Imagine being in the midst of processing a personal tragedy, only to find yourself consoling someone else who’s weeping over your misfortune. This is the heart-wrenching situation our protagonist, let’s call her ‘Quiet Owl’, found herself in after a miscarriage. Her mother, who we’ll refer to as ‘Anxious Hen’, took the news hard, but not in the way you’d expect.
The Unfortunate News
Anxious Hen’s Overbearing Concern
Breaking the News to Anxious Hen
An Unexpected Reaction
Setting Boundaries
The Hang Up
The Personality Clash
Family Support
The Big Question ❓
The Aftermath ️
A Tale of Grief, Boundaries, and a Mother’s Meltdown
In a turn of events that’s both shocking and heartrending, Quiet Owl finds herself in the eye of a storm after her miscarriage. Instead of being the one comforted, she’s left comforting her distraught mother, Anxious Hen, who accuses her of being cruel and ignoring her feelings. Amidst the emotional chaos, Quiet Owl stands her ground, setting boundaries, and asserting her need for space and time to process her own grief. The internet’s take on this situation? Let’s dive in!
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NTA. Mother’s narcissism overshadows daughter’s miscarriage, commenters share similar experiences
NTA. Use the ring theory of grief to set boundaries
NTA. Mom’s grief shouldn’t be dumped on OP.
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Pregnant and keeping it a secret: solidarity and self-protection
Set boundaries with your mother for a healthier future.
Mom needs to find support elsewhere. NTA.
NTA. Lesson learned: Keep mom in the dark until second trimester.
NTA – Mother’s grief support should be secondary. Take care
Empathy and understanding for a heartbreaking loss.
Insensitive mother crosses boundaries, OP prioritizes self-care.
NTA. Boundaries crossed. Share if you want, she should understand.
NTA! Your mother is crossing boundaries and needs perspective
Mother’s drama overshadows daughter’s pain. NTA for setting boundaries.
NTA: Empathy for OP’s loss, no need to warn mother.
NTA. Your mother’s narcissism is making your trauma about her
NTA. Your mother’s behavior is crossing boundaries and lacking empathy.
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Mom making miscarriage about her, lacks empathy or self-awareness
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“NTA. Your mom needs to learn boundaries “
Express yourself freely during this tough time. You’re not TA
Mother’s lack of compassion after miscarriage sparks sympathy for commenter
NTA. Mom made your trauma about her. Boundaries crossed
NTA. Sorry for your loss. Set boundaries to improve your life
Mother’s self-centeredness after miscarriage leads to boundary issues. NTA.
NTA. Emotional manipulation and boundary crossing during a miscarriage
Set boundaries with your nosy mother to protect your privacy
Mom’s insensitivity after miscarriage sparks outrage.
