The Unexpected Baby: A Single Woman’s Struggle with an Unwanted Adoption

Imagine waking up one day to find that you’ve been chosen to adopt a child, without your consent or desire. This is the reality for a 25-year-old single woman, who, due to an accident in her teen years, cannot have children of her own. Content with being the ‘cool aunt’, she’s suddenly thrust into the role of a potential mother when a young woman she knows loses custody of her child. The twist? She never asked for this responsibility.

A Life of Independence

The Unexpected Call

A Temporary Solution?

The Adoption Twist

The Unwanted Responsibility

The Decision

The Aftermath

A Baby, a Decision, and a World of Drama

Caught in a whirlwind of unexpected responsibility, our protagonist finds herself at the center of a moral dilemma. She’s been unwillingly thrust into the role of a potential mother to a child she never asked for. With the real mother, Ali, shirking her responsibilities, our protagonist is left to grapple with the decision of adopting the child or letting her go into the foster system. Despite her best intentions, she’s faced with backlash and name-calling from Ali, who had hoped to remain a part of the child’s life without the responsibilities of motherhood. Now, she’s left questioning whether she made the right decision. Let’s delve into the internet’s reaction to this emotionally charged situation. ‍

NTA – OP’s selfless act deserves kudos for putting baby first

“Confused. NTA except for the part where you really don’t seem to see Ali very clearly.”

“NTA. Ali wants to be a mom when it’s convenient “

NTA. Adoption is a better chance for a healthy life

NTA – Don’t let Ali guilt you, protect the child

NTA, Ali’s interference would cause years of heartache for you and Ann

NTA. You’re making a tough but selfless choice for Ann.

NTA, walk away and block her. It’s a baby, not a doll

“NTA: Ali’s surprise baby bombshell is beyond outrageous! “

NTA! You don’t have to justify giving the child away.

Supportive comment: Woman defends choice against unwanted adoption

Hilarious comment calling out Ali for giving away child. NTA!

Fighting for your rights and standing up against unwanted adoption! ✊

You’re not the a**hole! You made the right decision!

NTA. You did what you could for Ann while maintaining boundaries

NTA – Standing up for yourself and the child

Choosing not to have a child: self-care over judgment.

NTA! Saying ‘No’ is a complete sentence.

NTA. Ali is projecting her failures as a mom onto you

NTA. Ali has no basis to demand an unwanted adoption.

NTA. Ali tried to force responsibility on you. Tell the truth!

Refusing a manipulative role, she stands up for herself and children. ✊

Adoption dilemma: Boundaries blurred with a clingy birth mother. NTA

Not the a**hole for making a difficult decision

NTA: A selfish mother tries to pawn off her responsibilities.

NTA, you don’t owe Ali anything. Ignore the name calling.

NTA: Ann deserves a loving family, Ali’s access can wait

NTA. The bloody gall.

NTA. Ali is though. She can’t just choose you to raise her baby without asking.

Family member suggests taking unwanted baby. You’re not obligated. NTA

NTA. Ann deserves a loving family. Ali is being selfish.

Ali’s true intentions revealed: she wants you to raise her child while she comes and goes as she pleases. #NTA

Take control of your life and block the naysayers!

Supportive comment: NTA, you made the right call for you

NTA. Ali’s opinion is irrelevant. You do you!

Friend wanted cake and icing, but couldn’t handle the mess

NTA: The commenter supports the OP’s decision to not be a parent and criticizes the biological parent’s behavior.

“NTA. She wanted attention, not responsibility. You did the right thing.”

NTA. Adoption is best for the child’s well-being

NTA: The unexpected burden of an unwanted adoption.

NTA: She wants someone she knows to have her baby

NTA! The girl’s manipulation was insane. You did the right thing stepping in, but now the baby has a better chance of adoption.

You’re not the a**hole for refusing to adopt Ali’s baby

“NTA

Never dump a child onto anyone else. Regardless of the situation. And considering you’re single and in a single income household, how the heck are you meant to work AND be a full-time parent without backup from a partner? If you need to take sick leave or any extended unpaid leave, who’s going to pay then?

And yes, I know there are heaps of single parents out there. But in your situation, you weren’t even given the choice.”

NTA, she must choose: be a parent or lose Ann

NTA: Don’t want kids? Don’t let others force parenthood on you!

Cut ties with those a**holes and move on. ‍♀️

NTA, block Ali, let CPS handle it. You made right call

A selfish plan: Using a child as a free babysitter

NTA. Ali sounds like a spoiled teenager trying to pin her mistakes on someone else. You did the right thing removing yourself from the situation so the baby can be adopted by a good family ‍ ‍

NTA. Ali’s expectation to still be in your life is unreasonable. ‍♀️

Cut her out! NTA. Your life, your choice

NTA. Ali’s decision, not yours. Don’t let her guilt trip you.

NTA, your valid reasons and selflessness are commendable.

NTA! Standing up for yourself and setting boundaries is important

Beware! Don’t let her use and abuse you!

Rewards without the hard work. You did what the baby needed

NTA – She set you up

NTA. She wanted you to do all the work and spend all the money to raise her child.

Choosing not to be a parent when you don’t want to

NTA for prioritizing Ann’s best interest over Ali’s selfishness.

Ali’s mental health issues and manipulation led to the adoption.

NTA. Ali tried to pawn off her mistake on you

NTA. Ali is trying to be a mama bird

NTA, block her and dodge the bullet

NTA for not agreeing to an unexpected adoption. Stand your ground!

Ali’s irresponsibility puts the burden of adoption on you.

Unanswered questions about the baby’s father and potential intentions.

NTA: Unwanted adoption, no discussion. You made the right choice.

Stand up for your choices! No one should pressure you!

NTA: Woman wants to play mommy but not take responsibility

NTA: Wanting to be in the kid’s life but not wanting the kid.

NTA. Don’t let an 18-year-old force her kid on you

Ali wants the privileges of being a mom, without the responsibilities.

NTA. Giving the baby a chance with a loving family

NTA…and f**k Ali! You went above and beyond for her child. How dare she try to get mad at you when she’s the deadbeat a**hole! Where’s everyone else? Her mom, your brother?

NTA. Ali’s got a plan that benefits themself and respects you!

OP’s selfless decision to prioritize child’s welfare.

NTA at all! Ali wanted kids but not the responsibility. You were the only one focused on the child. Tell the haters they can adopt Ann if they want!

Not the a**hole for choosing adoption

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