Parents Want Back In After Abandoning Son: Can They Redeem Themselves?

Imagine being kicked out of your home at 18 for getting your girlfriend pregnant, and then having to struggle for years without any support from your family. That’s exactly what happened to one man, who is now 32 and married with two children. After years of silence, his parents have suddenly reached out, asking to be a part of his daughter’s life. But there’s a catch: they don’t seem to care about his son, the very child that led to their estrangement in the first place. ‍ ‍ ‍

Kicked Out at 18

Years of Struggle

Grandparents to the Rescue

Life Now: Family of Four ‍ ‍ ‍

Mom Reaches Out

Parents Want to Be Grandparents

Venting to Mom

No More Contact

Cousin’s Opinion ️

Wife’s Support

Parents’ Sudden Interest

Snobby Grandparents?

Cousin’s Accusation

Feeling Lost

Forgive and Forget or Hold the Grudge? ‍♂️

After years of no contact, this man’s parents are suddenly begging for forgiveness and a chance to be grandparents to his daughter. However, they don’t seem to care about his son, the very reason they disowned him in the first place. His cousin thinks he’s being petty by not allowing them back into his life, but he’s unsure if he wants his children exposed to their judgmental and snobby attitudes. What do you think? Should he forgive and forget, or is he right to protect his family from their past mistakes? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation… ‍

NTA. Parents must treat both kids equally to earn trust back.

Commenter supports OP’s decision to not let toxic parents in.

Abandoned parents want to be grandparents but OP is NTA

Grandparents abandoned son, now want back in. NTA sets boundaries.

NTA. Keep them blocked, they only wanted your daughter.

NTA OP’s cousin sides with parents, but they have hidden motives

NTA. Toxic parents prioritize granddaughter over abandoned son. Don’t reconnect.

OP lays down heavy boundaries with parents wanting back in.

Commenter warns of potential danger from cousin, receives conflicting reply.

Congrats on your achievements! Keep toxic parents out.

Grandparents denied: NTA comment on parental responsibility.

Grandparents show favoritism, NTA for not letting them back in.

Commenter praises OP’s achievements and independence.

In-laws > Outlaws. NTA. Congrats on the new addition!

User doubts parents’ regret, declares NTA.

NTA. The grandparents had their chance and blew it.

NTA commenter advises blocking toxic cousin from son’s life

Grandparenting is a privilege, not a right

Grandparents want to meet new baby after abandoning their older grandchild. NTA.

No love lost: Commenter says grandparents aren’t really grandparents. NTA.

NTA commenter applauds tough love parenting, sets boundaries.

OP stands up to absentee mom in NTA comment thread

Redemption after years of abandonment? NTA says comment and replies.

13 years to say sorry? NTA says they deserve forgiveness.

Parents abandoned son, now manipulative, NTA for not forgiving.

Grandparent favoritism? NTA calls out unfair treatment

Parents prioritize daughter, son invisible. NTA warns of further damage.

Grandparents want back in, but are now strangers. NTA.

Setting boundaries with toxic family members is important.

Grandparents favoritism hurts abandoned child. NTA protects family.

Grandson ignored by parents in redemption attempt. NTA.

Abandoning a child for a new one? NTA’s son needs therapy

Grandparents only care about wedlock grandchild, not abandoned son. NTA.

Tough love prevails: NTA for not letting parents back in.

Short and sweet: commenter declares ‘NTA’

Setting boundaries with toxic parents is important for your family

Grandparents demand to meet granddaughter after abandoning grandson for 13 years

Cousin gets called out for abandoning family. Ouch.

NTA OP’s parents abandoned him, now want redemption? Test waters first.

NTA. Parents abandoned son for 13 years, can’t just come back.

Cousin thinks parents regret abandoning son, but FB message shows otherwise

Grandparents abandon grandson for 13 years, expect instant relationship. NTA.

Short and sweet: commenter says NTA, screw them

NTA comment clarifies language usage with a touch of humor

Curiosity about family dynamics sparks concern in comment section

Grandparents only want to be involved with ‘legitimate’ granddaughter. NTA

Grandparents prioritize daughter over abandoned son. NTA, set boundaries.

NTA comment warns against abandoning son, damaging him emotionally.

Quick grammar lesson sparks no debate in comments

Cutting off parents who abandoned their son and grandchild. NTA

NTA calls out parents for only caring now that it’s easy

User calls out grandparents’ motives for wanting back in.

Grandkids collateral damage in parents’ abandonment. NTA verdict.

Grandparents ignore grandson, want to play with granddaughter. NTA.

Family is a package deal, no space for those who abandoned.

NTA’s parents want to meet grandchild but not son?

Support for NTA and concern for cousin’s tone deafness.

NTA: Parents want back in after abandoning son. Why only daughter?

Commenter calls out parents’ behavior, deems them a**holes.

Toxic grandparents want back in for social gain, stay strong OP.

Forgiveness for grandparents who abandoned their child? NTA says yes.

NTA. They abandoned you when you needed them most.

Don’t let them back in. You’re NTA for setting boundaries.

Protecting son from favoritism and hurt, NTA made right choice

Grandparents want back in, but NTA says beware of favoritism

Don’t buy trouble, let them stay out.

Redemption after abandonment? Not so fast, says commenter

Cutting ties with family: when is it justified?

No debt owed to abusive parents. Family you built matters more.

No redemption for parents who abandoned their son.

Set boundaries to protect your children from favoritism

No contact with narcissists. NTA for keeping boundaries.