A 31-year-old mother is considering cutting ties with her parents after they made derogatory comments about her 5-month-old daughter’s weight. The mom has a history of struggling with an eating disorder, which she attributes to her parents’ constant emphasis on appearance and weight during her childhood. Now, she’s faced with the decision to protect her daughter from the same toxic environment, but she’s struggling with feelings of guilt and fear. Let’s dive into her story.
The Toxic Childhood

Anorexia and Denial

Parents’ Refusal to Acknowledge

Pregnancy and Weight Concerns

Family History of Eating Disorders

The Zoom Call Incident

Grandpa’s Fat-Shaming Comment

Protecting Her Daughter

Fear of Cutting Ties

Past Abuse

Therapy and Realization

Husband’s Support

Guilt and Fear

Protecting Her Daughter Comes First

Guilt Over Depriving Relationship

Toxic Parents or Second Chance?
This mother is torn between protecting her daughter from her toxic parents and feeling guilty for potentially depriving them of a relationship with their grandchild. With a history of emotional abuse and fat-shaming, she knows the damage her parents can cause. But can she find the courage to cut ties and shield her daughter from the same pain she endured? Let’s see what people think about this difficult situation…
NTA. Cut off abusive parents for your child’s and your own well-being.

Breaking free from toxic parents and teaching child to do same

Break ties with abusive parents for your and your child’s safety

NTA. Baby fat is healthy and your parents are a**holes

Protecting your child from abuse is more important than family ties

NTA. Don’t feel guilty for cutting ties with body-shaming grandparents.

Commenters agree that while chubby babies are adorable, fat-shaming is not.

Protecting baby from negativity, NTA for cutting ties

Mom stands up to fat-shaming of 5-month-old baby. #NTA

Protecting your child from abuse is always the right decision

Empathetic comment supports cutting off toxic parents.

Parent defends baby, seeks therapy to cope with guilt.
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Commenter supports OP cutting ties with fat-shaming grandparents

Redditor recommends support subreddit for dealing with narcissistic parents

Breastfeeding mom receives support after baby fat-shamed.

Protecting your child from abusive grandparents, legally and emotionally. NTA
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NTA’s advice on cutting off toxic grandparents for fat-shaming.

Cut ties with toxic grandparents. NTA.

Cutting ties with fat-shaming grandparents for daughter’s safety. NTA
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Protecting your baby comes first, cutting ties might be necessary

Trust your husband’s instincts and protect yourself and your baby

Protecting your child from toxic family members is important

Protecting your child from fat-shaming grandparents. NTA

Supportive comment recommends cutting off abusive parents.

Cutting ties with fat-shaming parents: NTA and seeking support

Prioritizing daughter’s well-being over parents’ toxic behavior. Seek therapy.

Encouraging comment supports cutting ties with toxic grandparents ❤️
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Cutting ties with toxic family

User asks about BLM, receives controversial reply.

Supportive comment with cute baby emoji and NTA acronym.

Cutting ties with abusive parents, seeking therapy for childhood trauma.

Encouraging support for cutting off toxic parents with therapist recommendation

Protect your family, cut out the toxicity

Protecting yourself and family from fat-shaming grandparents. NTA

Setting boundaries with abusive parents is key. NTA

Protecting your daughter is more important than pleasing abusive parents

Defending baby fat and calling out awful fat-shaming grandparents.

Cutting ties with parents over baby fat-shaming. NTA wins.

Supportive comment recommends therapy for mom dealing with fat-shaming.

Terminate abusive relationship with parents for your daughter’s sake ❤️

Supportive comment applauds mom for protecting daughter from fat-shaming grandparents
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Cutting ties with abusive parents for baby’s sake. NTA

Cutting ties with controlling parents who fat-shamed baby

Cutting ties with fat-shaming parents, NTA and therapy recommended

Cutting off abusive parents: NTA. Never TA ever.

Supportive comment suggests seeking help for possible trauma.

Commenter shares similar experience with fat-phobic grandparent, advises cutting ties.

Protect yourself and your baby from fat-shaming grandparents

Cutting off toxic family members can improve quality of life

Commenter supports cutting ties with fat-shaming grandparents. NTA

NTA, cut that s**t!

Cutting ties with toxic family members is hard but necessary

Cut off toxic grandparents for baby’s safety. NTA

Cutting ties with fat-shaming grandparents for daughter’s sake. NTA

Protecting your child from abuse is the right thing. NTA

Encouraging support for mom protecting her baby from fat-shaming grandparents

Standing up to toxic family, NTA wins support
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Protecting your child from fat-shaming grandparents, NTA wins!

Supportive comment encourages therapy and cutting ties with abusive parents ❤️

Supportive reply encourages OP to cut ties with fat-shaming grandparents

Standing up to abusive parents, NTA for protecting child

NTA comment receives support for standing against baby fat-shaming

Cutting ties with fat-shaming grandparents: NTA and move on.

Protect your squish from toxic fat-shaming grandparents. NTA

NTA commenter supports cutting ties with fat-shaming grandparents
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Encouraging support for cutting off abusive parents.

Supportive comment suggests therapy for cutting out fat-shaming parents.

Analogizing the guilt of maintaining a toxic relationship with ketchup.

Supportive comment calls out toxic behavior of grandparents. ❤️
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Supportive comment calls out fat-shaming and encourages cutting ties

Empathetic comment supports mom’s decision to cut ties with fat-shaming parents

Last Updated on June 11, 2023 by Diply Social Team