Imagine dedicating your life to caring for your elderly mother, only to discover she’s been making secret plans behind your back. This is the heart-wrenching reality for one woman who found herself in the midst of family drama that could rival any soap opera. As the primary caregiver for her 81-year-old mother, our protagonist, let’s call her ‘Devoted Daughter’, was left feeling betrayed and hurt when she discovered her mother’s secret funeral arrangements and executor appointments.
The Devoted Daughter’s Duties
The Secret Appointment ⚰️
The Untrustworthy Executors
The Financial Fiasco ⚖️
The Backbone-less Sister ♀️
The Self-serving Sister
The Emotional Abuse
The Final Straw
The Resignation
A Betrayed Caregiver’s Dilemma: Who’s the Real Villain Here?
Imagine being the ‘Devoted Daughter’, the one tirelessly caring for your aging mother, only to discover she’s been making secret funeral arrangements with your sisters. To add salt to the wound, she appoints two of your sisters as her executors – one known for her untrustworthiness, the other for her lack of backbone. You’ve weathered the storm of emotional abuse, but this betrayal is the final straw. You decide to resign as the caregiver, leaving the affairs of life and death to those deemed ‘better suited’. But in the midst of the hurt and betrayal, you can’t help but wonder – are you in the wrong? Let’s delve into the internet’s thoughts on this emotionally charged situation.
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NTA. Don’t waste your energy on toxic family.
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NTA. Let them reap what they sow. Stay done with them.
NTA: They’re greedy. Let them spend their money on a caregiver
“NTA. Good riddance! They made their beds, you’re free! “
Engaging comment: ‘Paragraphs please.’
Replies: ‘Not just paragraphs, sentences.’
NTA – Let go of the past and build your own family
Engaging comment and replies: Nightmare to read, couldn’t make it to the end
Take care of yourself and go low/no contact for awhile
NTA for stepping down from caregiving, but family drama ensues
Comment chaos! Can’t decipher the run-on sentence riddle!
“NTA. Leave her to her games. Reality-based care vs. little games.”
Heartbreakingly, the caregiver is not the a**hole in this situation
Grammar police on the loose! Chaos and punctuation collide
NTA: Long run-on sentence, but seems like NTA from beginning.
Clever way to handle sister’s calls after Mom’s passing!
Heartbroken caregiver stops helping unappreciative family. NTA
Caregiver’s heartbreak: Feeling disregarded by mother’s secret funeral arrangements
Punctuation, please.
Heartbreaking comment about punctuation. Can you handle it?
Heartbreaking story of cutting off toxic family for self-preservation.
The plea for a crucial paragraph that’s breaking hearts
Don’t be a doormat! Stand up for yourself.
Stand firm, take care of you!
Heartfelt apology to mom for caregiving, hoping for happiness ❤️
Heartbreaking situation, but you’re not the a**hole. They’ll understand
Secure your future, NTA! Create a care taker contract!
Heartbreaking story of a caregiver trapped in a toxic situation
NTA: Freedom from toxic mother, but prepare for financial consequences
Take control of your life and enjoy the holidays guilt-free!
Taking control of your life and finding peace without negativity.
NTA. Let them figure it out
Cutting ties with family? Not the a**hole, says commenter!
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Concerns of elder abuse and legal implications. NTA, but…
Heartbroken caregiver refuses to do any more favors for mother
Executor’s power: NTA, they decide care arrangements.
NTA. Caregiver’s heartbreak: Lazy siblings praised, abused child escapes for happiness.
NTA. Finding freedom after years of caregiving.
NTA- Good luck. This sounds like a mess.
Not the a**hole! Share your story of caregiver heartbreak
Been there, done that. Pray for forgiveness, mourn, and walk away.
Don’t go back. You’re not the a**hole.
NTA. Stand strong against abusive family and unfair labor expectations!
Supportive comment, well done!
Heartbreak of caregiving: NTA, your mistake was becoming her caregiver
Escaping abuse and finding freedom
No good deed goes unpunished.
“The camel’s suffering was long before the final straw”
A heartbreaking clash of beliefs and trust in funeral arrangements
Heartbreaking situation: Did you discuss this with your mother?
Heartbroken caregiver resigns, reveals truth to mother
Heartbroken caregiver receives support for not being the a**hole
Savage response! The mic drop that ended it all.
Heartbreakingly, the caregiver was not the a**hole in this situation
Heartbreakingly, the caregiver is not the a**hole in this situation
NTA – Stay strong and don’t give in to their pleas!
NTA: Time to kick back and relax, babe!
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Heartbreaking betrayal: caregiver excluded from parents’ wills
Heartbroken caregiver receives support for not being the a**hole
NTA. Cut contact, change emergency contact, let sister handle.
Cut ties with toxic family. NTA.
Live your best life! You’re not the a**hole.
Self-care is crucial! NTA for prioritizing your well-being
Caretaking saint receives well-deserved appreciation for her selflessness
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NTA, but beware of sisters taking advantage of elderly mother.
Ungrateful mom’s secret funeral arrangements. NTA caregiver heartbreak
NTA – A refreshing perspective on the mother’s funeral arrangements
Heartbreaking betrayal: OP’s secret funeral arrangements. NTA
Heartbroken caregiver finds support: NTA, walk away
Put yourself first! NTA. Let her die alone if she wants
Take everything and walk away, no regrets!
Stand firm! You’re not the a**hole.
Concerned about cognitive test’s impact on caregiver’s situation
Set boundaries. Don’t let yourself be crapped on.
NTA: Take care of yourself, do what feels right for you
NTA and good riddance to the whole abusive lot.
Prepare for pressure and guilt, but you’re not the a**hole.
NTA: You did your best for your mother. Time to let go
Elderly parent causing drama? OP, NTA! Avoid the stress
