Every parent dreams of providing their children with the best education possible. But what happens when one child rejects that opportunity, only to change her mind years later? Meet our two main characters: ‘Elizabeth’, the studious elder sister, and ‘Margaret’, the free-spirited younger one. Their parents had saved enough for both to attend college debt-free. But life, as it often does, threw a curveball. Let’s delve into this family’s intriguing story.
Meet Elizabeth and Margaret

The College Fund Promise

Elizabeth’s Journey

Margaret’s Different Path

Elizabeth’s Career Ascent

The Big Question ❓

Margaret’s Firm Stance

Elizabeth’s Graduation

Margaret’s Change of Heart

The Harsh Reality

The Parents’ Dilemma ♀️ ♂️

The Final Verdict ️

A Family’s College Fund Conundrum: Who’s Right, Who’s Wrong?
This tale of two sisters, Elizabeth and Margaret, is a rollercoaster of emotions, decisions, and consequences. Elizabeth, the studious one, utilized her share of the college fund to its fullest, even pursuing a Master’s degree. Margaret, the free-spirited one, initially rejected the idea of college, leading her parents to allocate her share to Elizabeth’s further studies. But when Margaret, shaken by the pandemic, decided she wanted a ‘real’ career, she found the college fund depleted. The parents, unable to afford another round of college fees without jeopardizing their retirement, had to deliver the harsh truth. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
“NTA. She’s a grown adult at this point.”

NTA. Daughter had opportunities, made her decision. Now she’s responsible.

“NTA. She had 10 years to change her mind. ♂️”

Explaining the situation and potential impact on her answer

Daughter’s fault for not saying she wanted the money

Open communication can strain relationships

NTA. Great parents, daughter changed mind in her 30s

Generous parents face ungrateful daughter in college fund dilemma

NTA. Margaret needs to learn responsibility. Grasshopper and ant?
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NTA for structuring college funds, but favoritism concerns arise.

NTA: Money saved for years, she needs to grow up.

Sister refused college fund, now it’s her sister’s turn.

Parents refuse to fund 32-year-old daughter’s education. NTA!

YTA for favoring one daughter over the other and being biased

Parent gave daughter chance for college fund, she declined. NTA.

NTA. Asked at 28, she should have expected the pandemic. Family shade.

NTA – At 28, she declined the money. Now she’s 32. ♀️

Put your future first! Don’t sacrifice retirement savings!

Engaging caption: A daughter’s annoyance at being asked about college plans. NTA

NTA. Daughter made choice as adult, gave up tuition money.

Bartending daughter makes more money than military husband. Don’t judge!
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NTA. Time for Margaret to grow up and take responsibility.

NTA: Daughter declined offer, forfeited rights to college fund

OP gave her a chance, now it’s time to get serious

You asked multiple times. That ship has sailed.

Inspiring! A determined mother’s journey to self-improvement and financial aid.

Daughter seeks college funds after 14 years, NTA for refusing

Generous parents set clear expectations for college fund usage.
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NTA: Time to cut the cord and let her adult!

NTA. Adult daughter should take responsibility and get a loan

NTA. Communication breakdown leads to frustration. ♂️

NTA. Consider community college to test interest in pursuing degree

Engaging caption: OP explains dilemma and wonders why daughter still asked for money. NTA

Daughter’s choice: NTA. Parents’ college fund dilemma resolved.
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NTA. Daughter made an informed decision about college funds. Consider community college.

Sibling equality vs. personal choice: NTA, unfortunate but life.

Opportunity offered, opportunity declined. NTA.

NTA. Daughter refused college fund, now it’s gone. Life happens.

NTA. Honest about funds, sister declined childishly. Offer support, research funding.

32-year-old sister refuses college fund, now it’s her responsibility

NTA. College funds are gifts, not rights. Admirable goal, but Margaret’s responsibility.
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Equal opportunity given, pandemic hit, NTA. Wishing husband well!

Blaming others for regretting a decision? Who’s the AH?

NTA: College funds repurposed for community college, future transfer plans

Parent’s favoritism creates unfair advantage for one child

A cheaper alternative to college? Barista + online education combo!

NTA. No guilt, no second chances. Money gone, move forward.

NTA – Consequences of rejecting money, can’t bring it back

NTA. 529 account tax penalty is steep. Lucky daughters, tough choices.

Compassionate advice to help a family member in need ❤️

32-year-old daughter should fund her own college.

NTA, but sister’s success should help unemployed Margret afford college.
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“YTA. Unequal treatment of daughters. Margaret has a valid point.”

“YTA for prioritizing your oldest daughter’s education over your youngest. “

NTA – A wise and fair decision by the parents

NTA – Older daughter used college fund wisely, younger sister can still pursue education online

NTA, be prepared for fallout. Good luck

OP is definitely NTA for not funding their adult daughters ♂️
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NTA with similar parenting style, wishing both daughters luck

NTA: Fairness and second chances, but snooze and lose

NTA, but younger daughter feels penalized for not jumping through ‘hoops’

NTA: Communication is key when it comes to money matters

14-year wait for an answer! NTA, she finally responded!

NTA! You asked before giving the money. Totally fair
