Mom Clashes with Fiancé Over 11-Year-Old’s Weightlifting Ambitions

There’s nothing like a good old-fashioned family disagreement to get the internet buzzing! In this case, a 27-year-old mom and her 29-year-old fiancé are at odds over whether her 11-year-old son should be allowed to lift weights. The boy, who isn’t very active and has been called puny by his classmates, wants to start using small 2lb dumbbells to build his strength and self-esteem. But the fiancé, who’s been a father figure to the boy for nearly five years, thinks there’s no reason for an 11-year-old to be lifting weights. So, who’s right? Let’s dive into their story.

A Family Divided

Mom’s Fiancé: A Father Figure

Different Parenting Styles ‍♀️

The Weightlifting Debate Begins ️‍♂️

The Reason Behind the Desire

Mom Gives the Green Light ✅

Fiancé Puts His Foot Down ❌

Mom Fights Back

Fiancé’s Defense ️

Mom’s Final Word ️

The Aftermath ️

The Great Weightlifting Debate: Who’s Right?

It’s a classic case of differing parenting styles, with Mom and her fiancé unable to agree on whether her 11-year-old son should be allowed to lift weights. The boy wants to build his strength and self-esteem after being called puny by his classmates, but the fiancé thinks there’s no reason for someone so young to be lifting weights. Mom, however, believes it’s not his choice to make and that the small weights will help her son feel better about himself. So, who’s in the right here? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

NTA mom wants son to lift weights, but fiancé is evasive about reasons

Lifting small weights is fine for kids, and can build self-esteem

Fiancé opposes 11-year-old’s weightlifting ambition with no reason given

NTA mom seeks boundaries with overstepping fiancé in son’s life

NTA defends child’s weightlifting, faces backlash.

Lifting weights at 11 vs football at 6, NTA wins

Commenter calls out mom’s fiancé for bullying son

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Commenter warns against bullying stepchildren, OP defends decision-making desire.

Encouraging comment on weightlifting for all ages

Mom’s fiancé is controlling and an AH. NTA for supporting son’s ambitions

Weightlifting can boost self-esteem, compromise and get a coach.

Encouraging advice on weightlifting for an 11-year-old.

Weightlifting is great exercise, but partner is focused on aesthetics

Setting boundaries with your fiancé: NTA comment offers advice

Fiancé’s control issues over child’s weightlifting ambitions, YTA warning ⚠️

Supportive commenters question fiancé’s reasons for opposing child’s workout.

Parenting is about modeling healthy relationships and communication, not autocracy.

Encouraging support for son’s weightlifting, confusion over fiancé’s objections

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Encouraging support for lifting weights at a young age

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Mom receives support for letting her child weightlift despite fiancé’s objections

Commenter questions weightlifting ambition with humorous observation

Encouraging response to weightlifting ambitions with safety tips

Bonding time over exercise. NTA for encouraging son’s passion.

Curious about the fiancé’s ‘legitimate reasons’ for weightlifting opposition

NTA stands firm on son’s weightlifting, advises caution

Communication issues and power struggle between mom and fiancé.
NAH.

Engaged mom seeks clarity on fiancé’s role in parenting

Fiancé overstepping boundaries in son’s life. Relationship red flag

Encouraging comment about weightlifting with helpful tips

Encouraging comment suggests alternative exercises and Arnold Schwarzeneggar’s workout

Encouraging gym employee supports child’s fitness, shuts down concerns

Encouraging weightlifting for the right reasons

Weightlifting safe for kids, fiancé on power trip

Mom defends son’s weightlifting ambitions, calls out fiancé’s projection.

Empowering response to weightlifting conflict. You go, NTA!

Encouraging an 11-year-old to weightlift? NTA says it’s safe

Encouraging comment supporting weightlifting for kids with NTA judgement

Step dad misses teaching moment, commenter says NTA

Supportive comment defends 11-year-old’s weightlifting ambitions.

Stepmom offers advice on boundaries and respecting the mother’s voice

Biological parent’s decision is final. Fiancé’s input is secondary.

Commenter warns against marrying fiancé over son’s weightlifting ambitions.

Father figure overstepped but lifting small weights at 11 is harmless

Encouraging support for child weightlifting with practical advice

Encouraging support for 11-year-old’s weightlifting ambition

Encouraging son’s self-care is right. Fiancé needs to respect that.

Myth busted! Lifting small dumbbells won’t stunt growth. Encouraging activity

Encouraging exercise for kids is NTA, boyfriend overreacted

Fiancé and mom clash over son’s weightlifting. ESH for poor communication.

Middle schoolers lift weights, fiance is wrong. Let him exercise.

Encouraging comment promotes safe exercise for kids.

Encouraging fitness in children is important. Let him explore.

Supportive comment defends child’s self-esteem over BF’s objections

Encouraging alternative exercises for son’s strength development

Encouraging reply to parent worried about child’s weightlifting ambitions

Encouraging support for child’s interest in weightlifting, fiancé criticized

Encouraging lifting at a young age? NTA has advice