Singer Ditches Wedding After Surprise Performance Demand

Imagine being invited to a wedding as a guest, only to find out that you’re expected to perform without any prior notice! That’s exactly what happened to a semi-professional singer who was attending her significant other’s cousin’s wedding. The couple was staying at the hotel where the wedding was taking place when the mother of the groom came knocking, telling the singer to go rehearse and get a “feel” for the stage. Little did she know, this would lead to a whirlwind of drama and accusations. ️

The Unwanted Surprise

Semi-Famous Singer

Gifts and Refusals

Unprepared and Uninformed

The Unexpected Agenda

Reasons to Refuse

Rude Assumptions

Standing Her Ground

No Food, No Performance ️

Harsh Words

Support from Her SO

Language Barrier

The Final Decision

Criticism Continues ️

Singer’s Stand Against Surprise Performance

The singer stood her ground, refusing to perform at the wedding due to the lack of prior notice and her personal reasons. Despite the support of her significant other, the family continued to criticize her decision, accusing her of being selfish and tearing the family apart. In the end, the couple decided to skip the wedding altogether, opting for a night of drinks and tacos instead. While the criticism from the family persisted, the singer remained firm in her decision, proving that sometimes you have to stand up for yourself, even if it means facing backlash.

NTA. Commenters share similar experiences of being taken for granted

NTA. Singing is OP’s profession, not a free service

Stand your ground but be polite. Singing is professional. NTA

NTA for refusing to sing at a wedding without compensation

NTA. Musician not informed and unprepared for surprise performance demand.

NTA comment shuts down family drama with hilarious clapback

Bride’s family demands surprise performance, NTA for refusing.

Wedding singer not informed about surprise performance, NTA for refusing.

Charge them an itemized bill with late fees and musician fees.

Stand your ground! NTA for refusing unfair demands

Musicians discuss entitlement and underappreciation in the industry

NTA for refusing surprise performance demand at entitled wedding

Singer demands payment for surprise wedding performance

Singer avoids wedding disaster and being labeled the A

Commenter defends OP’s writing skills and judgment, NTA wins.

Uninvited performer? NTA for skipping the wedding

Don’t expect free performances from professionals at your wedding.

NTA stands their ground against entitled wedding demands

Don’t let anyone pressure you into performing for free

Singer shares professional experience and advice for handling last-minute performance requests.

Musicians deserve respect and compensation for their time and skill

NTA commenter suggests going on social media to share tips on working with musicians for family events, and to reach out to bride and groom privately. Replies agree and advise not attending wedding for mental health.

Curious Redditors await update on wedding singer drama

Singer rightfully offended by last-minute performance demand

Singer stands up for themselves after being taken advantage of

Suggests a humorous way to handle the situation

Commenter reassures non-native speaker and praises English language diversity

Apologize for yelling but SO defended her to the family

Last-minute song request and no food? Definitely NTA

NTA. Demanding a surprise performance with no prior discussion is crazy

Booking a band in advance and paying day of is fair

Guest not paid as vendor, called selfish for refusing. NTA!

Comparing surprise performance to free teeth-cleanings. NTA wins.

Singer refuses to perform for entitled bride and groom

Singer declines last-minute wedding performance request. NTA, family’s demanding and ungrateful behavior is unacceptable.

Communication tip: clarify ‘we’ and ‘they’. Native speakers struggle too

Singer not at fault for demanding apology but overreacted towards SO

Surprise performance demand at a wedding? NTA, that’s disrespectful

Guest offered surprise performance demand, refused and called names.

Wedding singer gets validation for not performing without request

NTA! Don’t attend this rude wedding

Setting boundaries as a freelance singer

Wedding drama! NTA asks for update after family intervention

Commenter defends singer’s decision with humorous slang and emojis.

Commenter eagerly awaits update on wedding singer drama

Wedding demand without prior notice? NTA, basic manners matter!

NTA suggests setting conditions for last-minute performance demands

NTA. Bold move to ditch the wedding after demand

A mischievous suggestion for an unexpected wedding performance.

NTA skips wedding with surprise performance demand. Good call!

NTA! What’s the update? Keep us in the loop!

NTA! They were conniving and rude. Your talents are valuable

NTA commenter calls out presumptuous wedding demand

Adele stands up for herself, NTA