Meet our protagonist, a 5’3 woman with a six-figure job, married to a seven-foot-tall ‘husky bear’ of a man who’s a stay-at-home dad. Their harmonious life is disrupted when societal norms come knocking at their door. The husband, a frugal man with a passion for woodworking, recently took up a part-time job to kill time. However, his father and their friends believe he should be more ambitious and get a ‘real job’. The wife, loving their current arrangement, is now conflicted. Let’s delve into their story.
A Match Made in Heaven
The Domestic God
The Financial Balance
The Woodworking Enthusiast
The Part-Time Job ️
The Father’s Disapproval
The Father-in-Law’s Pressure
Friends’ Judgement
The Wife’s Dilemma
To Pressure or Not to Pressure: The Wife’s Conundrum ♀️
In a world where societal norms often dictate our lives, our protagonist finds herself in a tricky situation. Her husband, a loving stay-at-home dad with an engineering degree, recently took up a part-time job. However, his father and their friends believe he should aspire for more, pushing her to pressure him into getting a ‘real job’. Torn between societal expectations and their blissful domestic life, she questions if she’s holding him back. But is ambition the only measure of a ‘real man’? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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Being a SAHD is being a ‘real man’. NTA!
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