Imagine trying to cope with the heartbreaking loss of a miscarriage while being accused of not caring about your sister’s baby. That’s exactly what happened to a 34-year-old man and his wife after suffering their third miscarriage. To make matters worse, his sister’s girlfriend, Brenda, lashes out at him for not being there for the baby. Let’s dive into this emotional rollercoaster of a story.
The Struggle to Have a Child
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Sister’s New Life
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A Source of Joy
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Tragic Loss
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Ashley’s Struggles
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Diagnosed with PPD
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Road Trip for Healing
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Brenda’s Request
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Kind Refusal
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Brenda’s Anger
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Accusations Fly
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The Last Straw
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Confronting Brenda
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Showing Brenda the Door
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Questioning His Actions
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Man Defends His Wife Amidst Grief and Accusations
In the midst of coping with their third miscarriage, a man and his wife are confronted by his sister’s girlfriend, Brenda. She accuses them of not caring about their baby and being selfish for taking a trip to visit family. The man, however, stands up for his wife, saying she doesn’t need Brenda’s toxic vibes during this difficult time. He asks Brenda to leave their house and take her negativity with her. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this emotionally charged situation…
NTA. Standing up for wife against entitled sister-in-law and girlfriend.

NTA. Brenda’s demand for free childcare is unreasonable and lacking empathy

Commenter defends OP, calls out sister’s girlfriend for being AH

Putting family first and guilt-tripping is messed up
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Grieving man not responsible for sister’s girlfriend’s baby

Protecting wife’s mental health after miscarriage, NTA

Man stands his ground on refusing to babysit. NTA

Supportive comment suggests sister’s girlfriend overstepped boundaries with new baby

Defending wife after miscarriage, man called NTA by commenter

Defending against insensitive demands during a difficult time.

Family check-ins may reveal if Brenda mistreated new mom

Heartbreaking miscarriage story, NTA for not wanting to see baby

NTA offers compassionate advice and suggests help from family.

Supportive commenters offer advice on family and therapy
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Supportive comment defends man’s decision, empathizes with his losses

Brenda knew about miscarriage before asking for babysitting. NTA.

Supportive comment reminds OP to prioritize wife over sister’s girlfriend

Commenter empathizes with OP’s pain and defends his actions

Heartfelt comment supports couple after insensitive accusation

Commenter sympathizes with miscarriage and offers NAH judgement. Reply calls girlfriend TA.

User shares their experience with miscarriage and offers support and advice.

Commenter empathizes with OP’s wife and defends them against accusations

OP confirms Brenda knew about the miscarriages.

New dad gets accused of not caring for baby
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Brenda’s knowledge of miscarriage questioned, but NTA prevails

Supportive comment calls out Brenda’s behavior.

NTA for taking care of wife. Brenda’s behavior is unacceptable

NTA shows empathy for PPD and miscarriage struggles

Navigating PPD and miscarriage is tough. Brenda was inconsiderate, but TA for getting angry.

NTA. Brenda’s behavior is crummy timing, hope everyone can heal.

NAH situation, but Brenda’s stress is contributing to her behavior

Couple receives support and advice after miscarriages ❤️

Prioritizing sister’s toxic girlfriend over mental health? NTA, definitely.

Man prioritizes wife after loss, accused of not caring. NTA
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“NTA” comment shuts down girlfriend’s lack of empathy accusation

Supportive comment to man dealing with wife’s miscarriage and sister’s PPD.

Supportive comment defends man’s actions during partner’s PPD and miscarriages

Insensitive girlfriend accuses grieving couple of neglecting baby
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Supportive comment offers sympathy and advice for prioritizing mental health

Helpful advice on miscarriages and testing for disorders.

Supportive comment on dealing with miscarriage and prioritizing family.

Man’s guilt over miscarriage causes tension with sister’s girlfriend

NTA for declining to babysit your sister’s child.

Defending his wife after miscarriage, man called cruel by sister’s girlfriend

Condolences given for a loss in a sympathetic comment section

Supportive comment on miscarriage, use of sad emoji .

Commenter’s violent response to NTA comment

Compassionate reply to a difficult situation.

Supporting wife, not sister’s girlfriend, is top priority

Commenter judged NTA, but where are the replies?

NTA. Brenda is TA for not respecting their loss and decision.

NTA. Brenda’s entitlement is off the charts

Compassionate comment acknowledges struggles of losing a third baby.

Supportive comment about not being entitled to special treatment with baby

NTA. SIL behaving like a monster Hopefully she apologizes.

Supportive comment advocates for mental health and criticizes partner’s behavior.
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NTA stands up for man accused of insensitivity

NTA defends couple who refused to take care of sister’s baby

NTA shuts down sister’s selfish behavior with ‘Yeetus Deletus’

Supportive comment receives sympathy in baby accusation situation

Commenter sympathizes with mental health struggles and sets boundaries.

NTA stands up for planned trip amidst baby drama
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Suggests adoption for struggling couple, considerate and empathetic response.

Not the a**hole for not helping with baby. Compassionate response.

Setting boundaries with family members can be tough

Setting boundaries with family, NTA for prioritizing own life

Sister’s girlfriend crosses boundaries and accuses man of neglecting baby
