Growing up, our 17-year-old heroine was always treated differently by her grandparents, simply because she was a girl. They showered her male cousins with love, attention, and money, while she was left feeling ignored and hurt. Now, her parents expect her to take care of these same grandparents in the future, but she’s not having it. Let’s dive into her story and see how she’s standing up for herself. ✨
The Unfair Treatment Begins ♀️

Boys Over Girls?

Cold Shoulders and Broken Hearts

The Favoritism Continues

Money Talks

The Unwanted Responsibility

A Mother’s Disapproval ♀️

Standing Her Ground

Parents’ Anger

Thankful for Support

The Sacrifice They Want

Plans to Move Away ✈️

Not Giving Up

The Reasons Behind It All

Taking a Stand Against Discrimination
Our brave 17-year-old protagonist has had enough of her grandparents’ blatant favoritism and discrimination. Despite her parents’ insistence that she take care of them in the future, she’s standing her ground and refusing to be used. She’s even planning to move away from her family soon to escape the unfair expectations. Let’s see what the internet thinks of her courageous decision…
Breaking away from discrimination: A justified decision

Breaking Asian gender norms and parental expectations

17F stands up against oppressive tradition, receives first award

Generational responsibility debate in Asian cultures. NTA wins.

Grandparents favor boys, NTA suggests they care for them instead

Gender discrimination and caregiving? Not the a-hole here

Toxic family members don’t deserve care. NTA

Granddaughter refuses to care for sexist grandparents. NTA
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Cultural norms aside, NTA for not caring for discriminatory grandparents

Don’t let toxic family drag you down. Move away

NTA stands up to discriminatory grandparents and refuses to be used

NTA. They had their chance to treat you right

Mixed Asian commenter supports teen’s decision to refuse care.

Grandparents lying about culture, NTA for refusing to care for them

Breaking down Asian misogyny in family dynamics

Teen refuses to care for discriminatory grandparents

Breaking the chain of mental abuse, NTA

Grandfather showed favoritism, NTA for refusing to care for grandparents
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Teen refuses to care for grandparents due to sexist expectations.

Grandma’s karma catches up, teen takes stand.

NTA. Commenter points out lack of logic in grandparents’ request

Cutting ties with discriminatory grandparents.

Grandparents’ cultural expectations clash with granddaughter’s values. NTA.

Empowering advice to leave toxic family and prioritize happiness

Breaking the cycle of family caretaker expectations.

NTA, but play along, then gtfo & don’t be used

Grandparents discriminated against her, NTA for refusing to care for them

Empowering response to grandparents’ discrimination. You go, queen!

NTA. Family stuck in middle ages. Go NC, live life
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NTA, stand up for yourself and cut toxic family ties

Tips on how to handle manipulative family members.

Traditional gender roles used against her, but she throws it back.

Breaking cultural norms, standing firm, and getting away. NTA

Navigating cultural expectations and caregiving responsibilities in Asian families

Empathetic response and helpful resource for OP.

Clever excuse to avoid discrimination. NTA wins this one

Breaking toxic traditions, NTA for refusing to care for grandparents

Grandparents expected care but didn’t invest in relationship. NTA

Gender bias in caregiving for family members. NTA stands firm.

NTA. Male cousins should care for grandparents. Nursing home is alternative.

NTA. Suggesting a fake husband to avoid discrimination

Choosing to care for parents should not be forced. NTA

Breaking the stereotype of filial piety. #NTA

Grandparents face consequences of their discrimination. NTA wins.
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No need to put life on hold, NTA

Skipping a generation in caregiving? Sexism at play

Daughter refuses to care for discriminatory grandparents. NTA

NTA. No obligation to care for grandparents. Disappoint parents often

Grandparents get what they deserve.

Teen stands up to discriminatory grandparents, NTA
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Grandparents’ discrimination leads to caregiving refusal. NTA wins!

Self-care first You don’t owe anyone your love or care.

Grandparents show favoritism, teen refuses to care for them. NTA.

Grandparents show favoritism, teen refuses to care for them. NTA.

Politely declining now could avoid conflict later

Breaking tradition: Teen refuses to care for discriminatory grandparents

Move out, do what you want. NTA

User suggests offering to take care of passive aggressive parents

Discrimination against granddaughter is unacceptable in any century.

Standing up to toxic family is empowering

User questions why the teen won’t care for grandparents.
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Daughter refuses to care for discriminatory grandparents, parents prioritize wives?

Asian girl refuses to care for discriminatory grandparents
