Asian College Student Calls Out Friend for Self-Hate, Tears Ensue

We all have that one friend who takes jokes a little too far, but what happens when those jokes start to cross the line? Meet our 20-year-old Asian protagonist, who’s attending an out-of-state college with a limited Asian population. She quickly befriends another Asian girl, also 20, who’s adopted by white parents. The two hit it off, but things take a turn when the friend starts making negative comments about Asians and their own shared ethnicity.

A New Friendship Forms

Bonding Over Similarities

A Troubling Pattern Emerges

More Disturbing Remarks

A Bold Declaration

Enough is Enough

Confronting the Issue ️

The Request

A Harsh Truth

A Stand Against Self-Hate

Our protagonist had enough of her friend’s constant negative jabs at their shared culture and confronted her about it. She asked her friend to stop making these hurtful jokes and called her out for being self-hating. But instead of understanding, the friend freaked out, claiming that as an adoptee, our protagonist had no right to tell her how to adapt to her culture. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this emotionally charged situation…

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