Parents Refuse to Fund Daughter’s Backpacking Trip: Unfair or Life Lesson?

Meet the ‘Bank of Mom and Dad’, a couple in their late forties who have always provided for their two children, a 21-year-old daughter and a 23-year-old son. They’ve covered the basics – food and tuition – but when it comes to ‘fun money’, they’ve always encouraged their offspring to earn it. Their son learned this lesson early on, working summers to fund his post-university backpacking trip. But their daughter? She’s always been content with what she’s given, until now. As she prepares to graduate, she’s got her heart set on a backpacking trip of her own, and she’s expecting her parents to foot the bill, just like they did for her brother. But there’s a catch…

The Family Agreement ‍ ‍ ‍

The Son’s Journey

Rewarding Responsibility

The Daughter’s Expectations ‍

The Surprising Request ️

The Proposed Solution

The Heated Response ️

The Grandparents’ Intervention

The Lingering Guilt

The Question of Fairness ⚖️

The Unexpressed Desire

A Possible Compromise? ️

A Backpacking Trip, a Life Lesson, and a Family in Conflict ⚖️

In a world where ‘Bank of Mom and Dad’ is increasingly becoming the norm, one family finds itself at odds over the issue of a backpacking trip. Their son, having worked and saved diligently, was rewarded with a fully paid trip by his parents. But when their daughter, who has never worked, expects the same treatment, the parents stand their ground. They insist on teaching her the value of work and money, even as she accuses them of favoritism. The grandparents weigh in, arguing that her lack of savings is punishment enough. Amidst the drama and accusations, the parents are left grappling with guilt, but remain steadfast in their decision. The internet has weighed in, and now, they’re considering a compromise – funding her trip, but only if she starts working and saving. A classic tale of parenting, fairness, and the tough love that often comes with it. ‍ ‍ ‍

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Rewarding one child’s hard work but not the other? ESH.

Unfair rewards in school and family cause frustration and resentment

Unfair treatment? Daughter’s responsibility vs son’s punishment.

NAH: Daughter feels entitled due to lack of work ethic teaching

Parent’s unfair expectations lead to daughter’s disappointment.

Parent’s unclear expectations lead to daughter being judged unfairly.

Sibling rivalry: YTA for funding one and not the other

“YTA. Lend her the money for her once-in-a-lifetime adventure! “

Being the ‘good kid’ can sometimes feel unfair and overlooked.

“YTA. Favoring son, unfair expectations, missed opportunity. Money issue resolved later.”

“YTA, favoritism? Defend your son? Your daughter deserves better.”

Daughter wants backpacking trip now, parents hesitant. Who’s right?

Parental miscommunication leads to soft YTA judgement.

“NTA or YTA? Pay for her trip. She deserves recognition.”

Son messes up, gets rewarded. Daughter asks for fairness. YTA

Rewarding one child for learning life lessons: fair or unfair?

YTA for favoring son and discouraging daughter’s independence.

“YTA. Unfair favoritism sparks sibling rivalry. “

Parent’s inconsistent rules lead to unfair punishment for daughter. YTA.

“YTA…Wait, your daughter didn’t understand the rules to the complex game that you failed to explain from the outset? All she had to do was get in trouble, turn her life around, work toward a monetary goal and then she would receive her unexpected cash reward, duh! Stupidly, she made good life decisions and chose to work hard in a pursuit that didn’t involve a direct monetary goal…no soup for you!”

YTA for playing favorites. Daughter deserves equal opportunities.

INFO: Did you offer her the same deal?

“YTA sounds like you do favor your son.”

Confused parent questions the fairness of funding daughter’s trip

Entitled daughter and unfair parents create a squeaky wheel situation

Sibling’s trip funded, but how many summers did she work?

“YTA” for rewarding son but not daughter. Give her the trip!

“YTA for favoring your son over your responsible daughter.”

Parents refuse to fund trip, comment calls them a**holes.

Parents refuse to fund daughter’s trip, sparking debate.

Sibling favoritism? Equal funds for freedom of choice!