Living with adult children can be a delicate balancing act, especially when it comes to expectations and boundaries. One mom found herself in a tricky situation when her 25-year-old son, Jack, and his 24-year-old girlfriend, Becky, moved in with her and her husband. The couple was expected to pay a small amount of rent and help with chores, but things took a turn when they started to push back against these expectations. Let’s dive into this family drama and see if the mom’s requests were reasonable or if she crossed a line.
The Living Arrangement
The Rent and Chores
Rude Responses
No Pot in the House
Co-signing a Car Loan
Skipping Work and Worries
Ignoring Mom’s Concerns
No Response
Update: A Talk with Jack ️
Surprising Response
Car Payment Warning ⚠️
Pot in the House
Going Outside to Smoke
Waiting Game ⏳
A Change in Behavior
A Mother’s Dilemma: Fair Expectations or Crossing Boundaries?
This mom found herself in a tough spot when her adult son and his girlfriend moved in, but refused to contribute as expected. After rude responses and ignoring her concerns, she and her husband had a talk with their son, giving him an ultimatum to change or move out by April 1st. Surprisingly, he agreed and apologized, promising to find their own space. With a warning about car payments and pot in the house, they now wait to see if their son will follow through. Has this mom been fair or crossed a line? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this situation…
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