Meet our 29-year-old heroine, a new mom juggling work and motherhood in an economy that’s still reeling from a pandemic. She thought she had the perfect solution: her 64-year-old mother, a seasoned stay-at-home mom since 1992. But when she asked her mom for help, she got a response she didn’t expect. Let’s dive into the drama!
The Mother’s Plea
The Unexpected Response
The ‘Traditional’ Family Debate
The Financial Struggle
The Higher Earner’s Dilemma
The Housing Situation
The Grandma’s Conditions
The Extra Demands
The Distance Dilemma
The Financial Strain
The Daycare Dilemma
The Urgent Need for Childcare ⏰
The Family’s Inability to Help ♀️
The Grandma’s Daily Routine
The Daughter’s Dilemma
A Motherhood Meltdown: A Daughter’s Plea, A Grandma’s Price ♀️
Caught in a whirlwind of new motherhood, financial strain, and a desperate need for childcare, our 29-year-old protagonist turned to her own mother for help. But instead of a helping hand, she got a bill! With demands for $20 per hour and a list of necessities, Grandma’s conditions have left our heroine in a tough spot. Is she wrong for wanting a little help without the hefty price tag? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this family feud!
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“YTA: sorry to be blunt and rude but maybe don’t have a child if you can’t afford to take care of them. And if your plan was always go back to work you should of discussed that during the pregnancy with your mom.” – The comment section gets heated with strong opinions!
“YTA. Your mother is under no obligation to babysit for you.”
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“YTA. Holy entitlement, Batman.” Grandma’s not obligated to babysit.
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Entitled parent expects free babysitting from unwilling grandmother. YTA.
“YTA: Maybe don’t have a child if you can’t afford them.”
“YTA. Your mom is retired, not a full-time babysitter.”
“YTA: Childcare is work, your mom is older and frankly you shouldn’t expect her to watch your child for free. She didn’t sign up as free childcare just because she is your mom. That fact that you think she should is insane. Children are expensive. You should have thought about this before having one.”
OP’s guilt trip makes them the a**hole. Respect boundaries.
“YTA. Your mom isn’t obligated to be your free daycare. “
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“YTA. Grandma isn’t obligated to be a full-time nanny. “
Mom vs. Daughter: Baby Drama! Who’s the real a**hole?
Entitled parent expects free babysitting from her own mother. YTA.
“YTA. She’s not obligated to offer childcare. You’re being entitled.”
“YTA. Why have a child if you can’t afford it? “
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“YTA. Your child is not your mother’s responsibility. She has every right to say no and if she does choose to charge you for childcare she has every right to. No she shouldn’t had said you should be a traditional family. That’s not possible most of the time now. But because you have to work does not make someone else, regardless of who they are, responsible the childcare of your child. Let alone free childcare. Especially because 64 years old. Your tired at the end of the day. Imagine her. She said no let the poor old woman rest. Go find alternative childcare. She said no and that should be the end of it.”
“YTA. Your mom isn’t your babysitter. Take responsibility. “
Dumping your baby on your mom? YTA, take responsibility!
Mom vs Grandma: Who’s responsible for childcare?
Mom’s not obligated to provide childcare. Find another option.
“YTA. Your child is not your mothers responsibility.”
Mom’s no is valid, respect her experience and decision.
Working opposite shifts to save money – sacrifices for family
YTA. Entitled to free childcare? Your mom deserves better.
YTA for assuming your mom would pick up the slack.
Mom vs Grandma: Who’s right? Find a daycare!
“YTA – No one owes you free childcare. Deal with it.”
“YTA. Your mom doesn’t owe you this. It sounds like you had a baby with the plan of your mom being the primary caregiver during the day, but didn’t actually clear that with your mom first. “
“YTA. You’re not entitled to free childcare from your mum.”
Questioning the choices of a financially struggling parent
Daughter vs. Grandma: Who’s the a**hole? The verdict is in!
Mom’s laziness sparks debate: YTA or NAH?
Assuming free childcare from Grandma without discussing it? YTA
Commenter questions the financial and emotional readiness for parenthood.
Mom wants free childcare, but commenters say YTA.
User seeks validation for anger at mother’s refusal to be unpaid nanny. YTA.
“YTA. Your mom isn’t obligated to babysit. Parenting is tough.”
YTA: Don’t expect grandma to be your free babysitter!
NAH. Respect your mom’s boundaries and consider other daycare options.
“YTA. Don’t have kids you cannot afford.”
Entitlement towards free childcare? YTA!
Time to put on your big-girl-pants and start adulting!
YTA: Plan ahead before starting a family!
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“YTA. Your mom wants to enjoy her retirement, not unpaid labor. “
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YTA – The battle between mother and daughter heats up!
“YTA. Find childcare.” – Grandma’s not backing down!
YTA and the parent – Time to adult and take responsibility!
YTA. Your mom deserves her well-earned break after raising kids
“YTA. She said no and even gave some sort of compromise that would make it more acceptable to her. I can’t believe you think it’s unrealistic to buy all the supplies your mom needs to babysit. I can’t believe you think she owes you her time and free childcare. You need to start looking for daycare now.”
Family feud: When mom refuses to enter your home
YTA: Take responsibility, honey. Your mom isn’t your scapegoat.
“YTA. Your child, your responsibility. Your mother offered a GREAT deal! “
Parents not obligated for childcare, clear credit card debt first.
When Grandma says no, it’s a dealbreaker. YTA.
“YTA. Student loans, debt, and complaining about supporting your child.”
YTA – Free childcare? Time to make some sacrifices!
Mom raised you, but you’re the a**hole for not sorting this out before baby
“YTA. Exploiting family for free labor? Not cool. “
You’re the a**hole. Let the showdown begin!
“YTA. You’re not entitled to anyone’s time. Your kid, your responsibility.”
Grandma’s got a point! Take responsibility for your choices.
“HUGE YTA” – Exploiting your mom and using your baby as leverage.
YWBTA if you don’t drop this right now. It’s okay to ask. ♀️ It’s okay she said No. ♀️ Get your kid into daycare, you don’t have another option now. Maybe consider not being an a**hole about your mom’s life. It’s hers. Whether she’s skydiving or skinnydipping or holding up a bank or binging Netflix in between meals, it’s *her’s*. Time for you and your husband to be parents instead.
“YTA. She raised her family, she deserves compensation. “
“YTA – Raising a child with free childcare? Not cool.”
NTA for asking, but ATA for your reaction. Take financial responsibility.
Demanding an elderly person to babysit? YTA, no doubt!
“YTA: Your mom isn’t free labor. Prepare for childcare.”
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“YTA. Expecting free daycare? Your mom raised her kids too.”
