Imagine being in a terrible car accident that leaves you with severe short-term memory loss. Now, imagine trying to navigate life with this newfound challenge, and dealing with family members who just don’t seem to understand. That’s the story of one individual who recently found themselves in a heated confrontation at a family barbecue over a cousin’s name change.
The Unforgettable Accident

Memory Struggles

Cousin’s Name Change

Trying to Remember

BBQ Drama

Angry Cousin

Emotional Outburst

Family Sides with Memory Loss Victim

Harassment Continues

Efforts to Remember

Memory Loss Struggles

Sister’s Haircut Confusion ♀️

Cousin’s Name Change Reason ♀️

Trans Friend’s Understanding

Memory Loss vs. Name Change: Who’s the Real A**hole?
So, who’s really in the wrong here? Our memory-challenged protagonist, who can’t remember their cousin’s new name due to a traumatic brain injury, or the cousin who refuses to understand the struggle and lashes out in anger? The family sided with the memory loss victim, but the cousin and her friends continue to harass them. It’s a tricky situation, and emotions are running high. Let’s dive into the internet’s top responses to this family drama and see what people think…
NTA. Empathetic reply with a humorous twist

Validating the impact of brain injury on memory loss

Parent with brain injury struggles with pronouns, supported by trans child ❤️

NTA with memory issue deals with self-absorbed family member

NTAs analogy shuts down unrealistic expectations of memory-impaired person.

NTA defends blaming stroke for memory loss, receives support

Defending against memory loss accusations with NTA and empathy

Commenter shares personal experience and offers helpful advice

Disability stigma exposed: Lack of empathy towards brain damage survivors

Name tags to the rescue! NTA comment saves family BBQ

Don’t feel guilty for memory loss, name tags and cheat sheets help

No need to feel guilty! NTA comment wins

Forgive yourself for not remembering, be kind to yourself

Heartwarming comment about a personalized necklace

Brain injury leads to better communication skills. #NTA

Standing up against ableism after traumatic brain injury.

NTA. Commenter sympathizes with the victim and questions name change

Struggling with memory loss after head injury and name change

Standing up against bullies with savage photographic evidence

User with brain damage accidentally mixes up names, gets harassed. NTA.

Cousin’s immaturity causes family BBQ disaster for memory loss victim ♂️

Defending the validity of a brain damage ‘excuse’ against ableism

Name change to Chrysanthemum makes her TA

Overcoming Aphasia: Family support makes all the difference

Memory loss causes tension at family BBQ over cousin’s name ♀️

Compassionate reply defends person with brain injury from name-calling.

Changing name to avoid confusion, NTA comment section.

NTA asks about memory loss, receives explanation from commenter.
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Is your cousin a pseudo-psychopath?

NTA with a twist: Brain damage explained, not excused

Suggests a helpful solution for memory loss, criticizes unsympathetic family.
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NTA shuts down friend harassment with witty comment

Cousin changes name, expects everyone to remember it, attacks NTA

Brain injury causing memory issues, commenter says NTA

NTA with anterograde amnesia, but comment section debates 50 vs 51 dates

Commenter jokes about memory loss in tense family situation.

Using memory loss as an excuse: valid or overused?

Memory loss saves the day, NTA wins the BBQ

Not the a**hole, but what happened at the BBQ?

Cousin’s outburst at family BBQ deemed unjustified by commenter.

Graceful solution proposed for self-absorbed cousin. #NTA
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Defending brain damage as a reason, not an excuse

Compassion is key: Overcoming memory loss stigma
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Empathetic comment about memory loss due to medical condition.

Not the a**hole for having memory loss, cousin needs understanding.

Suggests medical diagnosis for memory loss, offers practical solution.

Clear conscience at the family BBQ
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No excuses here, just an unavoidable truth. NTA
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Supportive comment encourages legal action against harassing family member.

Traumatic brain injury blamed for ‘deadnaming’ cousin at BBQ

Medical condition causes memory loss, not an excuse for rudeness

Cousin lacks empathy for brain injury, friends unaware

Cousin forgets OP’s brain damage but blames them for forgetting name

Offering nametags is a great idea for avoiding awkward situations

Facing reality: NTA comment gets real about excuses

Supportive reply to memory loss comment

Struggling with faceblindness, commenter receives support and empathy.

Empathetic comment acknowledges struggle with memory loss after brain injury

Empathetic commenter supports OP and suggests calling out cousin’s entitlement

Overcoming disability: Brain injury not an excuse, but a reason!

Empathetic comment about short term memory loss and advocating for oneself.

Overcoming memory loss after brain injury, NTA shares experience

Reminder needed for cousin interactions. NTA.
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Empathetic response to a disturbing situation with appropriate emojis

Empathetic comment on memory loss due to brain injury.

Compassionate comment shuts down argument about memory loss

Defending against memory loss stigma. NTA, brain damage sucks.

Supportive comment defends against cousin’s ableist behavior.

Supportive reply to frustrated family member dealing with memory loss

Suggesting a flower necklace to combat ableism. ♀️

Cousin bullies memory-impaired relative over name, gets called out.

Memory loss and family drama – handling it with grace

Memory loss causes family feud at BBQ, commenter not at fault

Empathy needed for memory loss, not frustration.
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Clear judgement
