Nanny Pretends to Be Child’s Mother? Mom Fires Her, But Was It Too Harsh?

Imagine hiring a nanny to care for your child, only to find out she’s been letting people believe she’s the child’s mother! That’s exactly what happened to one Asian American mom, who shares her story of firing her nanny after discovering the truth. This mom’s child looks almost entirely white due to inheriting her father’s recessive genes, which has led to some awkward and frustrating situations. But when she found out her nanny was pretending to be her child’s mother, she reached her breaking point. Let’s dive into this dramatic tale!

The Racial Mix-Up

Introducing Mary, the Nanny ‍

The Neighbor’s Confusion

Mary, the ‘Mom’?

The Shocking Revelation

Confronting Mary

“Mama” or Mary?

Firing Mary

Husband’s Disagreement

Scrambling for Childcare ‍♀️

The Racial Undertones

Inherent Racism

Defending the Husband

Reflecting on Mary’s Behavior

Offering Severance Pay

The Aftermath: Was Firing Mary Justified?

This mom’s story has left us all wondering if firing Mary was the right decision. While her husband thinks she overreacted, the mom stands by her choice, pointing out the racial undertones and micro aggressions that played a role in her decision. She even noticed that Mary never gave her child Asian food or darker-skinned dolls. However, she does sympathize with Mary’s financial situation and plans to offer her severance pay. What do you think? Was firing Mary justified, or was it an overreaction? Let’s see what the internet has to say…

Nanny called herself ‘Mama’, minimized feelings, fired. Better safe. NTA

Mixed race commenters share their experiences of being mistaken for the babysitter. Nanny crossed a boundary by pretending child was hers, but firing her may have been too harsh.

NTA for firing nanny who pretended to be child’s mother

Nanny pretending to be the child’s mother is creepy and dangerous

Nanny crosses the line with inappropriate nickname. Mom not overreacting.

Firing nanny for pretending to be child’s mother: NTA

Nanny calls herself ‘mama’, lies about being child’s mother. NTA.

Former nanny’s bizarre behavior raises red flags for child’s safety.

Debate over firing nanny who pretended to be child’s mother.

Supportive commenter empathizes with mom’s situation and offers advice.

Hired nanny pretends to be child’s mother, mom fires her. NTA.

Nanny pretending to be child’s mother? NTA fires her.

Nanny not responsible for neighbor’s assumptions. OP overreacted.

Firing the nanny was justified, but lack of planning caused inconvenience

NTA. Trust your gut and protect your child.

Nanny crosses the line pretending to be child’s mother. NTA.

Firing the nanny for pretending to be the child’s mother? YTA

Misunderstanding with nanny and neighbors causes overreaction.

Nanny pretending to be child’s mother raises red flags. NTA.

Firing the nanny without prior warning, consultation, and logic. YTA

Nanny pretending to be child’s mother and allowing the kid to call her Mama. YTA for firing her without husband’s input, but NTA for letting her go.

Professional nanny advises speaking calmly before termination and giving severance pay. ‍

Nanny misidentified as child’s mother, but OP overreacts.

Commenter thinks OP is the a**hole for firing nanny.

Nanny accused of pretending to be child’s mother, but commenters defend her.

Debate over firing nanny for not correcting racism assumptions.

Nanny misleads child to call her mama. NTA corrects her.

Doctor-mom defends fired nanny, calls out rash decision-making. YTA

Nanny fired without notice for a simple mistake. YTA.

Nanny overstepped, but firing her without consulting husband was wrong.

Firing without a warning? Clear YTA according to commenter.

Firing nanny over misunderstanding may have been too harsh

Commenter thinks mom was too harsh for firing nanny.

Imposter nanny gets fired for pretending to be child’s mother

Firing nanny without evidence of lying, YTA.

Firing a nanny without backup plan? Husband’s reaction justified?

Nanny defends herself, suggests giving a chance to correct behavior

Misunderstanding or Misconduct? A case for communication first

Commenter considers possibility of misunderstanding with nanny’s role.

Asian American nanny shares perspective on mistaken identity with kids.

Is it too harsh to fire a nanny for pretending to be the child’s mother?

Babysitter overstepped boundaries by letting baby call her ‘mama’

Male nanny defends nanny’s actions, suggests better communication could’ve helped.

Nanny pretends to be child’s mother? Mom fires her, NTA.

Firing the nanny without discussing alternatives was a rash decision

Nanny’s behavior sends harmful message about race and family. NTA.

Nanny of 10 years clarifies why she doesn’t correct strangers’ assumptions

Nanny praised for pretending to be child’s mother. #NTA

Firing nanny for a potential misunderstanding, YTA or NTA?

Nanny pretending to be mom? NTA fires her. Confusing for kid.

Commenter defends nanny’s actions, suggests rehiring with explanation.

Quick communication could have saved the nanny’s job.

Nanny pretended to be the mother, fired for good reason.