Imagine being caught between the rock of filial responsibility and the hard place of planning for your own future. This is the predicament of a 31-year-old man who recently landed a job after changing careers and two years of schooling. His parents, nearing retirement age, have asked him for a monthly allowance, viewing it as his duty to provide for them. But with a wife who supported him through school, a mortgage, insurance, and dreams of starting a family, he’s torn between his obligations and his aspirations. ♂️
A New Job and a New Dilemma

A Filial Request

A History of Support

A Wife’s Sacrifice ❤️

The Current Financial Situation

A Family’s Sacrifice

The Ultimate Balancing Act: Family, Future, and Finances
This 31-year-old man is walking a tightrope of responsibilities and dreams. His parents, nearing retirement, have asked for a monthly allowance, but with a new job, a wife who supported him through school, and dreams of starting a family, he’s torn. With a salary of 70k CAD a year, he manages to save 800 a month after expenses. But is it enough to support his aging parents and plan for a family? His dilemma is further complicated by his family’s immigrant background, with his parents having made significant sacrifices for their children’s future. It’s a heart-wrenching predicament that has the internet buzzing with opinions. Let’s see what the world has to say…
Debate on financial support for parents sparks cultural differences

Putting your future first and setting boundaries with family
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NTA – Don’t burden your child with your parents’ financial choices

NTA. Struggling between filial duty and future planning, commenters debate.

Debate on repaying parents for raising you sparks emotional discussion

Balancing family and finances: finding common ground with empathy ❤️

NTA, communicate openly with family about finances

“NTA if you don’t give them an allowance.”

INFO: What does your wife say? Joint goals matter!

Struggling between supporting parents and starting own family
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Did the parents financially support the commenter’s education?

Navigating cultural expectations and generational responsibilities in Asia ️

Age and health of parents sparks compassionate discussion

Debate over allowance: How much is fair for filial duty?

NTA. Parents’ sacrifice for better opportunities sparks debate

Debate on filial duty: NTA, parents’ motives questioned

Struggling with filial duty and future planning? You’re not alone!

Cultural clash sparks heated debate ️

Cultural differences play a role in supporting parents financially
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Debate over filial duty: Do parents deserve financial support?

“Retirement isn’t an age. It’s financial independence.”

Balancing filial duty and future planning: NTA prioritizes financial stability

Parents aren’t entitled to your wealth. Invest in your future

Debate on allowance sparks tension over financial responsibilities

“NAH – Balancing cultural expectations and financial security . Consider discussing their retirement plans and needs .”

“NTA, parents should provide for you without expecting anything in return.”

Immigrant’s struggle: honoring parents vs. forging own path

Engaging debate on filial duty and financial responsibility towards parents
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NTA. Prioritizing family’s financial security before future planning

Balancing filial duty and personal aspirations sparks thoughtful discussion ✨

Balancing filial duty and financial responsibility ️

Property and downsizing: important factors for future planning

Cultural differences spark debate on parental allowance.

Debate over parental support and future planning sparks intense discussion

Engaging comment: NTA, explain your financial plan to help them

Navigating cultural expectations while balancing financial responsibilities

Navigating cultural expectations while planning for the future.

Balancing cultural duty and personal needs sparks respectful debate ✨

Prioritizing spouse and saving for emergencies

NTA. Your parents did what they were supposed to do

Debate sparks over filial duty and future planning. NAH either way.

NTA. Financial obligations to spouse outweigh parental sacrifices.

Debate over parents’ allowance sparks questions about financial situation.

Navigating filial duty and future planning with kindness and compromise

Secure your future before sharing

Debate on cultural expectations of adult kids supporting parents

NTA. Balancing family needs and personal responsibilities

NTA, prioritize your future and discuss with your wife

Navigating filial responsibility and financial constraints while planning for the future ️

Putting yourself first to support your retired parents

Debate on having kids for the right reasons

Focus on family and future. NTA, prioritize your loved ones!

Debate over finances and future planning sparks passionate discussion

NTA – You owe your parents, but prioritize your wife

Prioritizing wife’s happiness and family planning is important.

NTA: Balancing family and future sparks passionate debate

Choose between parents and future? NTA, but tread carefully.

“NTA. Parents had you because they wanted to. Help them out? Sure.”

Parents sacrifice for kids’ future without expecting repayment

Engaging suggestion to balance filial duty and future planning

Prioritize savings for yourself and spouse before helping family

NTA, but prioritize wife’s needs and financial stability

NTA refuses to give anything

NTA: Your parents chose to have you, not your responsibility.

Balancing filial duty and future planning without hurting yourself. NTA

Parent’s perspective on allowance sparks debate among commenters

Generational clash in cultural values creates tension and misunderstanding.
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Cultural clash between filial piety and personal freedom. NAH!
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Balancing filial duty and future planning: a heartfelt debate ️

Struggling with cultural expectations and financial feasibility. Goodluck!

Should he help his impoverished parents or prioritize his future?
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Generational respect and financial support: a cultural balancing act ️
