Mom Tells PhD Daughter to ‘Get Over Herself’

A 50-year-old mother was excited to hear that her 26-year-old daughter, who’s pursuing a PhD, might travel to Germany for a research trip. The mom, being half German, saw this as a perfect opportunity for a girls’ trip and bonding experience. However, the daughter had different plans, stating that she’d be too busy teaching, researching, and networking to spend time with her mom. This led to a heated exchange, with the mom telling her daughter to ‘get over herself.’ ‍♀️

Husband’s Suggestion

PhD Daughter’s Plans

Germany Trip Opportunity

Mom’s Excitement

Daughter’s Response

Mom’s Compromise ‍♀️

“Cramped” Time in Europe ⏰

Mom’s Offer to Meet Academics

Feeling Tossed Aside

Mom’s Frustration

Daughter’s Reaction

Husband’s Disapproval

Mom vs. Daughter: Germany Trip Showdown

The mother was excited about the prospect of a girls’ trip to Germany with her PhD daughter, but the daughter insisted she’d be too busy networking and researching. The mom felt tossed aside and not good enough to be a part of her daughter’s academic life, leading to a heated exchange. Now, both the husband and daughter are upset with the mom, leaving her questioning if she’s in the wrong. Let’s see what the internet has to say about this family drama…

Mom tries to invite herself on PhD daughter’s work trip YTA

Daughter’s work trip to Germany, not a vacation. YTA, Mam

OP’s insistence on going on work trips with daughter is unprofessional

Mom dismisses daughter’s work trip, called out for insecurity. YTA

Mom wants to go on daughter’s work trip, YTA according to commenters

PhD trips are intense work, not pleasure trips. YTA needs to apologize.

PhD student explains why mom is YTA for wanting to tag along

Daughter wants work trip without mom, called YTA.

Commenter calls out someone for being TA on work trip

Commenter calls out emotional blackmail and defends PhD daughter

Commenter calls out overbearing mom, reply questions parents’ intentions

Commenter defends PhD daughter’s career choices.

Commenter calls out YTA for prioritizing parent over work

Commenter calls out ‘YTA’ for criticizing PhD daughter at work

Mom insults daughter’s career aspirations. Commenters call her out.

A commenter calls out the mother for being insufferable. YTA.

User calls out entitlement of mother and offers advice.

Commenter calls out OP for expecting PhD daughter to entertain her on work trip. YTA.

Commenter calls out elitism in travel, suggests reframing as work trips

Mom wants to tag along on daughter’s work trip. Commenters say YTA.

Commenter calls out entitled behavior in vacation situation

A comment calling out the mother for being selfish.

Letting go is hard, but necessary for your child’s independence

Commenter calls out YTA for overstepping boundaries

Mom wants to join daughter’s work trip, gets called out. YTA

Mom wants to join PhD daughter on research trip. Commenters say YTA.

Mom wants to tag along to daughter’s work trip? YTA.

Respect boundaries and plan your own trip

Commenter calls out entitled mother wanting to join daughter’s work trip

PhD holder calls out judgmental parent for embarrassing behavior

Daughter’s work trip is not a vacation. YTA.

Commenter defends PhD daughter against petty mother.

Suggests alternative to PhD daughter joining work trip

Commenter calls out mom for empty nest syndrome.

Lonely PhD daughter gets roasted by mom.

PhD daughter’s research trip is not a vacation, YTA.

Commenter calls out mom for inappropriate behavior during daughter’s work trip

Daughter’s boundaries ignored by entitled mom. YTA needs hint.

Daughter’s career > Mom’s vacation. YTA, stop guilt-tripping her

Grant or not, calling someone YTA is harsh

Mom thinks daughter’s work trip is a vacation , daughter’s friend confirms workload

Mom criticized for making daughter’s achievements about herself

Mom’s not coming to networking events. YTA needs to chill

A mother’s entitlement to her PhD daughter’s time is rebuked.

Commenter calls out mom’s entitlement in work vs vacation mentality

Commenter called out for butting in on daughter’s life

Daughter silenced by mom’s lack of boundaries. YTA

Commenter thinks parent tagging along on work trips is inappropriate.

Mom criticized for prioritizing her desires over daughter’s career

Commenter calls out OP for piggybacking on work trip

Empathetic comment encourages mother to apologize to daughter and enjoy life

Commenter calls out rude mother for insulting her PhD daughter

Boundary-setting advice for overbearing mother from empathetic commenter

Mom’s entitlement to daughter’s work trips slammed by commenter.

Let her do her thing, she’s 26 not 6

Mom steals daughter’s opportunity, commenters call her selfish YTA ‍♀️

Commenter receives YTA judgment for PhD vacation comment

Sassy response to insensitive comment about family vacations

Overbearing mom ruins daughter’s trips. YTA gets called out.

Parents should respect their adult children’s work ethic. YTA

Commenter calls out entitled behavior on a trip

Commenter calls out OP for being TA on work trip

Commenter calls out selfish behavior in work trip dispute

Commenter calls out selfish behavior in work trip situation

Academic burn YTA can’t come to work with her.

Daughter’s work trip doesn’t include mom. YTA for demanding attention

Commenter calls out mom for living through her daughter’s choices

Let her live! YTA mom needs to back off.