Imagine planning your life around your career and motherhood, only for your partner to suddenly change the rules of the game. This new mom is facing a dilemma as her husband, Jeff, takes on an 80-hour workweek to support their family, expecting her to quit her job and become a full-time parent. But she’s not ready to give up her career and dreams. Let’s dive into their story.
The Original Plan

Baby Arrives, Plans Change

Jeff’s Solution: A New Job

The Truth: 80-Hour Workweeks

Jeff’s Sacrifice

The Ultimatum ⚖️

Family Pressure ️

Mom’s Original Plan

Relationship Struggles

Family’s Expectations

Her Support System

Standing Her Ground

Career vs. Parenthood: Who’s Right?
This new mom is caught in a whirlwind of emotions and expectations, as her husband takes on an 80-hour workweek to support their family, expecting her to quit her job and become a full-time parent. But she’s not ready to give up her career and dreams. With family members taking sides and pressure mounting, she stands her ground, fearing the precedent it could set in their marriage. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Don’t let him guilt you into being a SAHM. #NTA

Red flags raised as husband pressures wife to quit job

Stand your ground! Communicate with your husband about his health

Wife not obligated to save husband from his own assumptions
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Husband disregarded her wishes, now guilt-trips her for his misery

Mom refuses to quit job despite husband’s demands. NTA

Fighting for her career while husband ignores her wishes

Husband’s manipulative behavior forces wife into unwanted SAHM role

Mom’s decision to continue her career is supported.

Mom’s husband ignored her plan to return to work. She’s NTA.

Stand your ground and don’t let him blame you ♀️

Don’t let him control your career #NTA

Don’t give in to emotional blackmail. Keep your job

Working mom encourages new mom to not let husband control her choices

Supportive comment: Partner’s depression doesn’t justify sacrificing career
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NTA commenter provides detailed analysis and advice to frustrated mom
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Don’t let him manipulate you into giving up your career! #NTA

Don’t give in to his self-destructive behavior . Stay strong

Mom wants to go back to work despite husband’s long hours. NTA.

Encouragement to hold firm in career and prioritize family.

Husband’s selfishness is ruining the marriage

Don’t cave in to their whispering campaign, you’re NTA!

Husband’s workaholism forces mom to fight for her career. NTA.

Supportive comment encourages standing up to sexist in-laws
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Reevaluate your relationship with Jeff. Don’t be dependent on him
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Stand your ground! Don’t let others speak for you.

Mom stands up for her career and sets boundaries with controlling husband.

Financial independence is crucial in a partnership. Stand your ground!

Standing up to a manipulative spouse. You go, girl!

Stay-at-home mom’s contribution questioned, suggests other ways to contribute

Supportive comment questions husband’s priorities in a troubled marriage

Supportive comment encourages mom to prioritize career and questions husband’s actions.

Don’t sacrifice your career for his 80-hour work week . NTA x 1 million

Fight for your career and don’t let him control you . Financial abuse is not okay

Don’t quit your career! Have a heart-to-heart with your husband and address his concerns

Don’t quit, stick to your guns. He’s the one who made a mistake.

Supportive comment encourages holding ground on career despite husband’s job.

Husband’s career decisions strain family, wife not the a**hole.

Spouse’s 80-hour work week and assumptions of SAHM are crazy

Spontaneous decision, toxic family, NTA stands up for herself
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Husband ignored wife’s career goals, NTA for standing up.

Support for working mother despite husband’s long hours.

Marriage is a partnership, have a talk with your husband . Don’t let manipulative comments stop you

Concerned commenter flags potential abuse in the relationship

Don’t let in-laws decide your career. You’re NTA

Stand up for your career and happiness! NTA

Mom stands up for herself against sexist husband’s work schedule.

Supportive comment calls out husband’s sexist behavior and offers advice.

Maximizing income vs. work-life balance, a delicate balance

Husband neglects parenting, causing rift. Hope for resolution

Stand your ground! Don’t let him bully you into quitting

Husband’s family is the real problem here . Couples therapy recommended.

Supportive comment encourages counseling for couple’s work-life balance.

Don’t sacrifice your happiness for his ego. NTA

Don’t let him padlock you in. NTA.

Husband’s manipulation and archaic views – NTA for standing up

Don’t sacrifice your career for societal expectations. NTA

Husband’s family wants wife to quit job; she won’t. NTA.

Don’t fall for the facade, stand your ground! NTA
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User expresses concern over husband’s manipulative behavior and gender roles.

Stand firm on your decision to pursue your career goals!

Don’t sacrifice your autonomy and career for an unpredictable man

Husband’s lack of trust in wife’s career goals is unacceptable

Mom stands up to guilt-tripping husband, internet cheers her on

NTA. Husband’s 80-hour work week sacrifices family time for SAHM dream

Empowering response to unfair gender roles and family pressure.

Supportive comment section: NTA, husband deserves karma
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Husband’s 80-hour work week: Commenter calls it a ‘dick move’

Supportive comment section encourages mom to prioritize her career

Don’t quit your job! Your husband should listen to you

Take control of your career and don’t let others decide.

Don’t let anyone guilt you into giving up your career

Don’t quit your career without talking to your partner first!

Don’t set yourself on fire to keep him warm . He chose to believe others over you

Partner’s workaholism raises red flags, NTA for pursuing career goals

Supportive comment encourages teamwork despite husband’s long work hours

Defending against baseless accusations, NTA comment sparks agreement.

Supportive comment validates OP’s feelings and questions husband’s motives

Secure your job, save money, and prepare for his burnout. #NTA

Husband lied about new job, NTA for wanting to work

Husband’s 80-hour work week causing problems, NTA for working.

Supportive comment encourages woman to leave toxic husband

Don’t let anyone control your financial independence

Woman receives support for pursuing career despite husband’s objections

Husband manipulates wife into quitting job with double workload
