earned fund is unfair and stealing.
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NTA. Fairness and responsibility should not be compromised for favoritism.

NTA. Sister’s hard-earned college fund shouldn’t be sacrificed for brother’s education.

“NTA. The college fund is Stephanie’s hard-earned money! “

NTA – Using Stephanie’s money would be wage theft.

NTA. Disgusting attitude. Family favoritism. Shitty situation. You helped.

Stick to your guns! NTA for spending your own money.

NTA. Don’t reward poor planning
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NTA suggests alternatives to giving money to nephew for college.
