Mother of Three vs. a Trash Can and Cat Box: Who Will Win? ️

Ah, the joys of domestic life! Meet our stay-at-home mom, juggling three kids, one with special needs, and managing the household. Her husband, Eli, works a 40-hour week and helps with the kids. But there’s a twist in this tale of domestic bliss – two daily chores: taking out the trash and cleaning the cat box. These tasks, which take less than 10 minutes combined, have become a battlefield. Despite two marriage counselors’ advice, the issue remains unresolved. So, let’s dive into the drama and see what’s really going on. ️‍♀️

Meet the Family ‍ ‍ ‍

The Household Chores

The Trash Can Saga ️

The Cat Box Drama

The Video Game Distraction

The Counselors’ Advice ‍⚕️

The 1950s Solution?

Eli’s Reaction

Counselor Number Two ‍⚕️

The Mom’s Clarification ‍♀️

The Counselor’s Response

The Mom’s Expectations

The Time Factor ⏱️

The Professionals’ Verdict

Is Asking Too Much, Asking for Too Much? ‍♀️

So, there you have it. A stay-at-home mom, three kids, a 40-hour working dad, and two chores that have turned the house into a battlefield. Despite seeking professional advice, our mom is left wondering if she’s asking too much. Is expecting Eli to take out the trash and clean the cat box unreasonable, or is it a simple request that’s being overlooked? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this domestic dilemma.

Husband’s inability to do simple tasks at home causes frustration. NTA

Faith-based marriage counselors? Holy crap, aunt was gaslit too!

NTA: You both share responsibility, but he needs to contribute.

NTA. Eli needs to learn to share the mental load.

Supportive comment encourages self-care and setting boundaries.

“NTA! Those ‘counselors’ are a**holes! “

Confused commenter questions relationship and job competence.

NTA. Let him experience the full responsibilities of the household! ‍

NTA: Husband with ADHD needs therapists who treat him like an adult ‍

“NTA. Two measley chores a day and that’s considered unreasonable? Ridiculous.”

NTA for asking partner to do normal chores.

“NTA. Treat him like an adult, not a big child! “

Crazy counselors! He’s an adult, not a child.

ADHD and chores: Gold stars or half-assed attempts?

NTA questions counselors’ credentials, receives religious judgment.

NTA- Reasonable expectations, but no control over husband’s actions. ‍♀️

NTA. SAHPs dream of such easy tasks. Lazy partners smh

Beware of unqualified “professionals”! NTA for being cautious.

NTA: Take a stand and let him handle his own chores!

A battle of incompetence: Mother vs. Trash Can and Cat Box!

“NTA. Laminated chore chart + phone reminders = functional adulting! “

SAHP asks for 10 mins help daily, NTA.

Let the trash pile up and embarrass him in front of guests!

NTA for expecting your husband to help with household tasks

NTA. Outdated counsellors, reasonable expectations, and a forgetful husband.

NTA. Stand up for yourself and demand fairness in chores!

NTA, but it’s time for a new plan Delegate tasks to older kids ️

NTA, you’re not a parent to Eli, just his partner.

Overwhelmed mom battles messy husband and household chores.

Work-life balance: Trash and cat duty vs. 40-hour work week

Not the a**hole. No explanation needed.

Counselor’s ADHD theory debunked by frustrated commenter.

Quick and easy tasks, NTA for not being unreasonable!

Gender roles and chores: Is it fair for husbands to prioritize video games?

NTA: Battle of the Incompetent Therapists

Therapists underestimate the challenges of being a parent and homemaker.

NTA. Therapists gave bad advice. You’re not his mother.

Unconventional advice on chores and marriage sparks hilarious backlash

“Sequencing disorder may explain why husband leaves tasks unfinished. “

Husband’s laughter at absurd situation sparks NTA judgment.

Supporting an autistic child while dealing with an incompetent husband.

NTA. You’re juggling everything and he needs to step up.

Supermom vs. the World: She’s NTA and Here’s Why

Fair request for husband’s help with chores, not controlling.

Living the dream: Taking out trash and cleaning cat litter! ️

NTA, you’re a**hole-proof and deserve a medal for patience!

Managing chores with reminders and distractions, and criticizing unqualified counselors.

NTA, but communication and reminders can help with clutter control!

NTA – A battle between a mother, trash can, and cat box

NTA. Quick tasks, no big deal. What’s your counselor’s take?

NTA. Husband needs to acknowledge his struggles and find solutions. ‍ ‍

NTA. Try paper or pine pellet litter for a cleaner experience!

Parenting win: Defeating the trash can and cat box!

NTA finds life easier with enclosed cat litter box or litter robot!

Join r/ADHD for advice! NTA, find someone else

NTA, suggest setting an alarm for daily chores. ️

NTA’s routine suggestion for trash and kitty litter maintenance.

Seek professional therapy, not conservative religious counseling. You’re NTA.

ADHD struggles: Husband’s chores must be done before gaming

NTA. Establish a routine and avoid nagging for a happy marriage.

Doubting the professionals? This NTA comment has some sass

NTA. Stay-at-home mom needs help with remote learning and disabilities.

NTA but understanding the struggle. Finding peace in imperfection.

ADHD and chores: a whiteboard reminder might solve the problem

NTA. Husband needs to help. Consider automating the litter box.

One trash can, daily emptying. A forgetful mom’s secret weapon.

Resentment and terrible advice from therapists. NTA, you’re trapped.

Insurance companies listing unqualified professionals? Not the a**hole (NTA)!