Not Invited to Wedding, but Asked to Help Plan It?

Imagine having a close friend for over 20 years, considering each other as family, and then not being invited to their wedding. This is the story of a woman who finds herself in this exact situation. Her friend J is getting married and has decided to have a ‘family only’ wedding to avoid drama with another friend. However, J still wants her to help plan the wedding and organize the bachelorette party. Is it fair to ask for her help without inviting her to the wedding?

Sisters at Heart

The Upcoming Wedding

Friend B’s Behavior

The Difficult News

Her Reaction

The Unfair Request

Her Dilemma

The Summary

Caught in a Wedding Dilemma

This woman is faced with a difficult decision: help her close friend plan a wedding she’s not invited to, or refuse and risk damaging their friendship. As she grapples with the unfairness of the situation, she wonders if she’s in the wrong for saying no. What do you think? Share your thoughts and reactions below.

NTA for not wanting to plan a wedding you’re not invited to

Realizing a friend’s true colors

Bride asks for bridesmaid duties but not attendance. NTA.

NTA – Don’t help plan a wedding you’re excluded from

Express your feelings to her, she’ll understand.

Don’t be a bridezilla! ‍♀️ It’s rude to ask for help but not invite.

Bride excludes friend from wedding but asks for help? NTA.

Boundaries are important. NTA for declining to help and attend.

NAH. Friend still loves you and wants to include you. Talk it out

Bizarre situation! Helping plan a wedding you’re not invited to?

Setting boundaries with a guilt-tripping bride-to-be.

Wedding drama: Bride wants help planning but not attendance. NTA.

Bride asks friend to help plan wedding but not attend. NTA.

Politely decline to help with wedding after being uninvited.

Setting boundaries: NTA not invited to wedding, not obligated to help.

NTA bride wants you to do all the work and leave? Suggest she gets her family to organize everything and enjoy your vacation instead

Hurtful and rude, tell her how you feel

Wedding planning for free? Not family, but potential event planner.

Family excluded from wedding asked to plan it? Not cool.

Excluded from wedding but asked to plan? That’s not cool.

Friend didn’t invite you to wedding but asked you to plan it?

Friend assumes free wedding planning but not close enough to invite? NTA

Bride asks for bridesmaid work but not the title. NTA.

Feeling left out of a wedding? You’re NTA for being hurt

Friend asks for help planning wedding but doesn’t invite you

Toxic friend ruins wedding plans, leaves loyal friend heartbroken

Politely decline to help plan a wedding you’re not invited to

Communication is key! Talk to her about your concerns

Politely decline and suggest she ask her family for help.

Don’t let them cherry pick your help!

NTA shuts down bridezilla’s unreasonable request

Helped plan friend’s wedding, not invited due to ‘space limitations’

Friend asks for help planning wedding but doesn’t invite you.

Friend prioritizes big party over bride’s feelings. NTA.

Best friend excluded from wedding, but asked to help plan it

Friend asks to plan wedding after not inviting you? NTA.

Uninvited but expected to plan? That’s a**hole move.

When friends don’t feel like family

OP excluded from wedding but asked to plan it. Not cool.

Helping plan a wedding you’re not invited to? NTA.

Conditional friendship? Not cool. NTA for feeling hurt.

Planning a wedding you’re not invited to? NTA, that’s BS

Unfair wedding planning: NTA excluded from important part

Politely decline and save yourself the headache.

Planning a wedding you’re not invited to? NTA, that’s disrespectful

Communicate your hurt feelings and desire for family recognition.

Supportive comment offers sympathy to hurt friend

Bride wants family-only wedding but wants friend to plan it?

Friend expects help planning wedding, but not invited? NTA.

This commenter suggests sending the bride the thread

Friend betrays and uses commenter for free wedding planning. NTA.

Friend wants maid of honor benefits without the title. NTA.

Family is not just a word, it’s a feeling

Friend wants help planning wedding but won’t invite you? NTA.

Bridezilla excluded OP from wedding but asked for help planning

Bride asks for help but doesn’t invite, YTA or NAH?

Best friend’s wedding, not invited but asked to plan it? NTA

Keeping secrets at a wedding?

Politely decline planning a wedding you can’t attend.

Not the a**hole for refusing to help plan their wedding

Stand your ground! Don’t let them take advantage of you.

Organize a hen party for someone who doesn’t consider you family? NTA

Vacation > Wedding gift

Not the a**hole, but what’s the story behind this?

Bride called someone YTA? Commenter NTA. Drama ensues. ‍♀️

Friend asks for help planning wedding, but doesn’t invite you.

Set boundaries with love and respect. NTA

Planning a wedding without an invite? NTA wins!

Organizing a hen party for a wedding you’re not invited? NTA

Not the a**hole! Let’s hear why

Communication is key. Have an honest conversation with her.

NTA. Express your feelings to your friend about being excluded.