Meet our 49-year-old protagonist, a loving mom and soon-to-be grandmother, who finds herself in a peculiar situation. Her 21-year-old son and his pregnant girlfriend presented her with a list of ‘dos and don’ts’ for interacting with their future child. But this wasn’t your average ‘please don’t feed them candy’ list – it included some peculiar demands, like no tickling or cartoons! Feeling insulted and condescending, our feisty mom decided to play the game and hit back with her own list – a list of requirements for the financial support she’s been providing. Let’s dive into this captivating tale of family drama and see how it unfolds…
The Unexpected List
The Unusual Demands
Mother’s Outrage
The Fear of Losing Her Grandchild
The Counter-List
The Fallout
The Confrontation
The Aftermath
A Battle of Lists: Who’s Right, Who’s Wrong? ♀️
In an unexpected twist of events, our mom found herself in a battle of lists with her son and his girlfriend. The couple’s list of ‘dos and don’ts’ for interacting with their future child left her feeling insulted and condescending. In response, she presented her own list of requirements for the financial support she’s been providing. The fallout? The couple was upset, trust was broken, and the future relationship with her grandchild hangs in the balance. Now, she’s left wondering if she overreacted. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA’s epic clapback to entitled couple sparks support and humor
NAH and ESH: Boundaries and communication are key for harmony
A cautious parent wonders if the list is fair for all.
NTA. You set boundaries with your money, they disrespected you.
YTA for retaliating instead of having a mature conversation. ♂️
ESH: Calm down and talk it out for a positive relationship
Discussing boundaries or slapping with new stipulations? Communication is key!
Engaging with empathy: YTA retaliates instead of communicating.
Parents don’t trust you with a baby but rely on you?
NTA: Set boundaries and let them pay their own bills!
INFO: A healthy relationship doesn’t need a list of demands
YTA for making a petty money list with unreasonable rules
Curious about the hidden reasons behind their lengthy list…
NTA: Mom sets boundaries with thinly veiled threat.
ESH. Stop the t*t-for-tat bickering and have a mature conversation
T*t-for-tat drama between grandparents and parents escalates!
YTA: Overreacting to parenting rules, damaging relationship with your kids.
Questioning the decision to have babies without financial stability.
ESH but you’re more TA. Have a conversation like adults
NTA. Don’t bite the hand that feeds, but they started it.
Setting boundaries with grandparents without being controlling
NTA. Hold off on financial support until they apologize.
ESH. Escalated situation. Reflect and defuse. Seek understanding and compromise.
“YTA. First-time parents are overprotective. Get over it. Keep their list though because that list will be hilarious in 10, 15 years.”
“YTA. They set boundaries, not an attack on you. ♂️”
Confusion and disappointment over MIL and DIL dynamics.
ESH. Emotional fallout and generational divide escalates.
Engaging comment seeks clarity on the OP’s motivations and satisfaction.
Mom’s frustration with DIL’s baby list and son’s involvement. ♀️
Commenter sympathizes with new parents but criticizes OP’s response. YTA
Both parties need to chill out and deescalate.
NTA. Petty but justified. Stop enabling and let them learn.
Engaging comment and replies about setting boundaries and miscommunication.
Torn between YTA and ESH, but leaning YTA. Understand first-time parents’ anxiety
“YTA. She gave you a list out of care and worry for their new baby. You gave her a list out of spite. There’s nothing mature about how you reacted. You don’t know her as well as your son does. She might have overbearing parents, or a complicated relationship with grandparents. The way she went about this could have had nothing to do with you.” – A clash of perspectives
YTA: Vague examples and controlling requirements? Apologize and open dialogue!
Boundaries vs control: A battle of expectations and manipulation.
Entitled grandma’s petty games for control spark justified backlash.
ESH: DIL’s list was hurtful, but retaliating was childish. Discussing feelings could have resolved it.
ESH: A t*t-for-tat game escalates, risking grandchild relationship. ♀️
YTA! Controlling behavior sparks t*t-for-tat money list drama!
INFO: Did you discuss her rules or just assume and retaliate?
YTA- You went thermonuclear! Your reaction tells the real story.
NTA: Son needs a reality check, stop enabling him.
YTA: Overbearing financial controls on first-time parents, jeopardizing relationships.
Confused about budget stipulations, but leaning towards NAH.
OP’s list seems reasonable, but DIL is just covering her bases ♀️
Gramma’s money list sparks tension and trust issues.
YTA for getting mad at a first-time mom’s boundaries!
T*t-for-tat: Fair demands after condescending relationship codification.
Passive-aggressive parenting: YTA for not communicating like adults.
“Don’t tie money to rules for the baby. That’s manipulative.”
Conditional love and unnecessary rules? ESH in this baby drama!
INFO: Were these rules only for you and your husband?
Avoid baby talk, but use easy words and fun tones
Commenter calls out everyone on Reddit for being crappy ♂️
NTA, but let’s have a calm discussion about it.
Last Updated on January 10, 2024 by Diply Social Team