Sister Says They’re Not Family, But Still Wants Help?

We all have our own beliefs and ideas about family, but what happens when those beliefs lead to cutting off your own family members? Meet Jenny, who believes that when you get married, you completely leave your family behind. But when life throws curveballs her way, she suddenly needs her family’s help. Will her sister be there for her, or will she remind Jenny of her own beliefs? ‍♀️

Jenny’s Extreme Beliefs

Cutting Off the Family

No Wedding Invite for You!

New Baby, Same Response

Jenny’s House Burns Down

A Temporary Reunion

Back to No Contact

Jenny Needs Help Again

Sister’s Tough Response

Mom Steps In

Family Drama Continues

A Sister’s Dilemma: To Help or Not to Help?

Jenny’s belief that marriage means leaving your family behind has led to years of no contact with her sister. But when life hits hard, she comes running back for help. Her sister, feeling used, reminds Jenny of her own beliefs and refuses to help. Now, with their mom stepping in and sending money, the family is divided on whether the sister should apologize or not. What do you think? Should she have helped her sister, or is Jenny’s double standard too much to bear?

NTA. Jenny only thinks you’re family when she needs something.

Commenters suspect sister’s husband is controlling or she’s in a cult

Cutting ties with sister who doesn’t consider you family

Don’t give strangers money! NTA for saying no

Sister cuts contact until she needs help? NTA, cut ties

Sister claims you’re not family but still wants help? NTA

Commenter questions if sister is a victim of abuse or impairment

Sister wants help but doesn’t consider you family? NTA.

Sister disowns family but won’t miss a friend’s wedding?

Outlaw family member refuses to help sister, cue gunshots

Commenter suggests sister’s behavior may be due to mental illness

Sister only considers you family when it’s convenient. NTA

Sister sets rules but wants help when she needs money? NTA.

Sister goes no contact with family after marriage? NTA perplexed.

Commenter suggests something is wrong with sister’s extreme behavior

Cutting family ties when they’re only convenient for them.

Setting boundaries with entitled family members. Good job!

Commenter clarifies cultural background, no influence on sister’s behavior

Jenny’s no-contact policy with family causing distress

Family or not, boundaries are important. Stand your ground!

Sister only wants help when she needs it. NTA

Choosing boundaries in family relationships is commendable.

Other family should help, not your responsibility.

Is the sister in a cult?

Doubts arise about the story’s authenticity and Jenny’s mental health

Curious commenter gets sassy reply.

Sister claims they’re not family but wants help? NTA

Commenter offers empathy and advice for OP’s hurtful situation.

Sister only remembers you when it’s convenient. You’re NTA

Family or not, can’t have it both ways.

Commenter questions lack of communication with estranged sister

Therapy didn’t work, but something’s wrong with her programming?

Sister disowns family, abuses trust, and mom enables her behavior. NTA.

Demand to know what you are to her. NTA.

Sister wants help but acts like a stranger? NTA

Sister disowns you but still wants help? NTA, time to heal

Family or not, she can’t have it both ways!

Sibling not entitled to help, shows concerning cult-like tendencies

Bizarre interpretation of marriage in a cult? NTA.

Setting boundaries with family can be tough, but NTA

Standing up to family freeloaders

OP’s sister only wants to be family when she needs help

Confusion and disbelief in the face of nonsensical situation.

Commenter questions sister’s medieval views and advises therapy.

NTA stands firm against entitled sister’s unreasonable demands.

Cutting off family or just a leech? NTA’s dilemma

Commenter calls out culty thinking in NTA post.

Respected sister’s boundary, not on call for family demands. NTA

Sister hates family, left at first chance. OP tried mending.

NTA. She’s a parasite, not a sister.

Confusion and disbelief in the face of a baffling situation.

Commenter offers possible explanations for sister’s extreme beliefs.

Sibling conflict and financial issues, NTA suggests therapy.

Family when she needs something? Not the a**hole, stand firm!

Jenny only shows up when she needs something.

Setting boundaries with a hurtful sister.

Stand your ground! Don’t apologize for setting boundaries.

Sister’s mental health affects family dynamics. NTA suggests self-help.

Family only when she needs something? NTA stands firm.

Setting boundaries with family can be tough. NTA here.

Commenter not at fault, no replies yet.

When your sister only reaches out when she needs money ‍♀️

Suggests keeping an eye on sister, looking for signs of abuse