Sister Constantly Compared to Late Wife: Who’s Crossing the Line?

Imagine being constantly compared to your spouse’s late partner. That’s the reality for one woman, who we’ll call Amy. Her husband, let’s call him BIL, lost his high school sweetheart, Betty, 10 years ago. Now, he’s married to Amy, but he can’t seem to stop making comparisons between the two women. It’s gotten to the point where Amy’s sister had to step in and confront BIL about his behavior. But was she in the right? Let’s dive into this emotionally charged story.

The Unfortunate Backstory

A New Love Blooms

Comparisons Begin

Cooking Skills in Question ️

Hair Envy

Amy’s Struggle

Lunchtime Confrontation

Dog Dilemma

Taking Matters into Her Own Hands

BIL’s Defense ️

A Natural Comparison?

Agree to Disagree

Caught in a Web of Comparisons ️

So, we have a sister feeling helpless as her husband constantly compares her to his late wife. Amy’s sister stepped in and confronted BIL, but he thinks it’s just a natural comparison and a way to honor Betty’s memory. The situation remains unresolved, but it’s clear that emotions are running high and lines are being crossed. Let’s see what the internet has to say about this heart-wrenching dilemma.

New wife constantly compared to late wife, not honoring.

Calling out the use of dead wife’s name to hurt. NTA

BIL’s behavior is unacceptable, sister needs to stand up for herself.

Partner’s constant comparison is damaging to sister’s well-being. NTA.

NTA comment warns of rough road ahead for sister

BIL’s ‘funny’ comparisons are destroying sister’s self-esteem. NTA.

BIL needs help, sister deserves better. NTA

Moving on from the past: NTA needs help to heal

Supportive comment calls out inappropriate behavior towards late wife comparison.

BIL’s comparisons to late wife causing issues in current relationship.

NTA OP needs to continue to call out unhealthy behavior

Kindly addressing a sensitive topic without being heartless

Stand up for your sister and call out the behavior

Comparing current wife to dead wife? Not cool. NTA.

NTA comment: Comparisons are natural but can be hurtful. Firm response

Sibling defends sister from insensitive husband, NTA wins

Dealing with a partner’s obsession with their late spouse.

Comparing sister to late wife: NTA for not crossing line

BIL’s behavior is cruel and damaging, NTA for speaking up.

Widower calls out emotionally abusive BIL. NTA.

Comparing current partner to late spouse can ruin relationships.

Late wife comparisons not jokes. NTA for intervening.

Sister’s husband constantly compares her to late wife. Commenter suggests playing his game and reminding him of his shortcomings.

Navigating grief in a new relationship.

Supportive comment calls out husband’s behavior, encourages sister’s independence.

Intervening in sister’s relationship could backfire. Sister needs to communicate.

Sister deserves better, BIL needs counseling. NTA.

Savage revenge plan or justified comeback?

Empathetic reply acknowledges sister’s struggle with abusive comparison.

NTA comment suggests therapy for man comparing sister to deceased wife.

Supportive comment on post delivery and NTA judgement.

Woman suggests clever comebacks to husband’s unfair comparisons.

Comparing late wife with current wife is not okay. NTA.

Dating a widower with a shrine to their late partner

Suggests making sarcastic comments to BIL, calls for confrontation.

NTA calls out widower’s behavior, suspects he was always a dick ‍♀️

User suggests therapy for man using late wife to hurt sister

NTA warns sister about potential heartbreak with widower

Supportive comment advises to let sister handle inappropriate behavior

Deceased wife as soulmate, sister can’t live up. Not fair

Finding a way to remember without insulting is key.

Man belittles sister, denies malice. Commenter calls out behavior.

Living wife bullied by husband’s comparison to late wife

BIL’s creepy behavior towards sister needs to stop. #NotCool

Constant comparison of BIL’s treatment of late wife is hurtful.

Sassy response to husband’s unfair comparison.

Supporting sister in toxic marriage with insensitive widower. #NTA

Did the brother-in-law’s behavior start before the marriage?

Sibling rivalry taken too far. No humor in unfair comparisons

BIL’s behavior is unacceptable. NTA. Wife needs to feel loved.

Comparing sisters isn’t harmless, he shouldn’t be with Amy

NTA comment suggests a witty response to insensitive behavior.

Choosing to never date again after loss.

Comparing sister to dead wife? Not cool. NTA for OP.

BIL using dead wife to bully living wife? NTA stands up.

Psychological warfare: Is he using his dead wife to manipulate?

BIL’s selective memory of late wife is hurting his current marriage.

Sister’s husband strikes out with insensitive comparisons. ‍♂️

BIL needs therapy. Your sister needs to stand up for herself.

Accusations of narcissism and emotional abuse in husband’s behavior

Encouraging support for sister’s situation and advice for resolution.

Mourning is one thing, but comparing is crossing the line.