Imagine this: you’re 32, happily married, and planning your future. Life is looking up, but there’s a shadow looming over your plans. Your parents have been caring for your severely disabled brother, Drew, all his life. Now, as they age, they expect you to take over. But you have other plans. You want to start your own family, move to a new city, and live freely. What do you do?
Setting the Scene: A Family in Crisis
Drew’s Struggles: A Life Unlike Any Other
Growing Up in Drew’s Shadow
The Unspoken Expectation: A Burden to Bear?
A Future in the Balance: The Unwanted Responsibility ️
The Tipping Point: A Zoom Call to Remember
A Dream Deferred: Parents’ Plans vs. Personal Freedom
The Outburst: A Shocking Declaration
The Fallout: A Family Torn Apart
The Aftermath: A Wife’s Support, A Family’s Silence
A Family’s Dilemma: Love, Duty, and the Question of Responsibility
In a world where family is supposed to be our safe haven, what happens when duty becomes a burden too heavy to bear? This is the question at the heart of a family feud that has left everyone reeling. At the center is Drew, a severely disabled man, and his brother who is torn between his own dreams and the expectation of caring for Drew. The brother’s shocking declaration, that he plans to send Drew to a nursing home and never visit him again after their parents’ demise, has left the family in turmoil. His wife agrees with him, but his parents are devastated. As the dust settles, we’re left wondering: who’s right, who’s wrong, and what would we do in their shoes? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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YTA for insensitive comment. ESH for neglecting OP’s needs.
“Dude YTA, it’s quite clear. Of course you shouldn’t have to take care of your brother. But your ‘the day after you die’ comment to your own parents about your own brother was jawdroppingly cruel. You’re a major a**hole.” – Sparks heated debate. ESH or YTA?
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“YTA. Don’t abandon your disabled brother. That’s unnecessarily cruel. “
ESH. Brother deserves care, but parents shouldn’t assume OP’s responsibility.
NTA. Outburst from a lifetime of pressure to be caretaker
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OP is YTA for treating disabled brother worse than a dog
Not your responsibility. Family expectations can be unfair.
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“YTA. Dumping your disabled brother in a nursing home? Horrible! “
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NTA. Caring for mentally disabled family member is challenging
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NTA. Parents assumed you’d care for disabled brother forever
NTA for standing up to parents who disregarded your feelings
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Engaging caption: A delicate family dynamic, with hurt, neglect, and resentment
