Imagine being a loving parent, only to have your partner suddenly leave you, move to another country, and start a new family. That’s the reality for one woman, who’s now faced with a heart-wrenching decision. Her ex-husband, who was once a great father to their daughter, has become terminally ill and wants their child to spend a month with him before he passes away. But after three years of being an absentee parent, is it fair for him to make such a request? This mom is torn between her sympathy for her ex and the emotional well-being of her daughter.
The Divorce and the New Life
From Primary Parent to Absentee Dad
The Heartbreaking News
A Desperate Request
Sympathy vs. Stability
New Adjustments and Family Dynamics
Pregnancy Complications
Too Busy for His Daughter
Daughter’s Feelings
The Last Chance
Negotiating Time
The Dilemma
Travel Restrictions
No Time for His First Daughter
A History of Neglect
A Mother’s Heartbreaking Choice
This mother’s world has been turned upside down by her ex-husband’s terminal illness and his sudden request to spend a month with their daughter. After years of being an absentee parent, he now wants to make up for lost time. But with her daughter adjusting to a new family and her own pregnancy, this mom is torn between granting her ex’s dying wish and protecting her daughter’s emotional well-being. Is it fair for him to ask for this time, or is it too little, too late? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Ex wants last-minute quality time with daughter before death, but only to absolve his guilt. Daughter’s wellbeing should be prioritized. NTA
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NTA. Ex demands daughter visit him alone in foreign country.
Sending an 11-year-old alone to a foreign country is too risky
Concerns raised about ex’s potential scheme to abduct daughter abroad
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NTA shares experience of custody battle, advises against sending daughter abroad
Abandoned father demands quality time with daughter before death. Commenters sympathize with daughter and suggest counseling and apology.
NTA commenter and a reply suggest not sending daughter to dying father.
Virtual quality time is still quality time.
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Should the daughter be given a choice to see her dying father?
Sending daughter with trusted adult to terminally ill ex’s home.
Terminally ill father refuses week-long compromise to spend time with daughter
Agreement that daughter shouldn’t travel alone due to current instability
Doubting a terminally ill person’s illness is not cool
Father wants to see daughter before dying but already abandoned her. NTA.
Heart-wrenching decision: daughter’s last visit with dying father.
Daughter’s safety first, terminally ill ex demands too much. NTA
Father’s refusal of 1 week option raises questions
Commenter expresses concern for child’s safety during trip abroad.
Ex demands unreasonable month-long visit from terminally ill daughter. NTA.
Daughter’s desire to see terminally ill father vs. potential risks
Daughter’s safety is top priority, NTA for denying request
NTA won’t send daughter alone to ex’s country, risk of kidnapping
Ex demands daughter’s time after neglecting her, NTA.
Father’s illness restricts travel, but wants time with daughter
Compromise for 2 weeks to prioritize daughter’s well-being
Put your daughter’s needs first, let her decide. NTA
Daughter deserves a say in spending time with estranged dying father
Offer compromise and chaperone if daughter agrees to visit terminally ill ex
NTA. Sending an 11-year-old to another country alone? No way.
Choosing to let the other parent be primary has consequences. NTA
Daughter’s opinion matters, consider her wishes
Putting a child in this position is tough. NTA.
Involving the daughter in decision-making process for closure
A blunt and decisive rejection
Generous offer to help terminally ill ex’s daughter visit
Engaging advice on communication and logistics for terminal illness situation
Letting daughter decide on quality time with dying parent
NTA but one month isn’t enough, daughter may resent later
Empower the daughter to make her own choice
Personal experience highlights importance of daughter’s choice to see father
Seek counseling and legal advice before allowing visitation abroad
Daughter’s right to say goodbye, but needs support to process
Prioritizing the child’s feelings in a difficult situation
Suggesting a compromise for terminally ill ex’s daughter visit
NTA, daughter should have chance to make good memories with dad
Ex demands daughter visit after being absentee father for years. NTA.
Father’s terminal illness doesn’t excuse 3 years of abandonment.
Suggests ex’s new husband chaperone daughter to see dying father.
Daughter’s decision, but don’t let her go alone.
NTA. Suggests virtual communication and professional support for daughter’s grieving process.
Daughter’s emotional safety is priority, hard NO to visit.
Father demands daughter’s time after 3 years of neglect
Ex demands time with daughter, but medical excuse seems weak. NTA
Father demands last-minute time with daughter, judged NTA by commenters.
Last Updated on June 5, 2023 by Diply Social Team
