Imagine being a mother to a 14-year-old who uses a wheelchair. You’ve always been close, but then a new friend enters the picture, and things start to change. Suddenly, your daughter is challenging your views, and you suspect this friend is the catalyst. You’re torn between wanting to protect your daughter and respecting her growing independence. This is the predicament one mother found herself in, and it’s a story that’s sure to stir up some strong opinions.
The Introduction of a New Friend

A Strained Mother-Daughter Bond

A Mother’s Concerns

Isolation Period Conversations

A Sudden Change of Preference

A Mother’s Resistance

A Family Divided

A Potential Solution… Or a Bigger Problem? ❓

A Mother’s Struggle: Balancing Protection and Respect ♀️
This is a story that tugs at the heartstrings. A mother, torn between her protective instincts and her daughter’s growing independence, is left questioning her decisions. Her daughter’s new friend, Barbara, seems to be the catalyst for this change, influencing Lily to challenge her mother’s views. The issue? The term ‘special needs.’ Lily, after conversations with Barbara, now prefers to be identified as ‘disabled.’ This sudden shift leaves the mother feeling manipulated and resistant. The father, on the other hand, believes they should respect Lily’s wishes. As the family stands divided, the mother contemplates a drastic measure – asking Lily to sever ties with Barbara. But will this solve the problem or create a bigger one? Let’s see what people have to say… ️
“YTA you are extremely controlling. Yes your daughter is disabled.”

“YTA. Disabled people should define themselves, not their parents. “

YTA. Disabled person explains why calling daughter ‘special needs’ is wrong

Let her grow and make friends, don’t stifle her

“YTA. Let Lily be independent and make her own choices! “

“YTA. You just want to control your daughter. “

YTA for blaming your daughter’s ideas on another child’s influence.

YTA for overreacting to your daughter’s harmless teenage friendship.

Concerned about daughter’s health. Is there an underlying condition?

“YTA. Respect her request. Don’t cut off her friendship. Grow up.”

YTA. Encouraging your kid to stand up to you.
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“YTA You sound controlling and enjoy coddling your disabled daughter. “

YTA. Don’t stifle your daughter’s growth by controlling her friendships.

Parenting dilemma: Should you let your teenager have more freedom?
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Is this post fake or is OP an AH?

Are you the a**hole for controlling your daughter’s friendships?
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YTA for dismissing daughter’s concerns about dated language.

“YTA. Your daughter deserves freedom and respect. Let her be!”

Parent advocates for disability rights, supports daughter’s friendship.

Don’t sever the friendship! Trust your daughter to make decisions
