Imagine working from home, trying to balance your professional life with caring for a parent with Alzheimer’s. You trust the nurse who comes in to help, but one day, a substitute nurse is sent. Things go awry, and you find yourself in a dilemma: should you report the nurse’s incompetence, or let it slide? This is the story of one person who faced this tough decision and the consequences that followed.
Living with Dad and His Alzheimer’s

Working from Home, Trusting the Nurse

Enter the Substitute Nurse

A Job Not Well Done

The Zoom Call Incident

Horrified and Confused

Where Was the Nurse?

Handling the Situation

Questioning the Nurse’s Experience

Defensive and Uncooperative

Calling the Company

The Aftermath

Feeling Guilty

A Tough Decision with Consequences
This story is a rollercoaster of emotions, as one person struggles to balance work and caring for their father with Alzheimer’s. When a substitute nurse fails to properly care for their dad, leading to a humiliating incident during a Zoom call, they’re faced with a difficult decision: report the nurse’s incompetence or let it slide? Ultimately, they choose to report the nurse, who ends up getting fired. Now, they’re left wondering if they made the right choice, or if they’re responsible for someone losing their job during tough times.
NTA. It’s not the commenter’s fault the nurse got fired. The company failed to provide proper training.

NTA reports inexperienced and uncompassionate nurse who endangered patients. Good job, OP

Nurse fired for neglecting patient, commenters agree she’s NTA.

Ex-nurse idealistically emphasizes patient care, questions nurse’s motives.

Experienced caregivers agree: NTA, nurse deserved to be fired.

Nurse fired for neglecting patient, commenters agree with decision.

Daughter defends firing of nurse for mistreating Alzheimer’s patient

CNA vs RN: Knowing the distinction can prevent unreasonable expectations

Not the a**hole for reporting incompetence in a sensitive job

NTA. Caregiver’s lack of training put patient at risk. Good riddance.

CNA burnout is real, but yelling is not okay

NTA for wanting a qualified nurse. Dad’s kitchen, his rules. ♀️

Patient safety at risk due to nurse’s negligence. NTA.

Fired nurse’s negligence puts patients in danger. NTA verdict.

Compassion and patience are essential when dealing with dementia patients

Empathetic comment from a memory care unit worker.

User calls out subreddit for repetitive and pointless posts

Nurse fired for neglecting Alzheimer’s patient. NTA comments agree.

Fired nurse’s behavior towards Alzheimer’s patient deemed unacceptable by commenter.
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Commenter criticizes overreaction in patient care with concern

NTA for reporting, but dad’s appearance in video is OP’s fault

Nurse fired for neglecting Alzheimer’s patient, commenter defends decision.
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Caregiver fired for neglecting Alzheimer’s patient. Commenter supports decision.

De-escalation is key when caring for Alzheimer’s patients

Commenter questions accountability of nurse’s behavior towards patient

Daughter accuses nurse of mistreating Alzheimer’s patient. YTA vs NTA.

Employee termination: One incident or consistent lack of skill? NTA

Caring for Alzheimer’s patients requires patience and support, NTA.
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Nurse fired for neglecting Alzheimer’s patient, commenter supports firing.

Experienced nurse defends fired nurse, calls out OP’s unrealistic expectations

Nurse’s behavior towards dementia patient questioned, sparks debate.

Commenter defends person who reported nurse’s mistreatment of elderly patient.

Proper training and preparation could have prevented this unfortunate incident.

Commenter empathizes with OP, supports nurse’s firing but glad she’s back

Compassionate commenter supports firing of inept nurse for Alzheimer’s patient.

Commenter defends firing of nurse, praises regular nurse’s care

Stand up for quality care without guilt. NTA

New nurse fired for mistreating Alzheimer’s patient. Commenter supports firing.

NTA. Nurse’s incompetence, dishonesty, and arrogance got her fired

Compassionate commenter defends Alzheimer’s patients, praises complaint for justice.

Commenter defends OP’s decision to prioritize dad over negligent nurse.

Stay professional at work, even during tough times.

Caregiver caught on camera doing inappropriate things and blaming patient.

Fired nurse deserved it, but losing a job still s***s

Company sent untrained nurse for Alzheimer’s patient. NTA, report them!

NTA. Nurse’s disrespectful behavior towards Alzheimer’s patient is unacceptable.

Family member defends decision to report nurse for mistreatment

NTA. Commenter praises OP for recognizing inadequate care and standing up.

As an RN, commenter defends home health care and nurse firing.

NTA comment receives agreement from others.

Compassion is key in patient care.

Acknowledging reality: NTA’s simple fact-based statements cause consequences.

Nurse fired for not nursing, nursing school flashbacks anyone?

Commenter not at fault for nurse’s neglect
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NTA commenter applauds firing of abusive nurse.

Fired nurse receives NTA judgement for inadequate care.

Prioritizing patient safety over paycheck. NTA

NTA. Nurse lacked training or wrong job. Good for advocate.

Commenter defends OP’s actions in giving advice to nurse.

NTA’s comment suggests possible history leading to nurse’s firing

Nurse fired for neglecting Alzheimer’s patient, commenter suspects history of incompetence.
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NTA! Commenter expresses fury at nurse’s behavior towards Alzheimer’s patient.

Previous complaints led to firing after OP’s justified call.

Daughter stands up for her dad, fires caregiver. NTA

Supportive comment acknowledges difficulty of nursing dementia patients.

NTA nurse fired for neglecting Alzheimer’s patient, not first complaint.

Proper training is crucial in care-giving. NTA was right.

NTA commenter praises OP for reporting nurse’s poor job performance

Caretaker dropped patient, NTA for firing incompetent caretaker

NTA. Nurse’s history of complaints suggests negligence.

Last Updated on June 18, 2023 by Diply Social Team